**Every single person on this site wants more time with there child, BUT we are NOT allowed more time because of the System (court). We did NOT choose to be a NCP, we were forced to be.** and the rest of your post...
So what you are saying is that according to you, no CP, no grandparent, no NCP just asking a general question about something minor, no friend of someone who is concerned, no one except the NCP's in the exact situation as you should be allowed to utilize anything on this site, including the thoughts, advice and opinions of the more openminded, UNLESS they take up your causes, in the manner you direct, in order to be accepted?
I sympathize for anyone going though their individual custody situation, no matter WHAT the situation is. For whatever reasons they are in one, it is going to be hard on them - you seem to be of the opinion that just because I was a CP and chose to go back to being the NCP for reasons that were best for MY family, I'm some sort of liar to be chastized, called names and treated poorly.
How many NCP's here recognize the fact that the CP in their situation isn't doing the best they can for their child and are helpless to do anything about it? A good percentage. Now just because I'm a father, I'm supposed to just be the stubborn CP just because I have the title and not relinquish it for the sake of "father's rights"? Give me a damn break. At least as a CP my lightbulb turned on and I realized my ex-wife was better at it than me. That's a pretty humbling thing to have to admit but at least I did it. How about a little respect for that?
I didn't come here looking for pity and sympathy, I came here seeking advice and knowldege of others, like most people who come to this site, on how to best make the transition smoothly for my child and my ex, which I got, along with a hell of a lot of unceccesary grief and crap largely thanks to you. So please do not expect me to feel sorry for the situation you are in, I used to, but not after how you have treated me.
Now as I said before, I'm not here to jump on your father's rights cause bandwagon. I didn't come here to post for the benefit of others, I came here to post a question based on MY situation at the time I had one, I also posted a small amount on DV shelters because it is something I'm knowledgeable on based on first hand experience. A conversation that had NOTHING to do with you. A sidebar discussion with MSD. And just because you had a wild hair up your a** you turn it into a flaming session with this string.
Why waste SPARC'S bandwidth with your personal vendetta against me?
**I think you presume much when you infer that your presence on this board is both needed and justified. You will never know what we are going through. **
When the hell did I ever say I was "needed & justified"? I have a right to be here and ask/anwer questions if I so choose, just like anyone else. I also have a right to my opinion, even if it is different than yours. Who the hell are you to say I don't know what you are going through? You have absolutely NO KNOWLEDGE of any of my life or my family less what I've posted here on one specific incident. How do you know I don't have another child, or children, from another relationship? Or I don't have family members going through it? Don't f'ing tell me what I do or don't "know".
Lord help you Bolivar you are worse then a door to door bible thumper. Not everyone wants YOUR particular message or cause crammed down their damn throats.
Now for my sake as well as the rest of the people here, why don't you just leave me the hell alone. You don't like something I say, IGNORE IT.
So what you are saying is that according to you, no CP, no grandparent, no NCP just asking a general question about something minor, no friend of someone who is concerned, no one except the NCP's in the exact situation as you should be allowed to utilize anything on this site, including the thoughts, advice and opinions of the more openminded, UNLESS they take up your causes, in the manner you direct, in order to be accepted?
I sympathize for anyone going though their individual custody situation, no matter WHAT the situation is. For whatever reasons they are in one, it is going to be hard on them - you seem to be of the opinion that just because I was a CP and chose to go back to being the NCP for reasons that were best for MY family, I'm some sort of liar to be chastized, called names and treated poorly.
How many NCP's here recognize the fact that the CP in their situation isn't doing the best they can for their child and are helpless to do anything about it? A good percentage. Now just because I'm a father, I'm supposed to just be the stubborn CP just because I have the title and not relinquish it for the sake of "father's rights"? Give me a damn break. At least as a CP my lightbulb turned on and I realized my ex-wife was better at it than me. That's a pretty humbling thing to have to admit but at least I did it. How about a little respect for that?
I didn't come here looking for pity and sympathy, I came here seeking advice and knowldege of others, like most people who come to this site, on how to best make the transition smoothly for my child and my ex, which I got, along with a hell of a lot of unceccesary grief and crap largely thanks to you. So please do not expect me to feel sorry for the situation you are in, I used to, but not after how you have treated me.
Now as I said before, I'm not here to jump on your father's rights cause bandwagon. I didn't come here to post for the benefit of others, I came here to post a question based on MY situation at the time I had one, I also posted a small amount on DV shelters because it is something I'm knowledgeable on based on first hand experience. A conversation that had NOTHING to do with you. A sidebar discussion with MSD. And just because you had a wild hair up your a** you turn it into a flaming session with this string.
Why waste SPARC'S bandwidth with your personal vendetta against me?
**I think you presume much when you infer that your presence on this board is both needed and justified. You will never know what we are going through. **
When the hell did I ever say I was "needed & justified"? I have a right to be here and ask/anwer questions if I so choose, just like anyone else. I also have a right to my opinion, even if it is different than yours. Who the hell are you to say I don't know what you are going through? You have absolutely NO KNOWLEDGE of any of my life or my family less what I've posted here on one specific incident. How do you know I don't have another child, or children, from another relationship? Or I don't have family members going through it? Don't f'ing tell me what I do or don't "know".
Lord help you Bolivar you are worse then a door to door bible thumper. Not everyone wants YOUR particular message or cause crammed down their damn throats.
Now for my sake as well as the rest of the people here, why don't you just leave me the hell alone. You don't like something I say, IGNORE IT.