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Parenting Issues / Supervised Visitation

« on: Jun 30, 2009, 04:16:02 PM »

For those of you who may need the services of a Supervised Visitation Provider, you can find a list of providers here:

Supervised Visitation Directory  (www.svdirectory.com)

The Supervised Parenting Startup Kit- A practical reference guide for owning and operating a supervised parenting service for agencies and individual providers. Click here for more information.

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General Issues / Supervised Visitation

« on: Jun 30, 2009, 04:13:57 PM »

For those of you who may need the services of a Supervised Visitation Provider, you can find a list of providers here:

Supervised Visitation Directory  (www.svdirectory.com)

The Supervised Parenting Startup Kit-  A practical reference guide for owning and operating a supervised parenting service for agencies and individual providers. Click here for more information.

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Second Families / Supervised Visitation

« on: Jun 30, 2009, 04:12:47 PM »

For those of you who may need the services of a Supervised Visitation Provider, you can find a list of providers here:

Supervised Visitation Directory  (www.svdirectory.com)

The Supervised Parenting Startup Kit- A practical reference guide for owning and operating a supervised parenting service for agencies and individual providers. Click here for more information.

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Father's Issues / Re: Desperate and looking for help....

« on: Nov 26, 2008, 09:06:52 AM »

My questions are this.
1. Can CPS keep me away from my child just because there is a criminal case open even if I have not been charged with a crime.

2. I have been told they will take are child away from her mother if she cant keep her away from me and they will place her in adoption can they do this even when I have NOT BEEN CHARGED with anything.

3. CPS recommended to the Judge during the emergency protection order hearing that I should not have any parenting time with the child because of the investigation even tho I have not been charged with ANYTHING, did this act violate my 5^th amendments rights?

4. If CPS do try to take my parenting time away from me is that violating my 5^th amendment rights? Also can they even try to take my parenting rights way from me or keep me away from my kid when I have not been charged with anything.....

1) CPS can do almost anything they want, they have broad powers and often abuse them.

2) They may be able to, and we'd recommend hiring an attorney. I know you said you cannot afford one, but there are times when there is no practical alternative.

3)  5^th amendment rights deal with making statements that may tend to incriminate you. I don't see how they would apply to your situation. (??)

4)  See #3 above. I don't see how 5th amendment rights would apply to your situation.

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Custody Issues / Re: Moving out

« on: Nov 22, 2008, 06:32:05 AM »

The question is if I do move out do I hurt myself in a custody battle by doing so.  I have already told my wife the I want the  kids 50/50 if I do move out, even before we file.  I live in California.

Do NOT move out.

Read these:

http://deltabravo.net/custody/protect.php

http://deltabravo.net/custody/thelist.php

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Custody Issues / Re: Custody Question

« on: Nov 20, 2008, 08:48:45 PM »

Has a precedence been set not in my favor by having our son stay with her 5 nights out of 7? Is this going to hurt me?

In general you should seek to establish a 50/50 time share- the courts may very well look at her increased time compared to yours as an indication of who is the "primary caretaker". This can be a significant factor in how custody is viewed and decided by the court.

Search: primary caretaker

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Custody Issues / Re: Mother moving and wants to take son

« on: Nov 19, 2008, 10:43:41 AM »

Please see the articles on move aways:

http://www.deltabravo.net/cgi-bin/search.cgi?Terms=moving&Match=1&Realm=All


4. Preparing For A 'Move-Away' Or Custody Battle
    A common tactic by a vengeful custodial parent is to move, often out of state, separating the child geographically from the non-custodial parent (usually the father). If you even suspect your ex-spouse might do this, you need to be prepared.
    URL: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/moveaway.php

5. Preventing Domestic Move-Aways
    A classic tactic by many ex-wives is to move to another State and take the children. This assists them in alienating the children and makes it nearly impossible for the father to see his children. If you find out that your ex-wife if planning to move, follow these steps...
    URL: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/moving.php

6. When You Suspect the Worst
    ''When You Suspect the Worst'' - A guide to dealing with bad-faith relocation, fabricated child sexual abuse, and parental alienation, by Carol Holstein Sanders.
    URL: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/suspect.php

7. Preventing International Move-Aways
    To prevent your ex from getting a passport for your child(ren), call the Passport Services Office of Policy and Advisory Services at 1-202-955-0232 for information on blocking your ex from leaving the country with the child.
    URL: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/moving2.php

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Father's Issues / Re: Living in Indiana..

« on: Nov 19, 2008, 10:26:42 AM »

I have a daughter i pay child support on. She is 18, works two jobs and recently moved out with a girlfriend to go to college. I am a disabled vet and the va pays for her college. Can i emancipate her to stop the payment of child support?

1. What Constitutes Emancipation To Release A Parent From A Child Support Obligation
This article surveys the law concerning emancipation in these broad categories: marriage, entering the armed forces, becoming pregnant, and leaving the parental roof and becoming self-supporting.
    URL: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/emancipate1.php

2. Termination of Child Support and Support Beyond Majority
This page details the manner in which each State handles termination of child support obligations and support beyond the age of majority.
    URL: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/emancipate.php

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Divorce News / Re: Moderator Guide & How-To's

« on: Nov 11, 2008, 12:28:09 PM »

Frustrating a user into foolishness or insanity:

[HIGHLIGHT=#9bbb59]Okay, normally we don't do this, but for very persistent whackos we can make an exception. PLEASE ask me first before doing [HIGHLIGHT=#9bbb59]this![/HIGHLIGHT] This is only for use in extreme cases of idiocy by a member. [/B][/HIGHLIGHT]

• Basically, just edit their post very subtly to make them look like a total idiot. Misspekllings (oops!), use like, umm, way bad poor grammar, and twist their words to alter their meaning.

• For example, make them confess to being an ass, let them explain that sometimes they "post while drunk" and they "don't always remember" what they've said, and so on. Subtle is better than blatant.

• Removing the word "not" from a sentence often has a dramatic effect (lol) just as putting an unexpected "not" in can change things radically too.

• Add a line saying they know that "everyone" hates them, but they "don't care".

• Have them attack someone who is supporting them (lol) and explain that "they know" that the other person is "just trying to suck up to them".

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You get the idea. Sow confusion, make them wonder if they really DID post that. Drive them bonkers and make their life miserable.

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Divorce News / Re: Moderator Guide & How-To's

« on: Nov 11, 2008, 12:27:02 PM »

Spotting Bozos and Spammers:

Look at the upper-right corner of the board where it lists the Latest Member.

If you see a name that looks like random junk, i.e. "bcdgetzsd" or nvhdyrte29", chances are it's a spammer. These names are generated randomly by their spam software.

Click on the name and then scroll down. Click on the link that says "Show the last posts of this person".

If they're spammer, you'll see their junk posts. Go delete their account on the spot. If you don't see any posts then the person hasn't made any yet.

I catch a good number of spammers this way and I delete their entire account, often before they have a chance to make a single post. I'm sure this is very, very mysterious and frustrating