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Child Support Issues / Insurance
« on: Jan 23, 2009, 07:55:56 PM »
The court order reads that the CP who is eligible to receive FREE government insurance, is to provide the insurance. He is responsible to pay the first $250 dollars of anything not covered by insurance, then any amount over that is to be split 50/50.

While I am court ordered to receive a total of 4 weeks during the summer, my kids spend the whole summer with me. (more closely, 3 months).  I've never disputed any amount of child support that I pay regardless.

This last summer, my son woke me up at 3 AM complaining of ear pain. I took my son to an Emergy care center in walking distance of my home. They advised me that they could not accept my sons Insurance. (Dad is in PA.  I am in SC).  They provided me with phone numbers of the local hospitals and I made calls from that center and found a hospital that would accept the out of state ACCESS  insurance.

I took my son there, he was treated, I stopped at the drug store and paid for his prescription, never questioning or asking for reimbursement from Dad.  In December, 5 months after taking son to the hospital, I received a bill in the mail. After spending several days, speaking to people in 5 different states trying to find out what this bill was for, I learned the bill was for the doctor(whom he NEVER saw, haha, isn't that a hoot...he was treated by a woman but the DR. wa a male). End result, the DR. did NOT accept the insurance, nor could he go on-line to sigh up for them to pay because he no longer worked there.  I also learned during the course of my phone calls that the Hospital itself had not been paid, but was still pending. ( 5 months later? OK?) To date,I don't  know if the hospital has been paid.

I advised Dad that I had received this bill, and I did EVERY thing I could to avoid anyone having to pay it...to no avail. So during my New Year's visit, I gave a copy of this bill to Dad, and advised him that I made payment on it. (Didn't want my credit ruined)

He told me "Oh well"... I have a bill for $750 bux for when I took son to the ER this year too.  I   renewed late so there was a lapse in his insurance.  So they won't pay it. I'll pay half of your hospital bill afterI receive my income tax. His "half" is not anywhere near the court ordered amount.

Since he failed to file paperwork that allowed our son FREE insurance, do ya'll think or legally know if I am responsible for any of HIS BOOFOO? Should I be held liable  because
DAD simply failed to file some paperwork?

Custody Issues / Re: How do I?
« on: Jan 23, 2009, 07:06:37 PM »
Late update:
We had a super New Years.
My son seems to like his new school.  He was still pretty insistant that he leave with me. We had some pretty serious heart to hearts while I was there.  He relunctantly agreed he should finish out the year at his school.  He seemed to understand that he needed to try to go that extra mile to finish it out and come here on a good note.
I had very little time to speak with DAD. Even tho I stay in Dad's home when I head north, he wasn't there. See, he has a new girlfriend...but I'm all kewl with that. I know her.  Our brief discussions were that my son could come with me when school lets out and stay for the summer, see how it goes...and take it from there.

Since my return...Dad got notice that son had to attend court for one of the fighting incidents that occurred prior to my visit in December. I called the court and spoke with his caseworker.  He advised me that my son would receive (as a first time juvenile offender) a $225 fine, 50 hours of community service and up to 6 months probation. Dad sweet talked him out of the fine, but they added 30 hours of community service. That's probably not such a bad thing. Then if all goes well, his record will be expunged. We also discussed that my son comes with me for the summer, but was advised they would work with me if he was in fact still on probation.

Dad called me at work today.  He received a letter in the mail that the week prior to his court hearing, son made some "obscene gestures" and will be suspended from school on the 30th.
I don't know how this will affect his probation. (And I find it totally absurd that they suspend a kid 2 weeks after the fact of an incident!)

So, that's my update....comments....questions? All welcome.

(I will very shortly have a post in the Child support column)

Custody Issues / Re: How do I?
« on: Dec 26, 2008, 05:58:08 AM »
I have spoken with Dad once. He is stating that it is still a possibility that he well let son come with me. I leave Sunday the 28th to go there for the week.  I'll let you know what happens when I get back!

Custody Issues / Re: How do I?
« on: Dec 15, 2008, 11:29:53 PM »
I have dealt with Dad for the last five years. He changes his mind more than any of us change our underwear. As I stated in my original post, I need to cover my butt.
I honestly don't think that he's thinking ahead...to the point he'll no longer have any child support from me if my son comes with me.
I do thank you folks for your answers!

Custody Issues / How do I?
« on: Dec 13, 2008, 07:18:21 PM »
I had custody of my kids for about 5 years. At that point, Dad got primary physical custody, with joint legal. That was about 5 years ago.
3 years ago, I moved about 600 miles away. While long distance, I have NEVER been an absent mom.
Fast forward... Daughter is almost 18 and about to graduate. Intends to go to college in my city.
Son is now 14, and has steadfastly expressed his desire to return to live with me for over a year to school and myself and dad.
He has recently gotten into a good deal of trouble at school, resulting in expulsion. He did this with purpose, stating that dad would kick him out when he got sick of him. I just spent the last 3 days gettting him into another school at his location.  He is ADHD and I got him into a" partial" (therapy and school) school. Yes, I travelled 600 miles to do this. Dad wanted me to bring our son with me.
I didn't. I couldn't. Why?
If I just packed up my son, I'm assuming dad could claim kidnapping...even though he asked me to take him.
That's my question....how could I legally bring my son with me? Is a hand written letter enough to prevent kidnapping charges if dad decided to change his mind? I know Dad has had enough... I just need to cover my butt.

Pennsylvania State Forum / RE: My son wants back living with me.
« on: Aug 31, 2007, 12:22:11 AM »
It takes a major change in circumstance to get things reversed...as a rule.

Pennsylvania State Forum / Attention!!! Child Support Issues
« on: Feb 28, 2004, 09:12:23 AM »
Please read and then write to Patricia Miles!!!


Pennsylvania State Forum / RE: Adopting a stepchild
« on: Feb 14, 2004, 04:01:31 PM »
  Not too many people stop by here. You should post this on one of the main message boards. I was trying to figure out which one. Perhaps the best advice you'll receive would be from Socrateaser.  Try that, and good luck!

May I suggest that you post this under Socrateaser's forum!  :)

I can't answer your question, but I'd bet that child support continues until age of 18.

My question would be...was the child LEGALLY in someone else's custody?

Pennsylvania State Forum / What happened...
« on: Jan 20, 2004, 02:33:13 PM »
to my old post and the replies?

Anyone in Pa. wants to chat, let me know.

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