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So everyone is right, this situation CAN get worse  . Thank you for taking the time to write back.

I think we will need to revisit parenting percentage as it has drastically changed. Also, I think I will just agree to the once a month as long as we can get this written and sent to the courts, because I am afraid once I agree to meeting once a month, soon he will ask for me to drive more frequently.

Much appreciated

I was hoping someone could give some insight on direction on my current situation. I'll try to be as concise as possible.

Original California state orders say that parents meet at a halfway point, 60 miles for each parent for pick up and drop off the child. Visits are from Thursday 5pm to Sunday 5pm.

With that being said I, the custodial parent sought out a job closer to NCP to alleviate the burden of driving, and also it would be closer to my parents. I sent a letter of intent to relocate and NCP did not deny the relocation with the courts. So the new meeting location was only a 12 mile drive each parent. However NCP decided to join the military and is now stationed 200 miles away, making the new exchange point a 100 miles per parent. I specifically moved to LA to avoid the commute as it was becoming financially difficult as well as an inconvenience for work.
NCP suggests we meet halfway once a month and he will have our son for a week or two weeks of the summer.

Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to commute? NCP and I have a fake cordial relationship that turns to be spiteful at times because we've been so relaxed with the court orders. For instance, he'll ask me at 10am if he can see his son at noon, I asked if he could wait til 2pm because we had plans. This in turn results him not dropping off our son until 4pm on christmas day because he wanted to "make up for the time I lost because you were late the other day" 


Anything thoughts will help.
Thank you.