Marybeth,
Claims by anyone that "deadbeat dads don't exist" should be ignored. Of course, they exist. What you might be missing from the rhetoric is that there is a major problem with fathers being INVOLUNTARILY FORCED OUT of their children's lives.
I am one of them.
My child was taken from me with NO HEARING WHATSOEVER. The mother was awarded child support, and my daughter (now 7) has been completely without my care for more than a YEAR AND HALF. Although these matters have left me devastated and suicidal, I am never more than half a month late with the support checks. I recently learned that my daughter went through surgury when I was sent a medical bill. I have been in arrested three times, once for "failing" to pay $42.50 in my share of an insurance premium that I knew nothing about. (When the judge was told that I was never notified of the amount due, the judge replied "The court order doesn't SAY she has to send you any notification... it just says you're suppose to pay it." That makes ALOT of sense, doesn't it?!)
My daughter and I were always very close. In fact, a great deal of the mother's malicious spirit is no doubt in response to her jealousy from constantly hearing from our daughter how much she wants to live with me instead of her. Despite all of this, I still would support and encourage the relationship between my duaghter and her mother however I could.
Despite all the effort that this mother has undergone to alienate our child from me, and despite the fact that I pay what is due despite the obstacles put in my way by the mother to earn a decent living, she actually openly describes me to people as a "deadbeat dad".
I hope that when you hear UNBALANCED claims of any gender being any more or less of a parent to all of cur children, that you remember my story as well as yours, and stress to others that bad parenting is exclusive to NEITHER gender. Our job as [hopefully] good parents is to look after our children the best we can, and to fight against the injustices done to ANY parent, male or female, who puts their children first.
Thank you
Michael
Claims by anyone that "deadbeat dads don't exist" should be ignored. Of course, they exist. What you might be missing from the rhetoric is that there is a major problem with fathers being INVOLUNTARILY FORCED OUT of their children's lives.
I am one of them.
My child was taken from me with NO HEARING WHATSOEVER. The mother was awarded child support, and my daughter (now 7) has been completely without my care for more than a YEAR AND HALF. Although these matters have left me devastated and suicidal, I am never more than half a month late with the support checks. I recently learned that my daughter went through surgury when I was sent a medical bill. I have been in arrested three times, once for "failing" to pay $42.50 in my share of an insurance premium that I knew nothing about. (When the judge was told that I was never notified of the amount due, the judge replied "The court order doesn't SAY she has to send you any notification... it just says you're suppose to pay it." That makes ALOT of sense, doesn't it?!)
My daughter and I were always very close. In fact, a great deal of the mother's malicious spirit is no doubt in response to her jealousy from constantly hearing from our daughter how much she wants to live with me instead of her. Despite all of this, I still would support and encourage the relationship between my duaghter and her mother however I could.
Despite all the effort that this mother has undergone to alienate our child from me, and despite the fact that I pay what is due despite the obstacles put in my way by the mother to earn a decent living, she actually openly describes me to people as a "deadbeat dad".
I hope that when you hear UNBALANCED claims of any gender being any more or less of a parent to all of cur children, that you remember my story as well as yours, and stress to others that bad parenting is exclusive to NEITHER gender. Our job as [hopefully] good parents is to look after our children the best we can, and to fight against the injustices done to ANY parent, male or female, who puts their children first.
Thank you
Michael