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#31
Dear Socrateaser / RE: settlement conference CA
Apr 19, 2007, 11:45:13 AM
YES.. THIS HAS BEEN AN ONGOING UPHILL BATTLE.. DH DIDNT EVEN FIND OUT HE HAD A CHILD WITH HER UNTIL HE WAS 2 1/2 AND WASNT ALLOWED TO SEE HIM UNTIL HE WAS 5 1/2.. WE HAVE BEEN TO COURT MANY TIMES, IN THE COUNTY WE LIVE IN YOU  DONT NEED TO SHOW A CHANGE IN CIRCUMSTANCE..YOU JUST HAVE TO HIRE AN ATTORNEY. WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH A HEARING BEFORE AND WE ARE PREPARED TO GO AGAIN, LAST TIME WE ASKED FOR 50/50 AND THE JUDGE INTERVIEWED SS WHICH IS WHERE EVERYTHING WENT WRONG.. BM AND HER PARENTS DID A NUMBER ON HIM AND HE SAID HE DIDNT WANT TO BE WITH DAD  MORE.. THAT WAS 2 YEARS AGO.
BM IS ASKING THAT THE JUDGE INTERVIEW SS AGAIN, EVEN THOUGH WE HAD HIS COUNSELOR WRITE A REPORT JUST THIS WEEK, SAYING HE WANTS TO SEE DAD MORE.

THE REALITY IS, BM'S FATHER IS A RACIST, I HATE TO SAY THAT.. BUT HE MAKES RACIAL REMARKS TO SS ABOUT DAD OFTEN AND HAS CALLED DH A "N" IN THE PAST.  SS'S EXTENDED FAMILY DENIES THAT HE IS 1/2 BLACK. SO....IF WE GO TO A HEARING.. ITS ALL COMING OUT.. THE GRANDPA IS EXTREMLY NEGATIVE AND WONT KEEP HIS MOUTH SHUT!!

WELL HE GOES TO THE SETTLEMENT CON. AT 130 SO SAY A QUICK PRAYER..

AND DONT WORRY.. HE WONT AGREE TO LESS THAN HE HAS ..HES ASKING FOR 50/50 AND WILL MAKE HER FIGHT TO PROVE HE SHOULDNT HAVE IT.
#32
Dear Socrateaser / RE: settlement conference CA
Apr 19, 2007, 11:02:13 AM
ok..?  dh has been going through custody/visitation issues for years.. seriously years.. well this time bm is the one who took him back to court cause she wants him to have less time.. but what I found strange was that at the last appearance our atty said plan on going to a hearing (which we were planning, and had done before) then bms attorney stood up and said I would like to schedule a settlement conference, no we all know his client has NO intention of settling, I am wondering if after he read the mediators summary that he is going to try to get bm to settle, summary said that the court cautions mother about allowing her father to make racial remarks about son... I am just confused as to why the attorney who doesnt want to give up time would ask for the settlement conference..
#33
Dear Socrateaser / settlement conference CA
Apr 18, 2007, 07:40:16 PM
can anyone tell me what to expect at a settlement conference?
#34
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Settlement conference
Feb 22, 2007, 09:52:16 AM
That really is irrelevant. People either settle or they don't. You can only be responsible for your own decisions.


oh believe me soc.. you know that I know that .. but someone forgot to pass the memo to bm that said when in 30's do not need your parents permission!! lol lol

HAVE A GREAT DAY!!
#35
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Settlement conference
Feb 22, 2007, 08:56:50 AM
do you know if this is usually a closed courtroom.
or
 can parties bring people to observe?

I am asking cause the bm will not make any decisions without her parents approval.
#36
Dear Socrateaser / Settlement conference
Feb 21, 2007, 12:51:50 PM
Soc,

DH had court to set date for evidenciary hearing and opposing counsel asked for a settlement conference to be set first. Which was



What takes place at a settlement conference?

state is CA

thanks
#37
Dear Socrateaser / confused in CA
Feb 06, 2007, 12:29:55 PM
ok so my dh got his recommendation from mediation yesterday, in which it states no additional time is recommended for father, father coaches sons football team therefore that should be considered more time. and further goes on to possibly take the only mid week visit he has from him. We have sent over a letter for clarification to the mediators office, since the midweek is not mentioned in the mediators recommended parenting plan
the mediator interviewed there 12 yo son and said son stated he wants custodial agreement to stay the same.. basically he repeated word for word what the mother said during mediation, yet mediator didnt view him as being coached.

my dh does not have as much as a parking ticket, yet the county we live in refuses to allow him anymore time other than EOW and split holidays, my dh has done everything asked of him and they still say nope sorry. the courts have even gone as far as taking away time, cause "mom says child misses homework when hes at dads house" yet has never shown any proof.  We cant even get the courts to order his name be put on childs birth certificate!!!
atty said we can go to hearing, but he said, the reality is that the courts are going to rule with mediator and it leaves us with little options.
there are no attorneys in my area willing to challenge the judge (there is only one family law judge in my area)

what options do we have?
#38
Dear Socrateaser / mental health an issue?
Jan 30, 2007, 08:38:20 AM
Soc,

    Just found out that my stepsons mother is under the care of a psychyatrist at the county mental health office, however dh just went to mediation last week (found out right after) but no agreement was reached.
 CA is state

question:

1.) if parents go to hearing can father request/supeona psych records?

2.) Does this have a large impact on custody case?  
#39
Dear Socrateaser / RE: CA issue
Dec 15, 2006, 08:55:47 AM
Soc,


         Bm has personally told me that the pain meds the dr. gave her make her loopy.. Shes not the most intelligent person on the earth. Also child has revealed some things to me which have taken place while mother is asleep, and the child is unsupervised.

   

1. Can you tell me if it is possible to supeona her pharmacy records without her knowing?


2. If She goes from walk in clinic to walk in clinic, do I have to supeona all of them?
#40
Dear Socrateaser / CA issue
Dec 14, 2006, 08:58:37 AM
Soc,


OK, SO state is CA I am returning to mediation for custody/visitation issues for 12 /12 yr old son, we have joint legal she has sole physical, i have every other weekend one mid week and we split all holidays and summer,  per mothers request.. as she wants to take away some of my time..
we have a mediation triage monday morning as she is attempting to take part of my christmas break as it is my year to have the majority..she had majority last year...
then we will be referred to mediation for other issues mother has, mainly she wants to take away the majority of what i have, her reasoning is that I have other children and she doesnt so its not fair for her to be alone when I never have to. ..and yes.. the court allows her to say stupid comments like that...
we went to court in march of 05 I was going for 50/50 and judge was gonna give it to me, then asked to interview child.. when she interviewed him, I was not even notified of the date.. my atty was ticked.. well the child was coached by her atty,and her family and told judge he didnt want to see me more.. therefore judge ordered the custody order to stay the same. I will ask for 50% this time.


Bm has a problem with her leg (she says medical mystery) and takes prescription pain pills, vicodin.. I have concerns as to how many she is taking as I know she is driving with my son in the car

questoins are:

1. Can I supeona medical/pahrmacy records?

2. Does court take into account prescription drug use?

3. any other advice?


thanks