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Sounds to me like you were fine leaving the kids with your ex when you didn't have a woman in the picture, but now that you do you want your kids more and suddenly the mom to your kids is awful.

Ok, so where are you now?  I think court is not the best way to go cause I think a judge will say exatly what I just said to you and you will get nothing more.  I think you need to talk to your ex about this and see if you can't do some type of mediation with her and see if she will not agree to some type of compromise with you on more time.

You are in a hard place being a police office which requires a lot of time away.  A judge is likely only to give you the time you already have.

I love the cell phone idea.  My sister got a cell for her son to use whenever, plus when he goes to his dads house he can call home anytime.  Dad doesn't have a problem with it and thinks it is cool.  When my son gets a bit older I plan to do the same thing.

I agree, oh my word.  Sounds like y'all are all a bunch of immature people.  Your FDH may be the legal father, but mom is still the mom and since you are not married yet she can keep you out of things that you think you will be allowed to be involved in.  Power of Attorney doesn't really mean much when it comes to custody issues.  It is more of things like finances, medical decisions over him, not the child, and a few other things, but doesn't give you rights over the child one bit.  I am a Notary Public and know exaclty what Power of Attorney is and isn't.

My suggestion, next time mom gets in your face you don't say a word but walk away.  I'm sure if you had done that this time your SD wouldn't be witnessing more than what her mom spewed out.  My son would be having nightmares and a hard time if he had witnessed all that bad behavior.   If I were you I'd just stay away from the mom, sounds like she is one bitter women and a bit crazy.  I'd leave the parenting and counseling meetings up to the parents since obviously your involvement isn't helping.

She cannot stay without a court order.  Your DH will have to send her home and file for a modification of the order asking for custody in the county where the mother lives.  The fact the 16 year old wants to live there will help your husbands chances to get custody of his dd.

hey bradley, I'm in Dallas County?  Do you know who your judge is for your case?

I've been to court many of times in Dallas county and I think they are pretty fair to the dads, but I mean fair.  They don't lean one way or the other.  So, as far as being worried that your in a biased court room in Dallas County I don't think you have anything to really worry about it.

Ok, do you think maybe you believe the child is yours because you want it to be yours?

Why not see your doctor again and have your sperm count taken to see if you are really able to get someone pg or not.  You can at least do this while ex g/f is pg so if you are found to be totally sterile than you know without a doubt not to bother getting a DNA test when the baby is born and move on with your life.

It is true some men like to experience having sex with a pg woman.  I was 5 months pg and showing when I was single and alone.  My next door nieghbor who was good looking and a lawyer was friends with me and I thought it was nice to have some attn I was needing during that time.  We went to dinner, but after the first real date it was clear he was wanting one thing from me and not another so needless to say it did not work out.  I did not have dinner with any other men the rest of my pg because of that experience.   I realized that it is too odd for a man to be interested in a pg woman when the child isn't theirs, lol!

Anyhow, good luck.  I hope that for your sake things will work out for the best.

Ya know, a friend of mine's DH has a daughter who is about 15 from his first marriage.  Well, it is very apparent this girl is not his as the child appears to have a hispanic father when both mom and dad are white.  My friends DH also knew at the time mom might be pulling a fast one on her but he stood by her at the time anyhow.

Well, the way he sees it as he doesn't want to know the truth of his daughter's DNA cause it doesn't matter.  His daughter is his daughter and nothing else matter's.  Even if they did DNA testing it wouldn't make a difference.

Also, my BIL(sister's DH) found out his dad was not his Bio dad when he was in high school.  One day he just figured it out on his own at he never thought they looked much alike.  It never made a difference and he doesn't care to know who his bio dad is, he has a dad!

Actually, I know in my case my sons father asked for full standard and it was like it was automatic when it was ordered.  After it was ordered my sons father gave up a lot of his time all on his own, but it he easily got full standard and he wasn't that involved from the get go.  So, your chance of getting that or more is good seeing you are very involved!!

Like I said, go for as much as you can.  The judge will see how much you want to be involved in your kids lives and possibly grant you some extra time.  WHo knows!  Judges have a standard they go by, but that doesn't mean they have to go by that.  They can do things differently under their discretion of they see it calls for it.

Good luck!

It is always possible and you should definately try to get 50/50 if that si what you want, but in Texas most of the time they go by the standard possession oder in almost all cases.  If you do end up with standard ask for the full amount of standard possession which is 1,3,5th weekend from Friday pm at 6pm- Monday morning where you may take them to school.  Than get one overnight per week which I believe that night to be Thursday under the standard order.  So, EOW you could have the kids Thursday night, take them to school on Friday, than have them for the weekend and return them to the school Monday morning.

I believe Texas has done well giving the NCP more time and that is why they go with standard more rather than 50/50.  It may not be fair, but it is better than what it used to be when there were no overnights during the week and the weekends ended on Sunday.  

So, go for the 50/50 and if you don't get it than hopefully you will get the full standard schedule as it is a fair schedule to work with.

Do you pay child support?