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Hi Soc,

My DH and I both work full-time and share the responsibilities are primary caretakers.  

I am debating about going pro-se because my DH has threatened to fight me tooth and nail.  He's angry of course.  

My questions:

1) we share primary caretaker role, so who will get custody of children
2) is a custody battle good to do pro-se...  have people been able to accomplish getting custody on their own when both parites are wanting primary custody?  If you tell me it's been done - I'll go for it and you'll then see me asking ALL kinds of questions... :)


Thanks again!
Lisa

Hi Soc,

I'm failing miserably in my 2nd marriage.  I have 2 sons from previous marraige, ages 18 & 16 and my DH has one daughter from previous age 16.

We have 2 children togher ages 5 & 3.

We argue constantly over my sons.  My DH has OCPD and it's making life miserable for all of us.

I want to file for divorce pro se and am wondering if he's going to fight for  custody of the girls, ages 5 & 3 if I can pull it off.  DH says he's going to declare war.  BTW, he's verbally abusive to me and my sons and I have him on tape recorder teaching my 3 year old her first words - MOMMY LOSER!

My question to you is:
1) What does it take to win a custody battle pro se.
2) Is is worth the risk?

Thanks in Advance!
Lisa