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I am asking what anyone's thoughts are on taking my ex back to court for more child support. A brief history.  

BM and I separated when son was 1 year old.  I gave her physical custody so long as I could have ample "visitation".  I was paying $175/wk for support.  Visitation turned out to be more than 60% on my part.  Shit hits the fan when she petitions to leave state.

 After a few years, tens of thousands of dollars, and a few years taken off my life, I win physical custody and she pays me $150/wk.  That was 9 years ago.  Son about to go to high school now(14 years old).

Should I take her to court for more money? Keep in mind, in my state we fall out of guidelines as our combined income exceeds guideline standards, so I am not guaranteed there will be an increase.

This one is just to see if you really do have to get the last word in.

  It has nothing to do with YOUR issue.  I never came here talking about the issue you speak of.  I barely even mentioned it.  You came here with "evidence".  Numbers, all it is is numbers.  Unless you poll everyone in the system and how it affects them, you will never know if it is working or not.  By working, I mean is it just or right, not if people are getting their child support.  You can never offer enough "evidence" that it is "working"...back to the figuring thing again.  

It has everything to do with whether I like what you write or not.  You are.....not so nice to people here.  You offer flawed arguments, stomp your feet up and down and proclaim, "I am right..see, I offered evidence".  Blah blah blah.  I am just exposing some of your weaknesses so that the other folks here get a break.  Nome sane?

Funny, I don't seem to claiming anything.  No claim...no data needed.  You missed the whole point.  You are in everyone's face about everything.  That is my point.  If you don't like what someone says, you come up with the .."give me facts" crap.  Which is why I offered my explanation of what an opinion is.  The data behind all of this?  I knew you'd ask.  Read your previous messages.  That is my data.  I bet more than a few would agree with me.  If we take a poll and 80% of respondents think that you are on rant after rant, does that make it true?  See what I mean about figures can lie and liars can figure?

Funny, I don't seem to claiming anything.  No claim...no data needed.  You missed the whole point.  You are in everyone's face about everything.  That is my point.  If you don't like what someone says, you come up with the .."give me facts" crap.  Which is why I offered my explanation of what an opinion is.  The data behind all of this?  I knew you'd ask.  Read your previous messages.  That is my data.  I bet more than a few would agree with me.  If we take a poll and 80% of respondents think that you are on rant after rant, does that make it true?  See what I mean about figures can lie and liars can figure?

  Most, if not all,  of the unverifiable rants I have seen thus far are coming from you.  But that's just my opinion.

 I never offered any opinions on the subject.  I don't know if the system is broke or it's not.  Funny thing about using figures, though.  Figures can lie, and liars can figure.  You can take any set of figures and manipulate them to support your argument.  Until you poll every person  you will never truly know what the actual percentage is of people that think the system is broken.    
And for some, the system is broken.  It is unfair to them.

>OK. So your point is that all the "the system is horribly
>broken and serves no useful purpose" opinions are completely
>unsubstantiated by fact.
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>That's exactly what I've been saying.


  I am saying opinions don't have to be substantiated by anything.  
Example, "I think George Bush is an idiot" does not have to be backed up by anything.  It is what I think.  You can spout until your blue in the face about facts how he is not, but I think otherwise.  Now, you can try to change my opinion by adding your opinion and what you think are relevant facts, but you can't change what I think because I own it,  it is my opinion.

>Thanks for 30 lines of unsubstantiated opinions.
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>As soon as you have evidence to establish that argument, feel
>free to present it.
>
 

You do not have to substantiate an opinion.  It is what someone thinks.  They own it.  It is never  right or wrong.  You can disagree with it all you want, but they certainly are entitled to it.  They own it.  

 
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>Yes, I do support taking any reasonable action to get one to
>pay. Taking their license should be a last resort. But if the
>court works out a reasonable payment plan and the person has a
>decent job but still refuses to pay, they should be penalized
>up to and including jail time and loss of driving privileges.
>Supporting one's children is, IMHO, the top priority.


I think the term IMHO gets used quite a bit when it should not.  You seem to be very vocal and forceful about your opinion.  That is not necessarily a bad thing.  But humble...I'm thinking no.