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Thank you, this has been incredibly helpful. I think he would go for that more than anything thing else, I know he doesnt want to spend the money on lawyers, and when Im out of school ill have more money in savings than him due to all the loans I'm taking out. Im taking out a loan in the summer to use to move home. Ill be paying back student loans for a while but I have to get my life started. Again thank you so much for all the help. If I have any more questions I will post them here!

I think that sounds good, I do expect the kids to spend time with there dad, I just know that Im more focused on the kids than he is, I care more about school work and functions. Ive always attended everything and my ex never has. He just isnt into all of that stuff where as I am. I enjoy crafts and holidays, I like doing things with the kids Him not so much. I never ever talk bad about there new step mom or there dad. I know that is a number one no no. I only tell my kids to give her a chance, they really dont know her. ( my 15 yo hates her and wont explain why) I tell him Im ok, its ok. It doesn't make me sad if thats what he is afraid of, but he is still just so mad. I think its because as little time as he spent with the kids and all the time he is giving her and her daughter, it hurts. I contacted him about it and only got a thanks for letting us know.  If my kids decide in the end to stay at dads house I will agree to that because I truly only want my kids happy. I just dont put it past my ex to try and hurt me this way. Also I doubt he would get a lawyer. He is terrible with money and all though he makes a good salary he blows his money as soon as he gets it. He has no savings, We didnt own our house and he has amazingly high car payments. He has a bad habit of blowing money on his toys. I doubt he would give that up to save for a lawyer.

Our custody agreement is vague, We have joint custody with my ex having primary residence. When we got the divorce the judge asked us what our plan was. We told him that the kids would stay with him and when I was out of school the boys can chose. But he didn't put any of that on paper. I live in Texas, They give you the option for child support. I believe in Texas unless there is a major change Child support for three years. My kids are 12 and 15. I know the court will ask them there preference But it isnt the final word. My kids want to live with me. There dad apparently has been making them feel unloved over his new family. He never spends time with them, never has honestly, My kids dont feel wanted. If I could take them I would, But I cant afford it and my sister has no room. If I had stayed home I could maybe have afforded a small apartment for just me. I didn't work, wasn't allowed to have things in my name, so when I left I couldn't even take my car. Again my ex guilted me into not going for alimony or fighting for my things. He super rushed the divorce.  I plan to move back to the same neighborhood so my kids will attend the same school, and can be neer friends. Ill only be a few miles from there dads. Is there any hope of me stating my case and getting my kids if thats what they want?

My ex and I have been divorced less than six months. He has already remarried. When we got the initial divorce we agreed on joint custody. We agreed on our holidays. our court orders aren't specific they just say we have to alternate. When I divorced my ex made me feel guilty, He made me feel so guilty I didnt try for alimony or anything. I was a stay at home mom and have no schooling.

When we divorced I was in college. Because I have no skills and cannot get a job making enough money to support myself I moved in with family while I finish school. My kids are living with him for the next year. We agreed when I finish school our kids could chose where they wanted to live. Since he got remarried things have changed dramatically.

He no longer speaks to me on the phone, only via email. except when he dropped the kids off with me for the summer, I asked if the kids were still able to chose where they wanted to live when I moved back home, the first thing he asked me was "Are you planning on taking me to court for child support?" I said no, because If I had said yes, what would have happened?

Today I emailed him about concerns about our kids. He kept replying with, thank you for notifying US, as in he and his new wife. Now Im afraid when I move back home he wont let my kids have a choice. If I take him to court to move my kids in with me Im afraid that the judge wont see that I was in school bettering my situation so I could afford to take care of my kids and just give him custody because they will have lived alone with him and his new family for a year.

Does anyone have any advice on how I can prepare myself to try and get my kids back? I dont actually want child support or anything. I just want my kids. Oh and both of my kids are teenagers.