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A little late to the party, but I remember a few of the names. Started coming here and custodyreform back in 2000. Oldest is graduating this year and all three are in high school. One DD actually moved in with me a couple of years ago. Now that I've given a ton of money to my ex, courts and lawyers oh, and select sport; it's time to give it to the colleges.

Ahh....but for some reason my kids seem worth every penny.

Anybody ever hear from caring dad at Custody Reform? He was always a great voice of reason?

I wish you luck. It's difficult with an ex who does not help and actually makes it more difficult. I have custody of one of my 3 daughters. She is 16 and does not like going to her mother's house. One, she says her mother is crazy. Two, she cannot stand her mother's husband. I tell her that she needs to see her mother, too. I make sure that she spends time with her mom and try my best to keep that relationship in tact. I also remind her that she has a half-brother that she also needs to spend time with. They adore each other.

I could easily hinder any relationship they have, by not supporting it. It sounds like this is a path your ex has taken and that is too bad. Keep trying. Take baby steps. Establish a new relationship with your daughter. She is 16 right now and as you already know, they seem to know everything. I went through a similar situation with my 18 year old. At one point, I did not even want her around. Now she's a huge blessing I cannot live without. She's since apologized to me for being a "butt-head." Her words, not mine.

Good luck

You should bring a witness to where you are supposed to pick up your child. Document every missed time. Then, file a motion to show cause.

You also need to send her a letter via certified mail stating:
_______________________________________________

Dear XXXXXX:

I was at _____ at hour______ for the court ordered visitation of our child(ren), ______.
You failed to produce our child(ren). I would like to schedule an alternate time to make
up the missed visitation. How does ______ sound? Please let me know if this works
for you, otherwise we can work out an alternate time.

I will be at _____ at ______ time for my regularly scheduled visit with our child. Please
be there with them.

Sincerely,

XXXXX

cc: Court File, your lawyer, etc.

________________________________________________
Make sure a letter gets to your file. Send a letter like this EVERY time she misses the visitation. Then after about three times, file your order to show cause, and ask for make up time with your child. With this kind of documentation, the courts should grant you your time. And if she keeps it up, then they will get her for contempt of court.

Goodluck

hogtyed

It's not appropriate and becomes less so as they get older but I don't think it's illegal either.  Your best bet is to call CPS and ask.

Why would you want to intentionally involve CPS with your children? 

I would not, in any way shape or form, ever intentionally get CPS involved with my children. That's dancing with the devil.

If you get along, talk with the mother about it. In my own situation, it's clearly written in our parenting plan that only the natural mother and father are to administer corporal punishment. I had to remind my ex know when her husband decided it was his duty to spank my kids. And that if it happened again, she would be in court for violating the order. He has not done it in the last 7 years.

Goodluck,

hogtyed

What have you got on the MMPI-2?