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Two words...sick and wrong!  BM in our situation tells SD that "she doesn't have to work because she gets checks in the mail"  HAHAHA...if only we all could.  Makes me believe there is more going on with mommy dearest and her extracurricular activities...

That is BEAUTIFUL!  Congratulations!  Best wishes to you and DD!

They make kids get vaccaniated for a very good reason, think about your poor child if she catches one of those diseases!  Also, I know that here in WA flouride IS a perscription that we can get from the doctors or dentists...I hope this helps you make your decision...I presume that the Dr. told you that for a reason...good luck!

I am in WA. so I don't know what the laws are there.  I would file all that you can even if that is criminal charges and apparently it is for the police to ask you in the first place.  Even though she is the "CP" doesn't matter, she took you kids out of state without your permission and made you miss your visitation!  That is abduction.  File a contempt.  Contempt her for whatever you can, as long as it isn't petty.  Who cares if the judge gets mad, these are YOUR CHILDREN!  Eventually she will lose custody and have supervised visits to make sure she doesn't leave!!!
Best of luck to you!  God Bless!

What state do you live in?

I can definately feel your pain as we are going through the same exact thing although SD is only 7.  A therapist will be your best ally, call around and find one that specializes in PAS.  They can not be fooled by what SD says and can see through the bs.  Pictures, video, and documenting will also go ALONG way! Document phone conversations, things SD says that are odd and visits.
It is definately hard, we have to "detox" SD at the beginning of every visit.  We are NCP and are allowed 1 four hour visit once a week and one phone call a week if you can believe it and every other weekend.  That is alot of time with BM and all her poison.  She tells SD that I am "going to tie her to a chair and cut her." and that DH and I are trying to take her from BM, so she is scared to death to come here for fear that we will not return her.  Don't give up she will see that BM is crazy, but you will have to get her into therapy before it is too late.  She will also  see (maybe several years from now) that you were the one there for her and allowed her to be the kid that she deserves to be and that you never tried to poison her...

Hang in there.  Don't give up, that is what she wants and his kids DESERVE to have their dad in their lives!  We found an attorney that took a relatively small retainer and then let's us make payments.  I know how it is when you absolutely have no resources and you feel so helpless, but honestly even with an attorney the battle has been long and hard and we have not gotten nearly what we should have, I can not imagine what would have happened without help!  
I too have an ex that has NOTHING to do with his daughter and would never dream of doing this stuff to him EVER!!!  
If you ever need to talk or vent let me know...

We have talked about a cell phone for my SD, because she has to sneak to call us, never gets messages we called and BM won't allow her to call us.  However, we know that because BM won't let her call, she will just take the cell phone, just as she does everything else we get for SD...