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IT APPEARS AS THOUGH YOUR STEP SON IS NOT VERY RESPONSIBLE. AS GRANDPARENTS IT IS UNDERSTANDABLE TO WANT TO NURTURE YOUR GRANDCHILDREN, BUT YOU MAY BE DOING THEM MORE HARM BY ENABLING THE IRRESPONSIBLE FATHER. PLEASE CONSIDER GIVING HIM SOME "TOUGH LOVE" AND FORCE HIM TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS OFFSPRING.

>Hi,
>
>I'm new to these forums, and have a situation I'm hoping to
>find some help in.
>
>I was with a girl for 4 years, and we were engaged to be
>married for a year. We have a 16-month-old son.
>
>November 8th, 2006, she provoked a fight, in which she
>threatened me with custody, and locked herself in the bathroom
>with my son. She was acting crazy, and my son was screaming. I
>picked the lock to the bathroom, to find her pressing him
>against the shower door. I told her to put him down several
>times, and she refused. I grabbed the arm closest to me (her
>right arm), and took him from her. She then used him to pull
>me into her knee, which she planted firmly in my groin. After
>she refused to release us, I slapped her, and she ran to the
>police to file A&B charges against me. She produced bruises on
>her LEFT arm, which had not been touched during this incident.
>She also claimed that I had BOTH arms twisted behind her back,
>and threw her to the floor. According to her statement, she
>somehow kept my son in her arms through all of this...
>
>I was arrested and spent that night in jail. The court
>released me on Personal Bond, preventing me from returning to
>my house or having any contact with her. She then proceeded to
>dictate a parenting schedule of Tues & Thurs from 6p-8p, and 4
>hours on the weekend.
>
>There is a trial set for Feb 26th, at my request. A temporary
>order was just signed, giving me every other weekend from 5p
>Friday to 5p Sunday. It also ordered me to pay $664/month
>child support, and gave her family first rights to watching my
>son when she is in school or work, against my wishes to be
>awarded those rights. CAN YOU GET THE TRIAL DATE CONTINUED FOR ABOUT 3-4 WEEKS? - YOU NEED TO HAVE A BASIC UNDERSTANDING OF THE JURISDICTION OF THE STATE AND THE COURT AND HOW THE STATE ACTS AS AN INVOLVED PARTY BEFORE YOU GO TO TRIAL.
>
>She has a history of mental instability, witnessed by people
>in my family and who have lived with us in the past. The law
>doesn't seem to care. She has complete favor and I, being the
>father, am continually being subjected to the gender bias
>we've all come to know and love... YOU NEED TO KNOW HOW TO PUT THIS IN EVIDENCE BEFORE THE COURT.
>
>I need my son. She's far too unstable to properly care for
>him. She never even used to seem interested in caring for him.
>She would sleep until late hours in the afternoon, dropping
>brownies in his crib when he woke up, and going back to bed. I
>took care of everything. YOU NEED TO LEARN HOW TO SUBMIT AN AFFIDAVIT.
>
>Someone PLEASE tell me what I can do to win custody. I can't
>sit back and let the law make a determination in her favor,
>solely based on her gender. Anything anyone can do to help
>would be most appreciated. INFORMATION MAY BE AVAILABLE AT matrxlaw.36bit.com - BEST OF LUCK.
>
>
>Thank you!
>Steve