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#1
Hello,
I have to say that I was a previous user of this site as a NCP. My daughter is now 15 and havs lived with me for the last 3 1/2 yrs. Now, I get a lousy 25 dollars a week in CS that can't be raised until she reaches age 16 another 4 months away. He works at a job that he make $25.00 per hour, has no other kids to support etc, I basically got screwed because I agreed to $250 a month for both of our girls. But, when the oldest turned 18 they reduced it by half. My expenses for moving the girls back to my home rose dramatically. Let's see how this breaks down...

$15.00 for school lunches
$10.00 for DD allowance.
 = $25.00

Doesn't go very far now does it. And to top it off the 19 yr old still lives at home while she is going to college.

Actual expenes
$25.00 food for DD (She is not limited to 25.00 a week in food that is just the share that is spent on her behalf)

50.68 a month for DD cell phone.  (Yes she has one, but she uses it to keep in touch with me and call her dad since it is long distance and shee gets 500 mins a month long distance. Funny, he's the one she talks to most and I pay for it.

9.95 for internet access for DD computer.

156.00 electric  (My bill used to be 80.00 before the girls came back home.

32.00 water (used to be around 16.00 monthly.

89.00 a month for car insurance for DD alone (She just recently got het learner's permit and guess what it costs extra to have insurance on her to be able to learn to drive Who knew...

And, this is only the drop in the bucket, so to say. It doesn't include clothes, shoes, activities, co pays to the doctors etc.

Yes the CS does have to be allocated towards the FAMILIES living expenses not just here  u go DD You get to have the entire CS check every month.

 MY point is, Is that when and if you have your kids living with you, you will see that your expenses go up all around. It doesn't matter if you have a large or small personal income. KIDS COST MONEY.

I am not saying that CP's/NCP's are should not have to pay what is fair amount for CS. I am saying that when you really break it down you would see that the expenses usually far out weigh what is actually recieved. And in alot cases the expenses are for the houseshold just not the child.

I could be a real B%$$^ to my kid and deny her thte little luxuries she gets all in tha name of CS. But, I don't. She has her comp and internet to do school work and email her family and friends, she has her cell, that I can call anytime and she answers it or she calls me and let's me know where she is, what she is doing and who she is with. (I work a 48 hr wk to support my kids so I can't always be there, but the phone is and it works) we now have insurance that also covers her while she is learning to drive and will continue even after, I can't take the risk of losing my car if she should get in an accident.

So you see it all adds up no matter who or where the kids live.



#2
General Issues / RE: Medical Stuff
Apr 02, 2007, 07:14:50 AM
Contact the child's school. And ask for an IEP evaluation. (Individual Education Plan) The school can start the testing and BM doesn't have to agree if you have "joint legal custody". //www.bigsplace.com.  This site talks alot about add/adhd but, I found it helpful on all manner of issues that effect a childs learning and growth. It is a site that lists all the info you'll ever need to know in dealing with learning/developmental disabilities and also has all the info you need to point you in the right direction to get the child's school involved and what your CHILD'S legal rights are for help on these matters.
Another good site is http://www.wrightslaw.com/ where you can get reliable info on info for children that may need some special education help.

To qualify for an IEP, your child has to have a learning/developmental disability. Sometimes if a child is having severe problems, the school will label him "other health impaired" and get him one that way.

To qualify for a 504, your child would have to show a significant deficiency in at least one major life activity such as school work or social skills. It is up to the school to determine whether a child qualifies.

We got my SD on an IEP for emotional disturbance and at the time she was failing at alot of things in school for years. She is now 17 and has a GPA of 4.00 and will graduate 1/2 semester early with honors.

Best of luck.