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My attorney thinks that he can get a sex offender straight outta prison more time than he can get my dh.. we have asked him how can we get her off this case, he said its virtually impossible as she is the one who reviews and approves  the requests for dismissal. We will have to see what happens next week, we will take it to the top if we have to..  the problem is that in this town the attorneys dont want to piss her off.. cause if you do.. shell screw you on every case in front of her for a month!!

I need to do some research.. but Im not really sure where to start..

ok, so my dh attorney went in front of judge yesterday for clarification on her ruling and then she said that it was her intention to limit dads time with child after her 7 minute interview with him, and that she thought the only problem in childs life was his father. Our atty told her taht that was extremely prejudicial and bias for the mother and that we werent even given an opportunity to respond to mothers allegations due to when she filed her paperwork (day before court), therefore she is making a one sided determination. The judge said well if your client wants to be heard he can come next week and he and I will have a chat in chambers. Our atty has been practicing family law for 30 years.. he has never had this done with a client, but he said, what the judge is counting on is this big ol black  guy (hes got 20 inch arms  on him) to come in there and act uneducated and ignorant, and intimidating.. but what she doesnt realize is as soon as he opens his mouth she will see he is the nicest guy she will meet.. soooo were hoping its a good thing

Have any of you ever heard  of judge talking personally in chambers with only one party present???

I think it gets tricky when you cross state lines, my step daughter lives in FL we are in CA.. we had to have our order of visitation written very specific, I would send a letter certified from your attorney to her stating what you are willing to allow for summer visitation, who will pay for travel expenses, that you will receive her portion of paid itinerary prior to her departure to moms house, to ensure proper return.. following is an example of what we do>...

child will spend 7 weeks of summer in CA with father, from May 26 to... father will pay for flight from FL to CA and provide mother with paid itinerary no later than 30 days prior to departure,  mother will pay for flight from CA to FL and furnish father with paid itinerary no less than 30 days prior to childs return to FL, if mother fails to provide paid itinerary child stays in CA until such is provided, no flights will leave FL or CA before 8 am and child will not fly on last flight of the day


we have joint legal custody.. mom has physical.... but mom is always the one causing issues.. and last year didnt supply return ticket.. this year everything may change as child is 85% likely to have to repeat the 8th grade.. the good thing is we got FL to kick the case to CA as this is where the child is from and father never left nor ever gave mother permission to move away..(mom just packed up one day and took off with boyfriend,, it took us 3 years to find her, she had child support forwarded by a family member).. even though child has resided in FL for 7 years.

just my 2 cents.. >> :)

well you will never believe this.. the judge took time away from dad.. the judge is supporting the mothers alienation of my dh.. can you friggin believe it..

BE CAREFUL, I know that you can make an order a permanent order.. so be extremely careful, dont sign anything without having your atty reivew it

if that were only true, this has been going on for 7 years.. in and out of court year after year.. we offer major "proof" (LCSW wrote letter)yet for some reason this judge just doesnt like us.. shes insinutated that dad just wants c/s lowered even though weve NEVER filed for a modification EVER.. and we buy all ss clothes, athletic supplies.. school supplies etc.. and mom doesnt work.. ..shes only worked 1 year in his entire life!!
judge also implied we keep draggin mom to court.. we were there this time on mothers motion.. she wanted dh to have less time!!!

 ss is 13 his eyes were puffy and blood shot.. right now we have him eow, tuesday for a few hours  and 1/2 summer and holidays.. which all in all isnt bad..  

the one good thing about this is... our atty is the best in town and he was sooo tired of the alienation.. he didnt charge us a dime.. not a dime... she had to pay her atty 300 an hour 2500 minimum.. and she couldnt ask for atty fees cause she didnt ask for it in her moving  papers!!! so..  shes not walking away with a win either.. our atty said we wont get less time.. we may not get more.. but we wont get less......Thank god for that I guess...

so.... I guess I should look at my glass as  half full ..  well see what judges ruling says hopefully by Fri.. I ll let you all know....

ok all... the judge interviewed him today, we didnt see him at all before he went into chambers... he was in there 7 minutes.. yes 7... then court sec. said that she would put ruling in letter and send it to each atty. because bm's atty wasnt present (he was in another court room in chambers..)
When we seen ss downstairs with his grandpa..(who hates us) he wouldnt even say hi to his dad, dad said.. hey .. your allowed to talk to me.. then he said I love you and his son just looked down.. he looked very upset.. I think he was extremely coached but we'll see if the judge seen.. she didnt see last time.. I just dont know how she can decide the outcome of our entire lives in a 7 minute interview...Ill keep praying.. but I think our hearts are going to end up broken.......again............

at what point do you say your done.. that when ss decides that  having a father is important to him that we'll make an effort..................................................................

OK ALL I KNOW IM SHOUTING.. CAUSE I NEED EVERYONES HELP, TOMORROW MY SS GETS INTERVIEWED BY THE JUDGE AND WE HAVENT SEEN HIM IN  AWEEK.. WE ALL READY KNOW THAT HIS MOM IS VERY GOOD AT COACHING HIM SHES DONE IT BEFORE JUDGE DIDNT SEE THROUGH IT LAST TIME..

SO EVERYONE PLEASE STOP TOMORROW MORNIN AROUND 11 AM PACIFIC TIME AND SAY A PRAYER FOR THE GUY IN CA THAT JUST WANTS TO SEE HIS SON MORE


THANKS

ok, well ... the judge wants to interview ss on monday, which in my thought process means were screwed.. mom has him this weekend and they will have worked him over the coals so much by monday that he will say whatever they want him to say. Which is what happened last time..... hopefully he'll be soooo coached that the judge says.. well wasnt hat obvious..

Ill worry all weekend.. put your faith in the system.. and for us.. it has failed.. and rewarded a woman for not telling a man about his child,. sad,,extremely sad

I realized I was shouting.. after I hit post..lol

The counselors report was ordered by the court, therefore it is allowed.. but we will definetly call the counselor as a witness, as she will have I believe to be the deciding testimony..

But we have others in mind to call too....

In my opinion and I realize I am bias, this case is baffling, my dh .. doesnt even have as much as a parking ticket, yet this has been such an uphill battle, some courts and judges are bias to one side or the other, and this time it has been for the other, our atty.. who is known to be the best in town says this is one case he looses sleep over cause he has gotten people with criminal pasts more than he can get my dh and it drives him nuts.. so he said we are pulling out all the stops this time.. (hes a really good attorney.. a straight shooter and doesnt run through your bank account just cause he can)

So wish us luck... my dh is there right now.. we'll see what happens.. hopefully all tides will turn to our side..
Im praying...