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It would probably depend on how long the prison/jail term is.

As far as not knowing if she's headed for the clink (jail), you should be following her court case to see what the outcome is. It's probably public record as to who gets sentenced for what and should easy to find out about.

If the jail term is more than 6 months I'd say to try to reverse custody or get temporary.

I'd ask Soc for some solid advice on this.

Good luck.

TPK

Whoa!, your post might be the longest I've seen.

If your court order states you must inform the other parent in a certain amount of time before you move you better do it. She has the right to try and fight it, and you could be held in contempt for not informing her.

If I'm reading your post correctly, you're saying you're gonna sell your home and live in an RV? I don't think a Judge would side with you on that.

Terminating her rights will be very difficult to do, even with her irrational behavior. She'd literally have to sign her rights away, you cannot ask the court to do it. Short of you being married again, and your new spouse willing to adopt your child, I believe you won't get her rights terminated.

It sounds to me like your ex-wife is Bi-Polar or has some other form of mental illness.

I would ask for overnights right now. In my situation, a Judge was prepared to give me Fri 5pm to Sun 5pm when daughter was just 8 months old.

Supervised visitation is only necessary when a parent has been abusive to a child, to the other parent, drug use etc. If none of the above apply to you then I'd fight against any supervised visits.

There is a chance that Judge could use the excuse that you have to get to know the child again and maybe overnights isn't something to start right away with. Judges are all different, it's hard to predict which way they'll go.

If you only get a few hours like twice a week with no overnights I'd tell thu Judge that the other parent is interfering with you while in her house and that you'd like to take daughter somewhere else instead. Or, the Judge can order the other parent to not be present at her house while you're doing your parenting time.

If you have a relative or friend nearby to take child to, that would be ideal. You can take child to their house and not be bothered by the other parent.

Bottom line here is......ask for MORE than what you want and if necessary settle for less. Worked for me.

Good luck to you.

TPK

"He Who Wants Fetches".......sounds fair to me....as does your court order. I'll make sure my lawyer makes a fuss about this.

Thanks

TPK

It's only temp because wife secreted herself and child from me for 4 months.  The judge gave me the parenting time because I hadn't seen my daughter. That judge only did a hearing for a venue transfer which went thru. So we really haven't even had 1 day in court in the proper county for a divorce.

I'm not concerned the temp order might be permanent as it's not officially "court ordered" on paper rather it's from the court minutes of the hearing. The judge had to stop the bleeding, and did so by ordering some parenting time.  

Thanks for the input.


TPK

I'm in NJ, my wife has defacto custody in NY right now. We live only 1-1/2 hours away from each other. Right now I'm doing all the transportation for my weekend parenting time, and also driving to NY on non-weekend visits.

We are separated right now, visitation has been ordered by NY judge. This is only temp. til a divorce is finalized.

I think transportation should be 50/50, my wife disagrees with that.

I'd like to hear from people who live at least 2 hours apart from a NCP or CP and what was court ordered as far as transportation responsibilities.

I find it hard to think I'm out-of-line requesting 50/50 on the transportation.


Any insights??


TPK

Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out! (slam!)



TPK

You seem to feel you're "entitled" to have custody of the child because you're the mother. He may very well prevail in court and get custody. If I was you I would be scared......very scared.

Why would you need 1/2 of his money if you kept separate accounts anyway?....gold diggin'?

Maybe he'll get custody and then your quote from your last post will read  "He loves to see his Mom on their parenting time, but loves to come home to his Daddy"

TPK

Have the court order her to take a drug test. I would try a hair follicle test because supposedly you can't beat (cheat) that test. You might want to read up on how long Meth stays detectable in a person's system, and then figure which drug test will best detect it ie blood, urine, hair etc.

Don't wait til it's too late, do it now.


Best of luck to you.

TPK

That's quite a story you have there.

I suggest you post this to "dear Socrateaser" in this forum, he should be able to answer all those questions.

Be sure to follow guidelines when posting there!

TPK