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Custody Issues / Re: School Schedule
« on: Oct 30, 2014, 07:27:13 AM »
Didn't know it wasn't PA, he was going anyway from our standpoint anyway.  It's the norm around here.
Understand different rules in different households, was just trying to find out if there was another school option out there or schedule for school that others have done. 
It is impacting school, his teacher brought it up in our first parent/teacher conference and wrote it directly on her report.
Not sure what direction I'll go from here but thanks for all the info. 

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Custody Issues / Re: School Schedule
« on: Oct 29, 2014, 07:12:10 AM »
Thanks, Ladies  :)
We're in PA and K is mandatory here.  His teacher already noted it in our first parent-teacher conference a month ago but sadly enough there hasn't been a change.  The change to kindergarten was for sure an adjustment at first, he is settled in now.  Both the school and before/after have put things in writing for me, I'd much rather keep it out of the courts myself. 
We have no domestics, he pays childcare and I cover insurance, although if I wanted I could file and he would have to pay me due to income differences.  Easier to just let it go and move on.
Dad is one that is all for show but typically the boys (he has a year younger half-brother) end up with a sitter all weekend or his mom is at the house because he really isn't interested in the kids.  She is by far the sharpest tool in the shed either.....  His brother will be attending another school district but is on the same schedule so still wondering how we is going to handle that, too.  He spends almost an entire evening running around to pick up kids at different child care places because he refuses to keep them in one.  He's a piece of work!
 

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Custody Issues / School Schedule
« on: Oct 28, 2014, 09:14:49 AM »
Years later I'm back here for some help.
We currently have a 2/2/3, never really worked for our son for several issues but now we have reached kindergarten and it really is not working.  My son is exhausted, it has already been noticed by his teacher and his pre-school has noticed it for years.  Problem  now is he no longer gets naps to help catch  him up.  My son mentions that at school sometimes he almost falls asleep, has trouble paying attention, etc.  He attributes it to kindergarten but it is really starting at dad's.  I get a 5 year old wreck for a few days that I rush around and try to catch him up on some sleep as best as possible.  Keeping in mind I have asked several times (very nicely) if dad could please have our son in bed around 8-8:30 at lastest and I know sometimes that is difficult, but he needs it.
Son goes to school in my district, before and after program is in my district (both are literally less than 1 mile away from my home) and dad lives about 15 minutes away in a different district.
Proposed a school schedule to dad which of course was refused.  I really don't know what else to offer during the school year.  I asked that he be with with me Sunday - Thurs so I can have him in bed at the same time every night.  Dad can take him one evening or 3 evenings, really doesn't matter but he would need to be home by 7 to get ready for bed, etc.  Offered any in-service days and scheduled breaks during the school year to dad to keep him overnight instead since he wouldn't have to go to school the next day.  EOW - Sunday evening I would want to pick him up at 7pm so we can get back home and ready for bed.  Offered week on - week off summers with the start/end of those dependent upon when school year begins/ends. 
Any one have any other ideas or input on a schedule during the year?
When my son role plays he always says, "it's 10:30, time for bed!" Assuming this is coming from dad's, and probably about the time he's getting to bed given his exhaustion level.
I've consulted my attorney and we're working on gathering some observation documents from his teacher and his before/after daycare to support a new schedule.
 
Thanks.

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General Issues / Re: School District Issues
« on: Jul 05, 2012, 01:25:41 PM »
Thanks, Ocean. 
 
We are about 15-20 minutes from each other and we use a parent coordinator for any issues, she has been fantastic.  We have a 2/2/3 split so using his same daycare provider would work the best for everyone.
 
He enjoys making everything incredibly difficult so I thought I would try to cover all bases and try to present ideas that would work for all of us.  And also try to think long-term if at all possible.

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General Issues / School District Issues
« on: Jul 05, 2012, 12:56:33 PM »
Looking for any insight / ideas when it comes to the custody schedule for parents in seperate districts.  We currently reside in different districts so we still have to make that decision.  Right now mine is the better of the 2 but that's always subject to change.  Our son currently attends daycare in my district which also provides before / after school care for school-age children - hoping to keep him in my district for this reason, too.
 
Current CO is 50/50 and includes issue of extra-curricular activities but nothing else.  I'd like to approach the subject later this year.  Assuming if dad can provide the transportation the schedule would remain (and vice versa if he ends up in Dad's district).  Or is this something that should change once school is relevant?  Or change as child gets older, if he has issues with grades, homework, etc.
 
Thanks.
 

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General Issues / Re: Communicating with ex
« on: Jul 05, 2012, 12:40:07 PM »
Not sure how the wireless carriers work today, but a few years ago we had AT&T download cellular voice mail messages and so we had them saved elsewhere.  I think unless you go in and continue to save them they will auto-delete after a certain period of time.
 
Might be worth checking into if phone is becoming his new form of communication.

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Visitation Issues / Re: heading into court
« on: Apr 24, 2011, 06:05:12 PM »
Ours is split - noon on Christmas Eve to noon on Christmas day and then noon on Christmas Day to noon on 12/26.  I have even year Christmas mornings and he has odd years Christmas mornings.

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Depends on where you live, they all seem to vary.  He filed and in about 4 days our hearing was scheduled.  We were notified of our trial about 2 days prior (but it was pushed out every month for about 3 months because the courts were too busy).

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DDS -
 
My son's father was given unsupervised visits the same day of the hearing, he was 3 1/2 months old at the time.  The temp order was a step-up plan over several months.  We never lived together, I had left him before I found out I was pregnant. 
 
I had requested supervised for awhile because he had absolutely no experience with infants or children and my son had some special needs.  The only supervision that happened was the on the 1st visit he was to spend time at my home learning the basics and if there was time left during the visitation hours they were his to with what he wished.
 
From other posts sounds like unsupervised is more of the norm until you get further hearings.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Father's Issues / Re: Speaking of passports...
« on: Jan 01, 2010, 11:51:52 AM »
I only brought it up in the other thread because a woman a work with said something she experienced but I didn't think it was totally correct. 
 
Her nephews father wanted to take him out of the country on vacation.  Her sister was okay with it, they got their son a passport so he could go, but their destination/country required a notarized letter with the absent parent's consent  in addition to the valid passport. 
 
I don't know when it occured in relevance to the entry/exit changes over the years.
 
 
Teacher98 -
 
I got my son's passport without dad's consent, no intentions of fleeing the country, because he was absent at the time and there was no custody order in effect. 

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