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Father's Issues / Re: Info needed
« on: Jul 03, 2012, 04:19:42 pm »
Thanks so much!
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Father's Issues / Info needed
« on: Jul 03, 2012, 09:08:49 am »
Hi to all the old timers. I'm back. Can't post much right now but things are going fairly well for me & mine.
I am helping a friend who is a single mom, lives way out in the woods & being stalked. We have heard some bad things about the guy & want to know the web sites where you can see old criminal records for free, so we know just how bad he really is. If anyone knows, please post. Thanks.
I am helping a friend who is a single mom, lives way out in the woods & being stalked. We have heard some bad things about the guy & want to know the web sites where you can see old criminal records for free, so we know just how bad he really is. If anyone knows, please post. Thanks.
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Father's Issues / Re: Child Support Court In Wichita falls, TX is a joke
« on: Oct 07, 2011, 06:51:19 pm »
When they arrested her on the Capias warrant, the lady from the AG office told her she had better get someone to take care of the baby cuz when they got before the judge, she was going to jail. Just goes to show you what authority the AG has. NONE!!! 
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Custody Issues / Re: Results of Court Hearing - need advice....
« on: Oct 07, 2011, 04:33:18 pm »
WOW, I thought our situation was bad but yours makes ours look like a walk in the park. I am so sorry you are going through this & wish I had some help to offer but the best I can do is tell you that we are praying for you.
The only thing I can think of is to see what technology is available to put a video camera & recorder in every room that is motion or sound activated & sending it to your computer. Then, you could have it professionally transcribed. If it is all in print, maybe it could be admitted.
Also consider taking her to a licensed child psychologist when she is with you. If she tells you she lied to someone about you. I would say something like, "I'm sorry you did that. I know that you know it is wrong to lie & I hope you will tell the truth from now on." It isn't much but maybe it is something you can use.
Good luck & God bless
The only thing I can think of is to see what technology is available to put a video camera & recorder in every room that is motion or sound activated & sending it to your computer. Then, you could have it professionally transcribed. If it is all in print, maybe it could be admitted.
Also consider taking her to a licensed child psychologist when she is with you. If she tells you she lied to someone about you. I would say something like, "I'm sorry you did that. I know that you know it is wrong to lie & I hope you will tell the truth from now on." It isn't much but maybe it is something you can use.
Good luck & God bless
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Father's Issues / Re: VICTORY---FINALLY
« on: Oct 05, 2011, 09:17:56 pm »
Congratulations! It is always good to hear of a victory. It keeps the rest of us trudging along.
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Father's Issues / Child Support Court In Wichita falls, TX is a joke
« on: Oct 05, 2011, 08:24:22 pm »
and Judge Dockery Is a waste & has no conscience! After dismissing a Capias warrant & granting a postponement, two weeks ago, Today, Judge Dockery summarily dismissed all motions & charges. The CS enforcement office had filed a motion, on behalf of gr8dad, for an increase of CS. It has never been increased since being figured at minimum wage, in 2002. The PBFH had her free lawyer file for a reduction. Judge dockery added the additional arrearages to the account & told PBFH to start paying.
This means that after 3 months if PBFH hasn't paid, CSE will send her a threatening letter. After 30 days, if she still doesn't pay, CSE files charges in Judge Dockery's court which takes about 4 to 6 months to get a date & then Judge Dockery will do the same thing again, as she has for the last 10 years. It stinks!
This means that after 3 months if PBFH hasn't paid, CSE will send her a threatening letter. After 30 days, if she still doesn't pay, CSE files charges in Judge Dockery's court which takes about 4 to 6 months to get a date & then Judge Dockery will do the same thing again, as she has for the last 10 years. It stinks!
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Father's Issues / Re: DGD is back home!
« on: Oct 02, 2011, 06:17:38 am »
Thanks, Kitty. Yeah, I guess it proves the theory that we were always hearing about how it takes the kids till somewhere between 18 & 25 to figure out an abusive parent. Since we got home, the kids all got a text from PBFH telling them not to ever text or call her boyfriend again. It was devastating to the little guy, since she never answers her phone or responds to texts. They would contact him & he would answer & then hand her the phone. It sounds like they broke up but no one knows for sure. Maybe he got tired of her mother, who has not gone home yet. It seems that the son she was living with is in no hurry to get her back. LOLROTFLMAO! I would love to be a fly on that wall.
I do worry about the baby but nothing I can do. I guess that is a true case of NMP (Not My Problem) I think that she is trying to get the PBFH to go back with her & no one back there wants the PBFH living near them. I heard from DGD that she is filing a big lawsuit against the dr for several things. Some are just plain dumb & the rest are outrageous. Her incision hasn't completely closed & she claims he told her it may never close. She also claims that as they were wheeling her into the OR for the delivery, he told her that probably either her or the baby would die. But the wildest one is that when you are pregnant your back twists & during delivery the doc is supposed to straighten it & she is suing him because he forgot to do it & now she has back aches. LOL I can't believe she has found a lawyer to take that case. But it sure goes a long way to show what kind of a nut we have been dealing with all these years.
Oh yeah, she got her court date moved back from 9/15 to 10/4 because of her "condition". I'll let you all knows what happens.
I do worry about the baby but nothing I can do. I guess that is a true case of NMP (Not My Problem) I think that she is trying to get the PBFH to go back with her & no one back there wants the PBFH living near them. I heard from DGD that she is filing a big lawsuit against the dr for several things. Some are just plain dumb & the rest are outrageous. Her incision hasn't completely closed & she claims he told her it may never close. She also claims that as they were wheeling her into the OR for the delivery, he told her that probably either her or the baby would die. But the wildest one is that when you are pregnant your back twists & during delivery the doc is supposed to straighten it & she is suing him because he forgot to do it & now she has back aches. LOL I can't believe she has found a lawyer to take that case. But it sure goes a long way to show what kind of a nut we have been dealing with all these years.
Oh yeah, she got her court date moved back from 9/15 to 10/4 because of her "condition". I'll let you all knows what happens.
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Father's Issues / DGD is back home!
« on: Sep 30, 2011, 11:25:59 pm »
A life lesson has been learned & now she will back up & regroup. I got a call Monday of last week, from DGD bawling & saying that she had a fight with the guy who convinced her to move back to TX & she wants to come home. She had lots of job apps in place but there is no work. She moved back to a small town with maybe 35 small businesses & a grocery store & about 150 kids that graduated a month before she got there.
The PBFH wants nothing to do with her because she won't come help her with the new baby. Of course she lives about 15 miles away & PBFH threw her out the last time she was there & also won't send her boyfriend to pick her up. I talked to gr8dad & decided DF & I would go Tuesday to get her. Late Monday, she calls & says McDonalds called her & she has an interview on Wednesday. She will be staying.
After the interview, she calls & says she has the job as soon as she takes a 3 hour course & gets a county food handlers card. I call the health dept & find that the course is held on Thursdays & costs $20. I bank in that town so I call & get them to give her $25 so she can take the test & pay someone $5 for gas to take her. She calls back about 3:00 & says the guy has ditched her & she wants to come home. He is threatening her. I put the police on alert & learn that they are very familiar with him. He has a long criminal history & a reputation for abusing women. I called some friends & they went & picked her & her stuff up & took her to their home for the night. We left 4:30 AM, Thursday, drove 12 hours & got her. Left Friday morning & drove 12 hours back home. It has taken us a week to recover. LOL I am 2 dang old for this stuff. She is settled back in with her dad & brothers & glad to be home. She is looking for a job & planning to start college.
As we were leaving town, DF asked her if she wanted to stop by & say good-bye to her mother. She didn't say no, she said, "Hell No!" Hopefully, she has finally figured out the PBFH. Does the drama never end?
The PBFH wants nothing to do with her because she won't come help her with the new baby. Of course she lives about 15 miles away & PBFH threw her out the last time she was there & also won't send her boyfriend to pick her up. I talked to gr8dad & decided DF & I would go Tuesday to get her. Late Monday, she calls & says McDonalds called her & she has an interview on Wednesday. She will be staying.
After the interview, she calls & says she has the job as soon as she takes a 3 hour course & gets a county food handlers card. I call the health dept & find that the course is held on Thursdays & costs $20. I bank in that town so I call & get them to give her $25 so she can take the test & pay someone $5 for gas to take her. She calls back about 3:00 & says the guy has ditched her & she wants to come home. He is threatening her. I put the police on alert & learn that they are very familiar with him. He has a long criminal history & a reputation for abusing women. I called some friends & they went & picked her & her stuff up & took her to their home for the night. We left 4:30 AM, Thursday, drove 12 hours & got her. Left Friday morning & drove 12 hours back home. It has taken us a week to recover. LOL I am 2 dang old for this stuff. She is settled back in with her dad & brothers & glad to be home. She is looking for a job & planning to start college.
As we were leaving town, DF asked her if she wanted to stop by & say good-bye to her mother. She didn't say no, she said, "Hell No!" Hopefully, she has finally figured out the PBFH. Does the drama never end?
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Father's Issues / Re: I just knew the other shoe would drop
« on: Aug 30, 2011, 08:03:58 pm »
The kids are 19, 18, & 13. The 2 oldest just graduated HS. They know what she is & she keeps showing herself. I think the worst thing he ever said about her was about 2 years ago when she kidnapped the 18 yr old. He was 16 at the time. She told him if he came with her, she would let him quit school, get his drivers license & buy him a truck, so he went with her. We were frantic. We called her & she swore she hadn't heard from him, We found out she had him all along. He was devistated when he found out it was all a lie. He wound up in a mental health hospital. He later admitted that he didn't really believe her but said that he couldn't take the chance that this time would be different.
The 2 oldest asked gr8dad why she did the things she did & he told them, "In the grand scheme of things, you got a really shitty mother. She is what she is & you should just take what she gives, knowing that it can change at any moment." We have tried to shield the younger one as much as possible but he is starting to ask more questions.He does know that his mother is supposed to pay CS but doesn't but spouts her excuses whenever he feels the need to defend her. He is having some real issues with the new baby. He realizes he is no longer the "baby" However, we told him he now has a title he never thought he would have. He is now a big brother. He thought that was cool.
I guess the best example of gr8dad's efforts to keep the children first is that about 4 years ago, her father was dying of cancer & he took her & the 3 kids to see him, over 300 miles away, using his vacation time. He did it because he felt it was important for the kids to see their grandfather one more time & he knew she had no way to get there. Her father died 2 weeks later. Did she appreciate it? Hell no!
So, life goes on & every once in a while she does something that makes us feel that maybe Karma is catching up with her. If that makes us bad people for enjoying seeing her being held accountable for her crap, then I guess we are bad people. But the kids are doing as good as they can & we know it is only because of us!
The 2 oldest asked gr8dad why she did the things she did & he told them, "In the grand scheme of things, you got a really shitty mother. She is what she is & you should just take what she gives, knowing that it can change at any moment." We have tried to shield the younger one as much as possible but he is starting to ask more questions.He does know that his mother is supposed to pay CS but doesn't but spouts her excuses whenever he feels the need to defend her. He is having some real issues with the new baby. He realizes he is no longer the "baby" However, we told him he now has a title he never thought he would have. He is now a big brother. He thought that was cool.
I guess the best example of gr8dad's efforts to keep the children first is that about 4 years ago, her father was dying of cancer & he took her & the 3 kids to see him, over 300 miles away, using his vacation time. He did it because he felt it was important for the kids to see their grandfather one more time & he knew she had no way to get there. Her father died 2 weeks later. Did she appreciate it? Hell no!
So, life goes on & every once in a while she does something that makes us feel that maybe Karma is catching up with her. If that makes us bad people for enjoying seeing her being held accountable for her crap, then I guess we are bad people. But the kids are doing as good as they can & we know it is only because of us!