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I also had a biased CFI; biased against me (the father).  Her total bill came out to about $6K, and she had a fantastic reputation, but didn't really do her job.  My wife had kidnapped our son when I filed for divorce, but the CFI appeared to be ignoring that fact and many others, including her attempts to alienate him from me and her constant verbal harrassment during exchanges.  I was becoming worried at the benign questions the CFI asked; not the questions a true investigator should ask.  Thankfully, we paid $3K for psychiatric evaluations.  The CFI duped me into thinking that these evaluations would be thurough, but in fact, they were fairly superficial.  My exwife's thinking was screwey enough that the psychologist believed every word I said and gave me a glowing parenting report, but seh also included a lot of irrelevant and negative speculation about me and my relationship history, which the CFI harped on.  It became clear that the CFI didn't like me personally.  The CFI mostly ignored the positive information about me and the negative information about my ex-wife in the report and charged us $200 per hour to write a report that reccomended against me having my son for anything but short visits.  It was unfathomable.  She provided a vague parenting plan that was impractical.  In the end, the judge didn't pay attention to the nonsense in the report and focused on the facts.  On the stand, the CFI could not come up with anything significantly bad about me that related to family law.  The judge completely disregarded almost every aspect of the CFI's report and ruled a semi-fair parenting plan.  

There are good books out there for CFI's to go by, but mine had her own opinions that were not based much in law nor psychology (she is an attorney).  I would at least reccomend a psychologist as a CFI.  I hear judges pick them about 50-50.  Of course it is up to the judge who you get.  

What would have been much better is if my wife had listened in the parenting class and implemented it.  Our son still emotionally suffers from her bad (and now illegal) behavior that does not support his relationship with me and his half-brothers.  We could have saved probably $20K if she would only done what was right in the first place.  Last I heard she's planning to take me back to court, but she doesn't have the money.  Neither do I for that matter.