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I am keeping my kids 80 % of the time ( have for about a 18 months) and I am still paying child support (700.00 a month).  I buy there cloths, medical, food, and insurance and everything else that goes along with raising 2 tenage boys.  She run around in a BMW ( I guess I am paying for that, she is not supporting the kids with it).  

I am scheduled to see a lawyer on april 11th to get full custidy or joint custidy, what ever she advises me to do.  I have good ducumentation on the time the kids are with me and what time they are with there mother.  I am real nerves about all of this, I hope the courts will see my point of view.


Jeff  

I only have documantation from Nov. 2005 up till now, should that be enough? I am going to contact a lawyer this week about this issue.  It will be that same lawyer that my brother hired to get custody of his little girl.  I wonder if we do go to court if it will be in the same county as the divorce?  I still live here but she lives in the next county over.


Jeff

10738, "mom wants to move out of state"


           TN dad, I have two questiones: For about a year and a half I have been keeping my kids (13 and 14) most of the time, however; I have been also paying child support to my ex wife (she has custody). I know this may seem strange but it it all started when my ex wife decided to go to nursing school about a year and half ago. I was asked by her to keep the kids more often while she attended school, and I thought that is great, I get to spend more time with my kids. Please keep in mind I have no problem paying child support I have always finacial supported my kids. October 2005 she started working full time as a nurse. By now she might see the kids 1 or 2 days a week, usally sunday morning and wed. night for church. I started ducumenting how much time they spend with me and how much time they spend with there mother. I know TN laws recently changed that child support is based on both parents income and how much time they spend with each parent. My kids are spending most of there time with me now, I dont want to rock the boat with her, because I enjoy all the extra time with my kids. She could cut me off from them and go back to every other weekend if I try to re-adjust child support. Now she is thinking of moving out of state, her husband has a new job offer. What can I do to stop her from moving my kids out of the state of TN, it appears that she would be in violation of my visitation. The kids seem excided about moving, they are not thinking about what it will be like after the move has been made. There is no family or friends. Please advise

Jeff
 

Yeah it would be kinda nice to know.  I just finished a parenting class and found it rather interesting. I am in TN, and it appears that TN is  starting to recognize that kids are better off spending equal time with there biological parents.  It seams there is a trend starting to happen in TN.  I know several people that have just recently got costudy or joint costudy of there kids.   In the class they basiclly said in the past 2 years the tables were turning for the NCP.  Any CP should be flattered that the other parent wants to be apart of there childs life.  It means so much to the other parent and even more to the child.  The class was made up with about 1/2 men and 1/2 weman 20 people in all.  I did notice that the men opened up in the class and talked about some of there issues and the women kept there mouth shut.  There were hearing things in the class that they did not want to hear.  I for one was very excited when the class was over.  I would recomend anybody going through a divorce or modifing a decree for a change in costudy to take a parenting class.  It cost me 40.00 dollars and was only 4 hours and you get a certificate. This is a feather in your hat when it comes in front of a judge.

Jeff

I am going through a 50/50 costudy battle with my X wife right now.  She has custudy at this time but I have been keeping the kids more than 50% of the time for about 2 years now.  I have it documented on what days they are with me and what days with there Mom. I still pay her child support.  As quick as the petion for modification of costody was served on her she jerked the kids out from underneth me (June 28 2006).  I just wanted the continuation of the co-parenting, it seemed to work well for me and the kids (15 and 13 year old boys) The statistic for the state of TN on shared parenting would be nice to know.

Jeff    

Ex responded to my petition"


           I have petitioned my x for 50/50 custudy. I have been keeping my kids most of the time for about 2 years now, and have been paying over 700.00 dollars a month child supprt. Some of you my have seen my post back in the spring. Anyways I started keeping track of the time the kids are with me and the time they are with there mom. Nov. 28 2005 is when I started, here papers were served on her June the 28 2006. That is 211 days of documintation. My 13 year has spent (dad 132 day) (mom 62) and (Granny 17) my 15 year old (dad 120) (mom 60) (granny 31). I have compiled a pie chart to show the %, She has denied that I have been keeping the kids for this amout of time in her answer. She does not Know that I have this documintation. Her answer to my petition said they wanted proof of. Is this enough proof? How will the judge see this. I have been 100 % honest with my kids about this whole issue and have kept them up to speed of whats going on. They are shocked about there mother denieing that they have been staying with me most of the time, they pretty much called her a lier. I am getting worried this whole thing could back fire on me. Has anybody seen simular sitsuation like this?

Jeff
 

Thanks for your responses.  I have not yet went to medation yet, however my lawyer said it is most likely we would be going.  My kids told me that there mom told them I shoudnt have got a lawyer involved that I should have just simply came to her and talk to about this.  I do not think she would have been in agreement if I had done so.  I am a little concered that my lawyer has not contacted me, I have talked to her secertary several times but there no news on what to next.  She has been keeping the kids more since the petition was served on her, my lawyer expected that to happen.  My lawyer did say most of these sistuation usally get resolved out of court.  Thanks for all your advise.............Jeff
 

The Kids say they want to keep things just like they are.  They love there Mom just as they love me.  I have explained to the to the kids I am not trying to change nothing, just want our divorce decree to support whats been going on and relieve in paying child support.  The kid have questioned there mother on what she does with it.  They tell me she just changes the subject when it is brought up.  I will say this she drives a BMW, lives in a new house on the golf course, her and her husband both have a new Harley.  I am sure that the monies that I give here does contributes to there matrial posseions.  I have no problem paying child support its just that I am the one supporting the kids, paying all the doctor bills, buying the cloths, food, and every thing else that goes along with raising to teenageres.  Then after all thats done I write her a check.

I have 3rd party witnesses,  I have taken each one of them to the doctor several times last year, but no vidieos.  I do have pic.  I do have a lawyer hired that specializies in these types of things.  My brother used her to get costudy of his daughter.  I just hope the judge sees things my way,

Jeff  

I live in TN.  There have been alot of fathers in my area getting custody of there kids.  Also child support is based on both parties income hers is not being considered at this time.  Thanks for your response.........Jeff

I have petitioned my x for 50/50 custudy.  I have been keeping my kids most of the time for about 2 years now, and have been paying over 700.00 dollars a month child supprt.  Some of you my have seen my post back in the spring.  Anyways I started keeping track of the time the kids are with me and the time they are with there mom.  Nov. 28 2005 is when I started, here papers were served on her June the 28 2006.  That is 211 days of documintation.  My 13 year has spent (dad 132 day) (mom 62) and (Granny 17) my 15 year old (dad 120) (mom 60) (granny 31).  I have compiled a pie chart to show the %, She has denied that I have been keeping the kids for this amout of time in her answer.  She does not Know that I have this documintation.  Her answer to my petition said they wanted proof of.  Is this enough proof?  How will the judge see this.  I have been 100 % honest with my kids about this whole issue and have kept them up to speed of whats going on.  They are shocked about there mother denieing that they have been staying with me most of the time, they pretty much called her a lier.  I am getting worried this whole thing could back fire on me.  Has anybody seen simular sitsuation like this?

Jeff