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1. I should have had shared custody from the beginning
2. There is no reason I should have to pay her for full support if she does not have the children full time

I don't suspect that she will be receptive of any change because I have a hard enough time getting her to pay her share of medical expenses. This is not because she can't afford it, she is able to afford many other thingsool including trips to see her old high school boyfriend that she was e-mailing the last 8 years of our 14 year marriage.

I have already been the only one taking the kids to the doctor/dentist. It really ticks me off that I have to _prove_ that I'm their father in order to get what I should have been given from the beginning.

What type of documentation should I establish?

I have not only had the kids on the schedule that I stated, there have been multiple times that she was unable to have them because of her personal plans (concerts, out of town for the weekend). What types of documentation can I establish that will be more binding than what I am able to state?

Yes, I am interested in eliminating the possiblity that she can take them away again on a whim. Been there, done that.

I had spoken to an attorney last year and he basically restated that even if I had been having them 50% of the time that the court would still probably not change the custody arrangements and that if I brought it up or brought it to court she would probably yank the kids away.

Needless to say I was not impressed with that lawyer's response although in all liklihood it is true here in Sarpy County, Nebraska and is most certainly true with my ex.

I currently only have shared legal custody in Nebraska, my ex has full physical custody.

The original arrangements were that I have the children every other weekend, every other holiday and Mon, Wed and every other Thursday with no overnights during the week. I discussed this with several attorneys and they said I would be fortunate with those arrangements and they were already better than Wilson v. Wilson and without my ex being a drug addict that I would probably not get any better even if I fought it all the way to the state supreme court.

I pay full child support but now also have my children overnight during the week. I've been doing this for over 1 1/2 years and the previous arrangement (no overnights during the week) only lasted about a year following the divorce.

Do you know if this current arrangement where I have 50% care of the children is sufficient impetus in Nebraska to have the custody changed to shared custody? Or should I simply be happy that they did not completely take away all of my rights to my children for no reason and that my ex is benevolent enough to allow me 50% of their time while accepting full child support payments?