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Thanks for the reply. I had a talk with her tonite, the wife and I.  As i knew she would, she denied it all. All I could tell her is that it's wrong for her to treat me and my wife the way she does. I just dont know if i should even go to her events any longer at least until she is older and can think for herself. But i know i will show up because at least i can see her having fun.
Therapy is something i will consider but i will have to research it with my lawyer, my x will definately have me in court over it if she can, no matter if i'm right in doing so.  We stay in court.
She is so bitter and hateful even after 5yrs. My child thinks I abandoned her, she told me this tonite. Not true. I asked her to make judgements on what she sees now not at what her mother tells her.
She calls her step dad, daddy and at first started calling me by my first name, the latter i quickly instructed her on.  Not a big deal but i will not allow my child to call my wife mommy. I just dont think it's right.

KSmarks, thanks for your reply. I have the standard part time visitation, every other weekend agenda that this pitiful Matriarchal Domestic Court System (no offense intended) has handed down.

She acts ok when away from the mother twds me. Holds my hand and stuff. However, she definately is much more affectionate with my wife for some reason, maybe its a girl thing? Or maybe she thinks i dont want nothing to do with her? I wish i knew.

Im going to have a family meeting tonite and i just dont know what to tell her. For right now Im just going to tell her that her actions twds me are wrong and she needs to not be afraid of what her mother thinks of her for showing me open affection.

I work to pay my x. Just dont have the money for Optimal but i desperately need something similar or the like. She documents my every move, for years. I'm not so disciplined despite being burned by that. We are in the usual court fight every year. Ive growned accustomed to it. I had a Palm Treo and it was great for keeping records but i cant even find a online calendar that will repeat things simple as "every other weekend".  thanks

Should apply, "Community Property".  You get 50/50 even retirement. Dont be foolish and walk out. Make him move, like the poster said, would be considered abandonment.  Ive been to court half a dozen times Pro se, because im broke from attorney fees. Not that difficult.
Main thing is to find someone's name you know who got divorced, get a copy of the decree and use that as a reference syllabus and start typing. File.  Call around, you might be surprised to find that some attorney will work with you on payment esp if they know you're going to get a settlement. You'll get the jist of it. Dont ask the Circuit Clerk for anything but paperwork thats all they'll offer. Document, document and document everything! Cant stress that enough.

    This has been an on going problem for years. My daughter is 8yrs old. I have been divorced for 5. The usual bitter long drawn out divorce, in fact we are in court every year.  When she is with me she loves me but for some reason clings to my wife more than me.  If there should be any alienation issues I would think the X would focus this endeavor twds my wife, the woman I had the affair with. Not condoning this but it's the past. The x has been remarried for about 4yrs. The fellow treats my child nice, and I feel my daughter loves him. I'll never have respect for the worm as he tried to adopt my child. Not a rat's chance in a blender.

    All her little activites such as, cheerleading, B-Ball, Soccer, I attend. When I show up she won't look at me. When I approach her she just ignores me, won't say two words to me.  This makes me so upset I want to pull my hair out. I'm no psyche proffessor so I don't know how to handle this, discipline her scold her, ignore it. Can someone help?

    Her affection twds her mother and her mother's affection to my daughter is hmm... too affectionate?? I mean she worships the ground she walks on.  It's just not natural or mentally healthy, can't be.  I mean the child still can't be away from her mother more than three days without going into hysteria.  At all these events my child has eyes totally fixated on her mother nearly the entire time where she can't even focus on what she's doing. I observe all the other children and they are focused on the event not the parent.  Is this healthy? This has to be some sort of pyschosis on both sides to some degree.