You are absolutely right about that. DH and I have been married now for 15 years, and have dealt with CS and the courts for that entire time. SD has been so pas'd that it's beyond ridiculous. (If we only knew then what we know now... but at the time she was young, there was no such term as "Parental Alienation.")
DH's relationship with his now 18 year old daughter is non-existent. She thinks her Mother hung the moon, and Dad is just some stupid jerk. After a while it becomes more than a person can take, and he's pretty much given up. There are many people on these boards who say that if you wait long enough, the child will grow up and see the light. That's not true. Waiting will get you nothing other than more severe, more deeply entrenched alienation. The kids aren't going to see the light, because that means rocking the boat at home with Mom.
We're about out of it now. She's graduating in June, and we're bickering over college support. Either way, child support is over and she is legally an adult. But I'll stay active in this arena - actually I'll probably get MORE active, because I know so much more after all these years than I did in the beginning. I have two boys of my own, and it's so important that this never happens to them.
Any ideas you have regarding getting the message out - count me in.
I wish you all the best in your struggle.
Hazel
DH's relationship with his now 18 year old daughter is non-existent. She thinks her Mother hung the moon, and Dad is just some stupid jerk. After a while it becomes more than a person can take, and he's pretty much given up. There are many people on these boards who say that if you wait long enough, the child will grow up and see the light. That's not true. Waiting will get you nothing other than more severe, more deeply entrenched alienation. The kids aren't going to see the light, because that means rocking the boat at home with Mom.
We're about out of it now. She's graduating in June, and we're bickering over college support. Either way, child support is over and she is legally an adult. But I'll stay active in this arena - actually I'll probably get MORE active, because I know so much more after all these years than I did in the beginning. I have two boys of my own, and it's so important that this never happens to them.
Any ideas you have regarding getting the message out - count me in.
I wish you all the best in your struggle.
Hazel