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Shrink Rap / Re: Borderline Personality Disorder
« on: Dec 04, 2008, 01:03:15 PM »
Thanks for the immediate reply and wealth of information.  It's a relief, but sad at the same time, to know that my husband and I are not the only ones dealing with this type of behavior from a BM.  I don't know if she has this disorder, but it sure does seem to describe her perfectly.

DH and BM have a very specific court order from their divorce proceeding years ago, but we've since had it modified to be even more specific, for the exact reasons you suggested doing so.  BM still manages to create conflict where there should be none.  According to her, we're the ones responsible for all of it, even though she creates it.  I feel so sorry for my SS, the emotional turmoil he must be going through.  We know he's a good kid and knows right from wrong, he's demonstrated that every time he's with been with us, but as soon as he's back in the BM's care, she seems to manipulate him into going against everything he knows as being right.  She is teaching him to lie by coercing him to do so, hide his whereabouts from his father, make up stories about non-existent illnesses or exaggerate them to the point of us suspecting that he's deathly ill, when in fact he may just have a common cold, etc. etc. etc.  We have tried tirelessly to understand why she does the things she does and tried to reason with her during her bouts of extremely unreasonable behavior, but finally realized that it's impossible.  We avoid interaction with her as much as humanly possible because any and every point of contact with her becomes an opportunity for her to act out.  Other than loving my SS unconditionally and trying to lead by example, I'm not sure what else we can do, but we're going to review the information in the links you provided.  Hopefully, that will help us through another day.  One day at a time, it's all we can handle.

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Shrink Rap / Re: Borderline Personality Disorder
« on: Dec 04, 2008, 12:19:58 AM »
OLD THREAD NEW POSTER HOPING THESE PEOPLE ARE STILL HERE:

Wow, it sounds like gemeni3, sweetpeas and IndigoMama are describing my SS's BM to a T.  I'm almost speechless, as I assumed she was the only person on the planet that could possibly do the things she has done to this child's mind.  Any updates from anyone since these postings?

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Custody Issues / Re: Dad seeking custody
« on: Nov 26, 2008, 02:34:13 PM »
Talk to a family law attorney in TX and MO, there is usually at least one that will offer a free consultation.  I'm not sure if the TX or MO attorney would have to register the TX order in MO, but whichever, the TX order needs to be registered in whatever state she resides in, in order for them to enforce it.

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Visitation Issues / Re: Frustrated Father.
« on: Nov 26, 2008, 01:47:14 PM »
So, you reside in KY and she resides in CT with the child, but the CO is from NY, correct? 
 
If so, how long has she resided in CT?  How long have you resided in KY?

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Father's Issues / Re: I need help
« on: Nov 25, 2008, 11:20:28 PM »
I'm new here, husband is in the military and your post caught my attention.  I'm hoping you've gotten all of this worked out by now, it's an older post, but if you haven't, talk to JAG, it's free and they should be able to help you determine your rights under the SSRA.  Good luck.

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I'm assuming you're already divorced and have a TX court order for visitation and child support.  I'm not an attorney, but God knows I have learned enough over the years to consider becoming one:)  I personally have had major issues with the TX OAG.  Child support has always been withheld through my employer and paid through the county clerk's office, but then the ex decided to try and stir up trouble where there was none and open a case with them so I'd have to jump through hoops to prove my innocence.  That's right, guilty until proven innocent, what a nightmare!  I owe nothing, provided them with proof of every payment, but their records show that I am thousands in arrears.  They've even attempted to take more each month to apply to the arrears I don't even owe!  Based on my personal experience, I would try to pay through a county clerk if you have the choice, but if not, at least have a paper trail and keep perfect records of everything.  If you have any other questions, I'd be glad to share what I've learned the hard way.

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