In Florida, there's a site you can go to see if a DL# is valid. You enter the DL# and it tells you whether it's active or suspended. I'm checking to see if your state has something similar.
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#44
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Availability of Information
Mar 21, 2007, 08:57:19 AM
I like doing online research. If you'd like to PM me your information I'll be happy to do a search for you, then show you what I linked to so you can find it next time.
I had luck two different ways. To get an "arrest record" here in Florida, I went to the local office of the state law division to get copies. I don't remember it costing much. Another thing I did was get one particular arrest record for a character witness. I knew where the arrest had been made, so I went to that particular city's sheriff's office and asked for a copy of that person's arrest record. I was even able to go to the jail he spent weekends at and get a copy of what weekends he served, and when he checked in and out, after he had violated his probabation.
States are all different. Florida has a "Sunshine Law" where your state to start pointing you in the right direction.
FLMom
I had luck two different ways. To get an "arrest record" here in Florida, I went to the local office of the state law division to get copies. I don't remember it costing much. Another thing I did was get one particular arrest record for a character witness. I knew where the arrest had been made, so I went to that particular city's sheriff's office and asked for a copy of that person's arrest record. I was even able to go to the jail he spent weekends at and get a copy of what weekends he served, and when he checked in and out, after he had violated his probabation.
States are all different. Florida has a "Sunshine Law" where your state to start pointing you in the right direction.
FLMom
#45
Dear Socrateaser / RE: ANYONE?
Mar 10, 2007, 06:16:50 PM
I understand that you're worried about your kiddos. I would be too. Are they old enough to know to call the police if they're beaten again?
I had a similar experience, though not with a beating. My ex called one night, out of the blue about 10pm at night, calling me the c-word among other nasty things, and telling me I'd ruined his life, etc. He had the kiddos with him that night and I was freaking out whether they were OK or not. I wasn't going to go over there, but I did call the local sheriff in his area and explain to them what happened. I asked them to perform a welfare check on my children. They went around the house after the ex let them in and checked on all of them. I knew they were OK then, and could quit panicking.
While it's too late this time, if it happens again, maybe you could have them call you immedietly if they can't call the police themselves. Then you can call and have someone do a welfare check.
I'd follow up that phone call to CYS with the paperwork I mentioned earlier. That way, you have a paper trail from day one should this ever have to go through the court system. And it doesn't have to result in a legal battle, not if you're able with common sense to back up the fact that you couldn't have done it if you weren't there. I mean, I'm sure they have enough on their plates with other matters----if you come back from their accusations strongly enough, it could dissuade them from persuing the matter if they know they're going to have to spend time and funds dealing with this in the courts. That's why I'd let them know you have your lawyer on speed dial----doesn't mean you're gonna do it, but you could.
Again, not legal advice. Just my own opinion.
FLMom
I had a similar experience, though not with a beating. My ex called one night, out of the blue about 10pm at night, calling me the c-word among other nasty things, and telling me I'd ruined his life, etc. He had the kiddos with him that night and I was freaking out whether they were OK or not. I wasn't going to go over there, but I did call the local sheriff in his area and explain to them what happened. I asked them to perform a welfare check on my children. They went around the house after the ex let them in and checked on all of them. I knew they were OK then, and could quit panicking.
While it's too late this time, if it happens again, maybe you could have them call you immedietly if they can't call the police themselves. Then you can call and have someone do a welfare check.
I'd follow up that phone call to CYS with the paperwork I mentioned earlier. That way, you have a paper trail from day one should this ever have to go through the court system. And it doesn't have to result in a legal battle, not if you're able with common sense to back up the fact that you couldn't have done it if you weren't there. I mean, I'm sure they have enough on their plates with other matters----if you come back from their accusations strongly enough, it could dissuade them from persuing the matter if they know they're going to have to spend time and funds dealing with this in the courts. That's why I'd let them know you have your lawyer on speed dial----doesn't mean you're gonna do it, but you could.
Again, not legal advice. Just my own opinion.
FLMom
#46
Dear Socrateaser / RE: ANYONE?
Mar 10, 2007, 05:48:16 PM
Geez Louise!!
My first instinct would be to find out if CYS has an arbitration process. Send a letter stating the facts, that you were the one that called and a copy of your court papers showing that you did not have custody of the child during that time period.
If it was me, I'd hint at the fact that I'd hate to have to have my lawyer get involved, and that you're sure that things could be settled and fixed amicably before you make that call.
NOT legal advice, just my thoughts.
This is so crappy. I'm sorry you're going through this!! It's ridiculous.
Let us know what happens,
FLMom
My first instinct would be to find out if CYS has an arbitration process. Send a letter stating the facts, that you were the one that called and a copy of your court papers showing that you did not have custody of the child during that time period.
If it was me, I'd hint at the fact that I'd hate to have to have my lawyer get involved, and that you're sure that things could be settled and fixed amicably before you make that call.
NOT legal advice, just my thoughts.
This is so crappy. I'm sorry you're going through this!! It's ridiculous.
Let us know what happens,
FLMom
#47
Dear Socrateaser / RE: ANYONE?
Mar 10, 2007, 03:00:48 PM
While it won't be "legal advice" per se, I'm all for us helping each other out and I'll keep coming back. I like our family. Matter of fact, I wonder if MixedBag and backwardsbike are really relatives of mine, lol.
ICITD----what's going on?
ICITD----what's going on?
#48
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Now I know I've been here too long....
Mar 10, 2007, 02:57:11 PM
Earlier this week there was a post on another board that just torqued my biscuits. My thought coming online today was, "if nothing else, I'll just read Soc's board. . . ." instead of wanting to reach through the screen and grab someone. Then I came here.
Sadness. I am just so sad that I'll never get the chance to thank Soc personally for all of the good he did for our family. I too was waiting for the time that he would tell us all "the rest of the story" about why he did this for others and the reasons for his passions behind all of the help. It's kind of fitting in a way, that the mystery of Socrateaser will continue to be a mystery.
He helped me out so much, I even offered my sister's hand in marriage to him, lol.
I agree that the name should be retired. Whomever steps forward for the challenge will never be "Soc". His straight on the money answers coupled with wry wit and the ability to stand in another person's shoes cannot be duplicated. There's some things in life that you just can't pass off, and Soc's way of doing things was one of them.
I thought that recent answers to questions were a little terse sometimes. I thought maybe Soc was just having a bad week, or was too busy to answer questions the way he used to. Now that we know what we know, I realize that Mr. Kaplan could never do this like Soc---with Soc it was about the passion behind it, not the money up front.
While I feel duped, it's not by Soc. For one, I don't think he would hand over the reins of this forum unless the circumstances were dire. Two, I'm sure that he could not have forseen what would be occuring three months down the road. Pro bono isn't meant to be easy, even for a layman in everyday tasks. There's a sacrifice involved to volunteer work.
I'm sorry that it took Mr. Kaplan three months to figure this out, but I'm glad he figured it out (hopefully) before he gave poor advice to someone. This isn't a cake decorating tipline or a forum for weekend carpentry, it is life or death for a lot of families. So if only for that reason, I thank Mr. Kaplan for finally being honest.
Thank you, SPARC ADMIN, for letting us know what's going on and not just cancelling the board. You could have just shoved this under a rug and you didn't. That to me just expounds on the reasons why we trust SPARC. I'll continue to come here, and hopefully we can find another family law atty that's willing to do what Soc did. If he/she has only half of Soc's knowledge and flair, I for one will be happy.
FLMom
Sadness. I am just so sad that I'll never get the chance to thank Soc personally for all of the good he did for our family. I too was waiting for the time that he would tell us all "the rest of the story" about why he did this for others and the reasons for his passions behind all of the help. It's kind of fitting in a way, that the mystery of Socrateaser will continue to be a mystery.
He helped me out so much, I even offered my sister's hand in marriage to him, lol.
I agree that the name should be retired. Whomever steps forward for the challenge will never be "Soc". His straight on the money answers coupled with wry wit and the ability to stand in another person's shoes cannot be duplicated. There's some things in life that you just can't pass off, and Soc's way of doing things was one of them.
I thought that recent answers to questions were a little terse sometimes. I thought maybe Soc was just having a bad week, or was too busy to answer questions the way he used to. Now that we know what we know, I realize that Mr. Kaplan could never do this like Soc---with Soc it was about the passion behind it, not the money up front.
While I feel duped, it's not by Soc. For one, I don't think he would hand over the reins of this forum unless the circumstances were dire. Two, I'm sure that he could not have forseen what would be occuring three months down the road. Pro bono isn't meant to be easy, even for a layman in everyday tasks. There's a sacrifice involved to volunteer work.
I'm sorry that it took Mr. Kaplan three months to figure this out, but I'm glad he figured it out (hopefully) before he gave poor advice to someone. This isn't a cake decorating tipline or a forum for weekend carpentry, it is life or death for a lot of families. So if only for that reason, I thank Mr. Kaplan for finally being honest.
Thank you, SPARC ADMIN, for letting us know what's going on and not just cancelling the board. You could have just shoved this under a rug and you didn't. That to me just expounds on the reasons why we trust SPARC. I'll continue to come here, and hopefully we can find another family law atty that's willing to do what Soc did. If he/she has only half of Soc's knowledge and flair, I for one will be happy.
FLMom
#49
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Meeting with FL House Vice-Chair of Committee on Healthy Families
Feb 19, 2007, 03:45:16 PM
POC,
I am absolutely 100% behind what you are trying to achieve. If there's any help that you need, such as clerical work or research, please feel free to PM me for further contact. I live in Tallahassee, which may also help.
Sincerely,
FLMom
I am absolutely 100% behind what you are trying to achieve. If there's any help that you need, such as clerical work or research, please feel free to PM me for further contact. I live in Tallahassee, which may also help.
Sincerely,
FLMom
#50
Dear Socrateaser / My Experience
Feb 05, 2007, 11:54:36 AM
Father is CP, and I, mother, am NCP. We have joint legal custody in FL.
When this situation presented itself with us, it was in a phone conversation with the school. They refused to give me any information about the children's classes or teachers. The next day I went to the school with a copy of the orders stating "joint legal custody".
In our case, the school felt like they'd been rooked by the other parent. Not only did they pull out the file and show me the paperwork where he had left the spot for my information blank, but they stated that I was entitled to copies of all paperwork on file due to legalities (I think it's FERPA).
In our case, it helped us later on to have proof of this action as a direct violation of the spirit of "joint custody". Document, document, document.
Soc, I believe you were the one who told me to go to the school with a copy of the order. Even though it's been a couple years, thank you again!!!! I haven't had a "school" issue since.
Sincerely,
FLMom
When this situation presented itself with us, it was in a phone conversation with the school. They refused to give me any information about the children's classes or teachers. The next day I went to the school with a copy of the orders stating "joint legal custody".
In our case, the school felt like they'd been rooked by the other parent. Not only did they pull out the file and show me the paperwork where he had left the spot for my information blank, but they stated that I was entitled to copies of all paperwork on file due to legalities (I think it's FERPA).
In our case, it helped us later on to have proof of this action as a direct violation of the spirit of "joint custody". Document, document, document.
Soc, I believe you were the one who told me to go to the school with a copy of the order. Even though it's been a couple years, thank you again!!!! I haven't had a "school" issue since.
Sincerely,
FLMom