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>Well we went to court on the contempt issues and for change of venue.  The contempt issues were dismissed and venue is back in the original county.  She has to pay to have venue transferred back.  The only thing we didn't get was attornies fees and costs, but we'll take the small victory!<

CONGRADULATIONS.  Press on!

>by all means FILE with the DA. This is not about revenge, it is about keeping relationship with your children in spite of the attempts by the other parent to prevent that at all costs.<

No, I don't file with the DA.  I am an emasculated Child Support Check, until such time as they can figure out how to make me into a "Dead-Beat Dad"  Which they have already gotten a jump on by harrassing my employer with subpoenas until the were forced to dismiss me of my $50K a year job.  What "best interest of the child"?

No THE POLICE have determined that this matter MUST be referred to the DA.  I just wanted a report to demonstrate to the honoralbe judge presiding that mommy aint so dearest after all.

Revenge?  Never on my part.  I'm only now waking up to the fact that for the past 5 years I have been too good for my own good.  When the CP has wept on my shoulder about how hard her life has gotten since "cutting the aproin strings" from her mother and father (whom she admits to sucumbing to in a co-dependant manner) and when she would whine about her lights getting shut off, her cell phone getting shut off, her office rent needping to get paid - I have been paying as much money extra as I am ordered to may monthly.

Vengeful, hateful dad I am, right?

I never ask questions, I respect her as the mother of my child and want the child to be well cared for so I pay whatever I have and can while stocking my own cupboards with oatmeal for breakfast and ramen and ketsup for all meals thereafter.

I provide my child with full insurance coverage on private insurance which I pay for and have put up thousands of dollars to get my child's mouth unilaterally repaired and made pristine.

When I signed up for the health club locally, I signed my daughter and ex-wife up as well so they would be able to enjoy the benefits of working out and swimming on hot summer days.

Why?  Because I love my child MORE THAN I hold the others in disdain (and I am not about to pretend that I don't hold them in disdain).

>Nail her tail to the wall to the fullest extent of the consequences of her actions and then go after her attorney too.<

Well, of course the "fullest extent of the consequences of herr actions" as you put it - will differ greatly from the way they would apply to me - always have.

When, in 1999 after gambling our family's money away during a drug binge, the mother disappeared with my child... I went to the local police to try to find my daughter (I was the parent who spent the majority of the waking day with the child and because of the mother's revealing an addiction to speed and gambling - I was frightened).

Despite the fact that I demonstrated that the mother had taken off with my daughter in the absence of any divorce decree, was hiding her from me and had barred my access to the child, they kept sweeping it under the carpet while telling me to "just be calm and wait for her to cool down - she'll come back around".

It was the "Hysterical Lady" line, this time being used to shut me up (and they had no way of knowing the 5-year hell they would dispatch on my child in the process).

CAN YOU IMAGINE A WOMAN GOING TO THE POLICE WITH A CHILD ABDUCTION AND BEING TOLD TO JUST CALM DOWN - HE'LL PROBABLY COOL OFF AND BRING THE CHILD HOME!

It smacks of when the cops used to come out to find a wife with a black eye and they would just sweep it under the carpet telling her: "lady, he loves you, let him cool down and it'll all be alright - we don't want to get in the middle of a family".

Absurd rubbish!  If the shoe were on the other foot, and if it had been me who had gotten strung out on junk, gambled our family's money away then took flight to escape CPS - the evening news would have featured me in schackles and an orange jump suit being ushered to the area where I sign my life away on a prefabricated form rubber stamped "guilty".

Recently I subpoenaed the police reports from that early period of our case ONLY TO FIND THEY HAD BEEN DOCTORED, AFTER THE FACT, TO CONFORM TO MY EX'S FATHER'S SIDE OF THE STORY. THERE EXIST NOW TWO SETS OF REPORTS - THE ONE I FILED THE NIGHT OF THE ABDUCTION AND THE COPY THE POLICE "REVISED" ONCE THE EX'S DADDY GOT TO FILING HIS "GET-OUT-OF-JAIL" PAPERS!

About 90 days ago, outraged by my findings, I sent a formal complaint to Internal Affairs Department of the Police Department in Question.

Did they call me to disucss matters?  NO! However, my ex's father did try to subpoena the complaint I issued to the police.

Hhhhmmmmmmm... now, how could my ex-wife's father get notification about my complaint to the plolice regarding a matter which took place 5 years ago?

A shill "on the inside" you say?  Abuse of his Judicial Office by using his authority to manipulate the local police force to bend me over the barrell you say?

Yeah.  Freedom, Democracy, and The Best Interest of The Child...

>The kinds of actions your ex is perpetrating on her children is abuse and neglect.<

I filed on the abuse and neglect... doctors notes, teacher's notes, social workers notes, 'Parental Alienation Syndrome' and 'Divorced Malicious Mother Syndrome' psychological studies to support my case...

What I have right now is a whole different animal which I can only hope to Christ will cause the judge to at least take pause this time before he slaps me down with lip service and gives the "poor, down-trodden mommy" what she is asking for.

This time I will take it to the appelate court, because win, lose, or draw, I WILL NOT STOP FIGHTING FOR MY DAUGHTER'S SHARE IN THE AMERICAN RIGHT TO THE PURSUITE OF HAPPINESS - and woe to those who oppose the little children such rights.

>In the interest of the kids I suggest you request full custody unless and until the other parent can prove they are working in the best interest of the children and not in their own warped interest.<

The problem appears to be that WE act under the presumption that "the best interest of the child" means what it states - and it does not.

If that were the case, as soon as I brought before the court that the child had an injured wrist which the CP admits to injuring during corporal punishment (in violation of the order) and which the docotr's note I introduced states the child told the doctor that her wrist first started hurting when "mommy was hitting me", this same wrist ending up busted 3 weeks later when the child was hidden at the maternal grandmother's house for 6 days...

Wouldn't it be "in the best interest of the child" to immediately grant temporary custody to the father who brings the motion?

CAN YOU IMAGINE A WOMAN GOING INTO A COURT, STATING THAT HER HUSBAND HAD EXACTED CORPORAL PUNISHMENT ON HER AND ASKING FOR PROTECTION - THEN TO BE TOLD TO "HURRY UP AND WAIT".

INSTEAD - and whereas I DO NOT ASK THE COURT TO MODIFY THE SUPPORT I PAY AND WILL CONTINUE TO PAY TO MOM even should the court significantly modify the current timeshare in my favor...

NOW THEY ARE ASKING FOR ATTORNEY FEES (remember, mom entered in her Income and Expense Report that she pays $0,000.00 in attorney fees - as well she should since her bigotted dad represents her for his own joy of damaging his granddaughter's perception of and relationship with her father) AND SUPPORT MODIFICATIONS...

Did you ever get the feeling you've been swindled?

What kind of miserable excuse can we continue to poison our minds with to rationalize how we send countless boys and girls over to foreign lands to die in the name of words like "freedom, peace, democracy, The American Way of Life" when right here and now the system of our proud Nation is being usurped by special interests and is being turned into a crass, carnivale style money machine.

We allow America to be dismantled one family at a time.  We allow children to be conditioned to become "dependent" on The State to support them and mommy, in the meanwhile being conditioned to veiw "father" as being some kind of bumbling, (dead-beat) long distance paycheck.  A faceless eunich lacking any masculine or fatherly qualities at all.  A Benefactor forced to pay-up and stay out of the way (where fathering is concerned NEVER WHEN IT COMES TIME TO SHELL OUT THE TAXABLE DOLLARS).

What "best interest of the child"?

>I am new here but wished to thank everyone in advance for
taking the time to read this post and respond accordingly.<

My posts are rediculous in length sometimes, usually because I enter this place with the presumtion that people where will give a damn and want to help.  This is exactly why I am answering your post.

>Housewife with 3 boys, 10 and under is my title.<

What do you mean "title"?  Do you have joint custody?
 
>Unfortunately having my amazing children had to be a trade off
for being married to the ultimate narcissist.<

Do you use narcissist asa personal jibe, or do you hace a documented diagnosis detailing narcissistic tendencies?  I ask because the first can be used against you as statement unbecoming with intent to alienate if entered into court.

So much for FREE SPEECH.

>5-I just happened to remember my own credit cards from before
and that is how I am going to pay the attorney<

This is not intended to be legal advice, howeve, having spent 5 years fighting 5 times as hard to get half the distance in protecting my parental rights against my ex's father (also her lawyer).

In the time I have chased my parental rights, the one thing I have heard over and over from lawyers and end-users alike is:

"He [She] who FILES FIRST wins."

>He has told me before that if I ever left him, not only would I loose the
children but also I would be left with his debt from his old company which he walked away from.<

Do what is BEST no convenient for the kids - and don't buy into threats.  His does not sound legally founded.  For this kind of advice you should turn to financial advisors.

>He is taking us on a trip to Europe and the middle east to visit his family,(yes he spends money) on the 30th.<

If it were me, I would refrain from allowing the children to enter a foreign counrty (particularly in The Middle East which favors the father over the mother by cultural dispossition) without etching protective order in stone - in fact I would not permit the trip p e r i o d.

>I really want to file before we leave, but don't know if that is the right step to take.<

Better to do too much and not need t than to do too little and need it.

>By the way, he keeps all bills,receipts and paperwork in his office.  Should I go to his office and try to make copies of documents?<

You can subpoena these documents which would pose a better argument for your case than if you get caught doing anything which could be miscontrued as your breaching the law.

>could I have a recored conversation with his mother who does not speak English and is being supported by him to get he to say that she does not own his company?<

Too much trouble for too little impact.  Your case might be better served by showing that he is devisively using the mother in order to evade his ordered responsabilites.

"Action = Nirvana; Hesitation = Oblivion"     ---Sun Tzu "The Art of War"

CHILD ABDUCTION - DOCUMENTED AND FILED.
#9168, "RE: CHILD ABDUCTION!?!...Probably"


The CP became the CP by initially abducting the child
from our home and then having their father/divorce attorney
file divorce papers after the fact to legitimize violation of
child kidnapping codes.

We do have an order of the court which does stipulate matters
to do with the child not being removed from the area without
prior written notice and consent filed with The Court.

We have JOINT LEGAL and JOINT PHYSICAL CUSTODY.  I was duped
into allowing the CP to hold onto the title of CP becuase I
was just so glad to have finally gotten JOINT CUSTODY back in
place.  See the CP and her lawyer have tried repeatedly to
wrtie me
out of my child's life following abduction of the child by
the so-called "CP".

The one thing that has always concenred me and others more
"qualified" (if not more "certified")
than myself is how insulary these people on the CP's side are
with my child.  Never wanting her to be taken to the doctor,
or dentist or school functions by anyone but the CP whose
father/divorce attorney had sufficiently conditioned these
professional to give the NCP "the treatment".

CP returned to the use of corporal punishment resulting in
the injuring of the child's wrist in violation of the
"no-spaking" clause I had written in to the order.

The same wrist ending up broken three weeks later when the
child was allosed by the CP to go 6 days without examination
nor treatment of the broken wrist is violation of the
existing order calling for attentiveness to the medical needs
of the child.

After notifying the CP repeatedly about  the child's
flinching when they
would eat or drink the CP took an alamringly dismissive
attitude rejecting my notification regarding my child's teeth
as as being the
child's play acting for attention which they picked up from
my "side of the family" since "bad teeth run
in my side of the family" - only to reveal once I, the
NCP took my child to have $3,000.00 worth of dental work
done) that the child was in need to have 8 cavities repaired,
two root canals and one molar extraction - a violation of the
same clause of the existing order calling for attentiveness
to the medical
needs.

CP allows the child to be subjected to the CP's family's
taking the child to a church where they fill the child's head
with how evil dad is and how he is a member of a cult (along
with every other member of any other christian sect besides
theirs is a cult) and allowing the CP's mother to tell my
child I am a liar and allowing the CP's step-father to
ridicule me in front of my child and her geusts - a vilation
of the clause in the order which calls for no disparriging of
the NCP is contempt of court?

Therefore, I brought a motion before the court and we are
scheduled to go to an evidenciary hearing on the matter of
custody being awareded soley to me the present day NCP in
less than a month.

The CP quite her job, withdrew from school, has ended
friendships and has demonstrated repeatedly and frequent
emotional breakdowns where she laments he decisions over the
past 5 years.

90 days ago the CP told the MFT we were seeing that she had
an unreasonable fear that if I got more time with my child CP
would lise the child forever.

Now I ask that the CP adhere to the order of the court and
instaed she flees the state with my child and wihtout the
written consent filed with the court and without providing me
with any notification as to where they are or how to contact
my child.

Even kind words of support where no practical advice is forthcoming, will be appreciated.

Sincerely,

A Loving Father

To Clarify:
CHILD ABDUCTION - DOCUMENTED AND FILED.

The CP became the CP by initially abducting the child
from our home and then having their father/divorce attorney
file divorce papers after the fact to legitimize violation of
child kidnapping codes.

We do have an order of the court which does stipulate matters
to do with the child not being removed from the area without
prior written notice and consent filed with The Court.

We have JOINT LEGAL and JOINT PHYSICAL CUSTODY.  I was duped
into allowing the CP to hold onto the title of CP becuase I
was just so glad to have finally gotten JOINT CUSTODY back in
place.  See the CP and her lawyer have tried repeatedly to
wrtie me
out of my child's life following abduction of the child by
the so-called "CP".

The one thing that has always concenred me and others more
"qualified" (if not more "certified")
than myself is how insulary these people on the CP's side are
with my child.  Never wanting her to be taken to the doctor,
or dentist or school functions by anyone but the CP whose
father/divorce attorney had sufficiently conditioned these
professional to give the NCP "the treatment".

CP returned to the use of corporal punishment resulting in
the injuring of the child's wrist in violation of the
"no-spaking" clause I had written in to the order.

The same wrist ending up broken three weeks later when the
child was allosed by the CP to go 6 days without examination
nor treatment of the broken wrist is violation of the
existing order calling for attentiveness to the medical needs
of the child.

After notifying the CP repeatedly about  the child's
flinching when they
would eat or drink the CP took an alamringly dismissive
attitude rejecting my notification regarding my child's teeth
as as being the
child's play acting for attention which they picked up from
my "side of the family" since "bad teeth run
in my side of the family" - only to reveal once I, the
NCP took my child to have $3,000.00 worth of dental work
done) that the child was in need to have 8 cavities repaired,
two root canals and one molar extraction - a violation of the
same clause of the existing order calling for attentiveness
to the medical
needs.

CP allows the child to be subjected to the CP's family's
taking the child to a church where they fill the child's head
with how evil dad is and how he is a member of a cult (along
with every other member of any other christian sect besides
theirs is a cult) and allowing the CP's mother to tell my
child I am a liar and allowing the CP's step-father to
ridicule me in front of my child and her geusts - a vilation
of the clause in the order which calls for no disparriging of
the NCP is contempt of court?

Therefore, I brought a motion before the court and we are
scheduled to go to an evidenciary hearing on the matter of
custody being awareded soley to me the present day NCP in
less than a month.

The CP quite her job, withdrew from school, has ended
friendships and has demonstrated repeatedly and frequent
emotional breakdowns where she laments he decisions over the
past 5 years.

90 days ago the CP told the MFT we were seeing that she had
an unreasonable fear that if I got more time with my child CP
would lise the child forever.

Now I ask that the CP adhere to the order of the court and
instaed she flees the state with my child and wihtout the
written consent filed with the court and without providing me
with any notification as to where they are or how to contact
my child.

Even kind words of support where practical advice cannot be offered is appreciated.

Sincerely,

A Loving Father.

My ex took off with my child yesterday. My ex took my child out of state and caused me to miss my custodial time with my child. This breaks about 3 different points in our order, and my attorney had wrriten a letter to their attorney pointing out that the time they were fighting for was in violation.

Because my ex has abducted my child in the past so as to relocate them as leverage in their case, I asked the local police to file a report.

After sufficiently grilling me (in case you have yet to guess, I am the non-cusotdial Dad) and overscrutinizing my court order (which I keep on hand like my license, registration and proof of insurance), the cop told me he would take the order back and scrutinize it some more, then call me letting me know his thoughts.

He did call me explaining that he and his superior wanted to know if I wanted the report sent to the DA for criminal charges.

What does this mean to me? Will they take my ex to jail, and should I allow this?

Please advise,

[email protected]

>>My question(s) is this.  Mom has recently decided she does not agree with three of the court order items and has sent my husband letters stating she is not in agreement and will not be following them.  Two of the three issues involve visitation (one is for making up missed parenting time and the other is for an additional week of visitation to be taken during the year).  Since these issues are dealing with visitation and mom has out right put it in writing that she will not be following
the court order, should we file contempt?<<

I think it is safe to say that the issue must be brought to the Judge's attention, which while not offering legal advice, you could do by filing OSC for modification of custody and child support USING your above explanation in your written Declaration which you would attach to your declaration page FORM MC - 031.

I have over six instances wherein the mother of my daughter is in violation of our existing order.  Although I have a pending motion now and have produced copious amounts of documented evidence from state licensed officials, I don't really have to produce evidence for most of my basis for contempt, becuase my ex-wife admits under penalty of perjury in her responsive declaration that she is guilty of said violations.

FILE CONTEMPT, right?  WRONG!  According to my attorney, I must take the "moral high-road" and not be percieved by the judge as the "uppity dad".

Evidently my ex-wife enjoys the privillege of breaking the order of the court wheresoever it pleases her and if I excercise my right to protect my child, well then I get bent over...

In Re: CASE NUMBER: FL – 48603
       Undetected Abuse.

To Whom It May Concern:

My name is James Chamberlain and I am a resident of
Northern California at 865 Red Bluff CA 96080.

I am a non-custodial parent of a seven year old
daughter and my ex-wife's father is also her pro-bono
divorce attorney in Tahema County Superior Case: FL –
48603.

My ex-wife suffers from serious psychological
problems, caused our car to be reposessed, ran up
thousands of dollars in bills, bouncing checks to and
verbally abusing our landlord who then issued us
eviction papers, the after gambling our family's money
away while on a drug binge in Las Vegas, abducted our
child and fled our marriage.

In March of 1999 she abducted our child and
disappeared with her for weeks.

Nonetheless, she has been sheltered from these issues
and her father filed divorce papers to legitimize my
ex-wife's child kidnapping after the fact.

Recently I had to take my daughter to the doctor
because she was complaining of a sprained wrist.
While at the doctor's my daughter told the doctor that
the first time the child's wrist began hurting was
when "mommy was hitting" her (evidently the child was
blocking a blow).

Weeks later the child susatained a break to this same
wrist while in the mother's care, but rather than
taking the child to the hospital to have the wrist
examined and treated, the mother cloistered the child
at the grandmother's trailer in the hills of
Cottonwood.

Previously my ex-wife has had her father revoke my
parental rights and in each instance I gain them back
with more time with my child being granted to me than
before.  

Most recently when I restored my parental rights I
immediately took my daughter to get her teeth worked
on to discover that the mother had allowed the child
to go 7 years with only one trip to the dentist and
the child now had eight cavities, needed two root
canals and one molar extraction.

There are also issues of the mother enabling parental
alienation which while constituting emotional abuse is
far more challenging to track and prove.

Because of all of this I filed a motion to modify
custody so that I could act as Primary Caregiver while
the mother completes her schooling and whatever else
it is keeping her from caring sufficiently for my
daughter's needs.

This has dragged out for months and now when my
daughter is seen by counselors they all scratch their
heads and state that my daughter does not look like
she is being abused.

I explain that there is no way to detect the abuse in
a situation where the mother is aware she is under
scrutiny and even in light of the doctor's notes,
teacher's notes, dentist's notes and even the mother's
own admissions to returning to corporal punishment in
violation of the existing order which she submitted
under the penalty of perjury to The Court in her
responsive declaration - no body seems interested or
motivated to assist with contempt of court or criminal
investigations.

I am trying right now to find statistics pertinent to
the number of children who are discovered to have been
abused which were previously undetected even by
counselors, etc.

Please advise,

James D. Chamberlain
[email protected]
865 Locust Street
Red Bluff CA 96080
530.527.5160

In Re: CASE NUMBER: FL – 48603
       Undetected Abuse.

To Whom It May Concern:

My name is James Chamberlain and I am a resident of
Northern California at 865 Red Bluff CA 96080.

I am a non-custodial parent of a seven year old
daughter and my ex-wife's father is also her pro-bono
divorce attorney in Tahema County Superior Case: FL –
48603.

My ex-wife suffers from serious psychological
problems, caused our car to be reposessed, ran up
thousands of dollars in bills, bouncing checks to and
verbally abusing our landlord who then issued us
eviction papers, the after gambling our family's money
away while on a drug binge in Las Vegas, abducted our
child and fled our marriage.

In March of 1999 she abducted our child and
disappeared with her for weeks.

Nonetheless, she has been sheltered from these issues
and her father filed divorce papers to legitimize my
ex-wife's child kidnapping after the fact.

Recently I had to take my daughter to the doctor
because she was complaining of a sprained wrist.
While at the doctor's my daughter told the doctor that
the first time the child's wrist began hurting was
when "mommy was hitting" her (evidently the child was
blocking a blow).

Weeks later the child susatained a break to this same
wrist while in the mother's care, but rather than
taking the child to the hospital to have the wrist
examined and treated, the mother cloistered the child
at the grandmother's trailer in the hills of
Cottonwood.

Previously my ex-wife has had her father revoke my
parental rights and in each instance I gain them back
with more time with my child being granted to me than
before.  

Most recently when I restored my parental rights I
immediately took my daughter to get her teeth worked
on to discover that the mother had allowed the child
to go 7 years with only one trip to the dentist and
the child now had eight cavities, needed two root
canals and one molar extraction.

There are also issues of the mother enabling parental
alienation which while constituting emotional abuse is
far more challenging to track and prove.

Because of all of this I filed a motion to modify
custody so that I could act as Primary Caregiver while
the mother completes her schooling and whatever else
it is keeping her from caring sufficiently for my
daughter's needs.

This has dragged out for months and now when my
daughter is seen by counselors they all scratch their
heads and state that my daughter does not look like
she is being abused.

I explain that there is no way to detect the abuse in
a situation where the mother is aware she is under
scrutiny and even in light of the doctor's notes,
teacher's notes, dentist's notes and even the mother's
own admissions to returning to corporal punishment in
violation of the existing order which she submitted
under the penalty of perjury to The Court in her
responsive declaration - no body seems interested or
motivated to assist with contempt of court or criminal
investigations.

I am trying right now to find statistics pertinent to
the number of children who are discovered to have been
abused which were previously undetected even by
counselors, etc.

Please advise,

James D. Chamberlain
[email protected]
865 Locust Street
Red Bluff CA 96080
530.527.5160

Thanks to everyone who has assisted in my case by offering advice on these boards and off - I prevailed in my case and now have 50/50 custody (after 5 long years of struggling to get out from under a rigged case).

Simply put, I should have had 50/50 custody at the very onset of the split - but because of my opposition's abuse of authority as officer of the court, and the biological mother's insidious lies - I have had to fight 5 years - somtimes In Pro Per, to get this far.

But my kid needs me and was never going to be anything to BM besides a social services meal ticket - so I never gave up despite the fact that it's been a long hard thankless hill to climb.

My ex-wife and her lawyer (also her dad and my ex-father-in-law) were trying to punish me for motioning the courts (how dare I protect my child from neglect and abuse - AND - enforce my rights as a father) by asking for modification of child support.

While I got the 50/50 I was after - they did modify child support for mom - THEY SHAVED 2/3 OFF HER SUPPORT!

Following the 'fire-side' advice I received on the sly from several of my opponent's rival lawyers in town - I got a Certified Family Law Specialist from out of town who also modified the order so there is no longer a CUSTODIAL and NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT and no VISITATION.

Now we are PARENT and OTHER PARENT and we have TIME-SHARE with the child.

MY LASTING COMPLAINT:
I probably could have gotten SOLE custody - were it not for the fact that the BM and her dad/lawyer kept threatening to bring in a panel of expert whitnesses which they stated would support allegations.

Additionally, they said that they were in posession of emails sent from me to the child's school and that these would somehow be damning to my case.

Never mind that fact that I am on the PTA, teach a class at the child's school and have confirmed with the clergy, principle, teachers, and parents of students from this school all encouraging my involvement and participation in my daughter's environment - somehow the BM has been able to gether up emails and keeps a clandestine "panel" of ringers waiting to chime in about whatever they have to crucify me with.

Obviously it is harmful to the child to have the BM constantly stalking me and trying to manipulate ANY of my parenting measures against me as somehow representing an attack on her.

MY QUESTION:
What can I do to protect myself?  How can the BM enter into court data when the only relevance it has to custody is to demonstrate how much the BM hates my fathering my kid?

Thnaks again and keep them cards and letters coming!

>by all means FILE with the DA. This is not about revenge, it is about keeping relationship with your children in spite of the attempts by the other parent to prevent that at all costs.<

No, I don't file with the DA.  I am an emasculated Child Support Check, until such time as they can figure out how to make me into a "Dead-Beat Dad"  Which they have already gotten a jump on by harrassing my employer with subpoenas until the were forced to dismiss me of my $50K a year job.  What "best interest of the child"?

No THE POLICE have determined that this matter MUST be referred to the DA.  I just wanted a report to demonstrate to the honoralbe judge presiding that mommy aint so dearest after all.

Revenge?  Never on my part.  I'm only now waking up to the fact that for the past 5 years I have been too good for my own good.  When the CP has wept on my shoulder about how hard her life has gotten since "cutting the aproin strings" from her mother and father (whom she admits to sucumbing to in a co-dependant manner) and when she would whine about her lights getting shut off, her cell phone getting shut off, her office rent needping to get paid - I have been paying as much money extra as I am ordered to may monthly.

Vengeful, hateful dad I am, right?

I never ask questions, I respect her as the mother of my child and want the child to be well cared for so I pay whatever I have and can while stocking my own cupboards with oatmeal for breakfast and ramen and ketsup for all meals thereafter.

I provide my child with full insurance coverage on private insurance which I pay for and have put up thousands of dollars to get my child's mouth unilaterally repaired and made pristine.

When I signed up for the health club locally, I signed my daughter and ex-wife up as well so they would be able to enjoy the benefits of working out and swimming on hot summer days.

Why?  Because I love my child MORE THEN I hold the others in disdain.

>Nail her tail to the wall to the fullest extent of the consequences of her actions and then go after her attorney too.<

Well, of course the "fullest extent of the consequences of herr actions" as you put it - will differ greatly from the way they would apply to me - always have.

When, in 1999 after gambling our family's money away during a drug binge, the mother disappeared with my child... I went to the local police to try to find my daughter (I was the parent who spent the majority of the waking day with the child and because of the mother's revealing an addiction to speed and gambling - I was frightened).

Despite the fact that I demonstrated that the mother had taken off with my daughter in the absence of any divorce decree, was hiding her from me and had barred my access to the child, they kept sweeping it under the carpet while telling me to "just be calm and wait for her to cool down - she'll come back around".

It was the "Hysterical Lady" line, this time being used to shut me up (and they had no way of knowing the 5-year hell they would dispatch on my child in the process).

CAN YOU IMAGINE A WOMAN GOING TO THE POLICE WITH A CHILD ABDUCTION AND BEING TOLD TO JUST CALM DOWN - HE'LL PROBABLY COOL OFF AND BRING THE CHILD HOME!

It smacks of when the cops used to come out to find a wife with a black eye and they would just sweep it under the carpet telling her: "lady, he loves you, let him cool down and it'll all be alright - we don't want to get in the middle of a family".

Absurd rubbish!  If the shoe were on the other foot, and if it had been me who had gotten strung out on junk, gambled our family's money away then took flight to escape CPS - the evening news would have featured me in schackles and an orange jump suit being ushered to the area where I sign my life away on a prefabricated form rubber stamped "guilty".

Recently I subpoenaed the police reports from that early period of our case ONLY TO FIND THEY HAD BEEN DOCTORED, AFTER THE FACT, TO CONFORM TO MY EX'S FATHER'S SIDE OF THE STORY. THERE EXIST NOW TWO SETS OF REPORTS - THE ONE I FILED THE NIGHT OF THE ABDUCTION AND THE COPY THE POLICE "REVISED" ONCE THE EX'S DADDY GOT TO FILING HIS "GET-OUT-OF-JAIL" PAPERS!

About 90 days ago, outraged by my findings, I sent a formal complaint to Internal Affairs Department of the Police Department in Question.

Did they call me to disucss matters?  NO! However, my ex's father did try to subpoena the complaint I issued to the police.

Hhhhmmmmmmm... now, how could my ex-wife's father get notification about my complaint to the plolice regarding a matter which took place 5 years ago?

A shill "on the inside" you say?  Abuse of his Judicial Office by using his authority to manipulate the local police force to bend me over the barrell you say?

Yeah.  Freedom, Democracy, and The Best Interest of The Child...

>The kinds of actions your ex is perpetrating on her children is abuse and neglect.<

I filed on the abuse and neglect... doctors notes, teacher's notes, social workers notes, 'Parental Alienation Syndrome' and 'Divorced Malicious Mother Syndrome' psychological studies to support my case...

What I have right now is a whole different animal which I can only hope to Christ will cause the judge to at least take pause this time before he slaps me down with lip service and gives the "poor, down-trodden mommy" what she is asking for.

This time I will take it to the appelate court, because win, lose, or draw, I WILL NOT STOP FIGHTING FOR MY DAUGHTER'S SHARE IN THE AMERICAN RIGHT TO THE PURSUITE OF HAPPINESS - and woe to those who oppose the little children such rights.

>In the interest of the kids I suggest you request full custody unless and until the other parent can prove they are working in the best interest of the children and not in their own warped interest.<

The problem appears to be that WE act under the presumption that "the best interest of the child" means what it states - and it does not.

If that were the case, as soon as I brought before the court that the child had an injured wrist which the CP admits to injuring during corporal punishment (in violation of the order) and which the docotr's note I introduced states the child told the doctor that her wrist first started hurting when "mommy was hitting me", this same wrist ending up busted 3 weeks later when the child was hidden at the maternal grandmother's house for 6 days...

Wouldn't it be "in the best interest of the child" to immediately grant temporary custody to the father who brings the motion?

CAN YOU IMAGINE A WOMAN GOING INTO A COURT, STATING THAT HER HUSBAND HAD EXACTED CORPORAL PUNISHMENT ON HER AND ASKING FOR PROTECTION - THEN TO BE TOLD TO "HURRY UP AND WAIT".

INSTEAD - and whereas I DO NOT ASK THE COURT TO MODIFY THE SUPPORT I PAY AND WILL CONTINUE TO PAY TO MOM even should the court significantly modify the current timeshare in my favor...

NOW THEY ARE ASKING FOR ATTORNEY FEES (remember, mom entered in her Income and Expense Report that she pays $0,000.00 in attorney fees - as well she should since her bigotted dad represents her for his own joy of damaging his granddaughter's perception of and relationship with her father) AND SUPPORT MODIFICATIONS...

Did you ever get the feeling you've been swindled?

What kind of miserable excuse can we continue to poison our minds with to rationalize how we send countless boys and girls over to foreign lands to die in the name of words like "freedom, peace, democracy, The American Way of Life" when right here and now the system of our proud Nation is being usurped by special interests and is being turned into a crass, carnivale style money machine.

We allow America to be dismantled one family at a time.  We allow children to be conditioned to become "dependent" on The State to support them and mommy, in the meanwhile being conditioned to veiw "father" as being some kind of bumbling, (dead-beat) long distance paycheck.  A faceless eunich lacking any masculine or fatherly qualities at all.  A Benefactor forced to pay-up and stay out of the way (where fathering is concerned NEVER WHEN IT COMES TIME TO SHELL OUT THE TAXABLE DOLLARS).

What "best interest of the child"?