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« on: Nov 15, 2013, 05:46:35 AM »
Thanks for replying. I do have child support laid out by the court. The details of visitation were not thoroughly examined during our divorce hearing, we did both agree that the girls would live with their mother and not be separated from one another. Since she hadn't worked for awhile and I still had my job her moving in with her parents and keeping the kids made since while I worked. Neither of us hired an attorney which sounds crazy, I know. I've done my best to simply provide for them but it's getting to the point where I'm now starting to see that I'm allowing myself to get the short end of the stick. I haven't pushed the mom to spend gas money to meet half way because I feel it is just taking $ away from what the girls might need. I think my greatest concern has been the girls impression and perspective of the new situation. I am glad they didn't leave the school they started, they live with mom, nana and grandad. They see me often and, for the most part, they don't encounter us (my ex and I) argue in any way. I'm just now starting to see how I've allowed the situation to cripple me financially, which, in the long run might do more harm than I imagined. Some balance of financial responsibility would be nice, but she does take good care of our girls as a mother.