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My son, who is almost 6 years old, has been basically abandoned by his biological mother into a mental facility in Arkansas because she claims that "he is overly aggressive, bites himself,..." and a whole list of other things.  This admission into a facility strikes me as a major shift in her abilities as a custodial parent and her ability to deal with raising children.  She also has a infant daughter, newborn and age unknown, that she claims that my son struck her and this is why he is being admitted.

This is not the first go around that I have had with her concerning our son.  She keeps calling and claiming that I need to pick him up, but then she complains that I have my family (my fiance and I and our children) and he can't be anywhere around them.  She threw a huge conniption fit when she found out, through me being very forthcoming, that I took him to Missouri so we could go get his step brother from HIS father.  At no time was my child in danger, he has been well behaved (as well as a 5 year old could possibly be) and never aggressive to siblings or step siblings.

I'm trying to get emergency custody of him because of very alarming signs coming from his mother and her status.  My son is "borderline autistic", with diagnostic impressions of Hyperkinetic Disorder, Sensory Processing Disorder, and a few others. I have a 7 year old step son with my fiancee who has a list of confirmed disorders and I've never had an issue with anything, so I know what the signs are and how to deal with them. Along with these diagnoses, she went against the recommendations of the doctors and went ahead of her own free will and admitted him with "anger issues." I swore to myself that I would never allow this to happen to any of my children while they were and are in my care, but as soon as she got him back from me, she admitted him. She's even gone to the point of telling the clinical psychologist that "he doesn't ask about his father, father doesn't want son..." and various inconsistencies. She's never had a stable place to live since we left each other. 

The problem with this is the paper work that I have been willfully given to me by the mother is full of lies and rife with inaccuracies.  The burden of proof of these allegations, I know, lies with me but the history of her hiding the truth and concealing facts cannot be ignored just for the sake of making a better life for just one individual. 

The reason why I am asking for help is because it is my firm belief that she is abandoning him so she can live her life while collecting my sons SSI and child support from me, while I am powerless to do anything about it.

What can be done?  I'm fighting a losing battle because of all the lies and hiding of facts that she's done.  And she knows that I cannot afford a family lawyer because of the child support that I'm paying.  Yes, I work.... I work constantly to provide a safe environment for my family. I pay my bills, I don't move, I have a stable home.  These are the exact things that this child needs. He doesn't deserve to be discarded like a piece of trash because it's convenient. I just want to bring him home and show him that he's not going to be thrown away because things are difficult.  No child should ever feel like that.

Please help.... not just for me as the father, but for the one who feels helpless, the one who doesn't understand that this is not his fault.  He's done nothing wrong and most certainly done nothing to deserve something as cold and as callous as this.

I know that I am new to this forum, but to tell you the honest to goodness truth... I'm banging my head up against the proverbial wall.

One of my children's mothers (1 of 2) has decided to alienate our daughter, who is 13 years old by telling her that I will not ever get to talk to her because my child support is delinquent and I'm not sending enough.

The other one, who lives in the same state as I do, will not let me see my son (who is 5 years old) and demands that I tell her where I live, where I work, and other sensitive details and will not give any information in return.

I'm only working a part time job because it's the only thing that I can currently find and that's not for the fact of looking and applying.  I have the child support money taken from my check (I arranged it that way to make sure that it was taken care of before anything else happened), and yet to them it isn't enough.

My questions are this...
1.) Can a NCP be cut off from the child of a CP even if they are delinquent in their support order?
2.) What legal resources are available to the father of the child if are unable to pay the fees for filing court documents and orders?
3.) What is the best course of action available for a NCP to make sure that the CP doesn't leave the state, or have the child around immoral or dangerous situations outside of the NCP's home? (drugs, gangs, etc.)

I only ask this because, since I have had issues for the past 13 years concerning my daughter and her mother was the one who decided that she didn't want to face DHS in my area and left the area to move back in with her mother in another state. Another reason is that I have been looking around and I cannot find any agency that will  help because of my low-income status and the fact that both of my children are in the custody of their mothers. 

There are other mitigating factors associated with this, but at this time all I am looking for is either a point in the right direction or a direct answer.  I'm getting frustrated because I keep getting the proverbial carrot of communicating or seeing my kids dangled in front of me if I cooperate, only to have it completely destroyed when something completely out of my control happens and it hurts the kids more than it does me.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.