Thanks for the support guys. For the most part, I know and practice what you all are telling me.
I already have a parenting plan in place, as written by the Judge. It carries most of what was suggested above, but in slightly different verbage.
As to visiting the doctor, that gets done too. I call him up when one of these "incidents" occur. I have to, because I know I can't trust BM to tell me the truth, and she doesn't even tell me about half of the Dr. visits to begin with.
I've also started having every exchange video taped. Right now she doesn't know about it, and I'm weighing whether or not to tell her. Our state is a single party state when it comes to wire-tapping, so I know I'm legal in taping calls, exchanges, etc.
My biggest frustrations are these: It takes so long to get before the Judge, and even though we have an order in place, the BM keeps breaking it. And as far as contempt is concerned, what does this accomplish? Other than a fine, what does she get, a slap on the wrst? And I've even asked my atty about getting back lawyers fees, and he says we would probably win them, but if she claims to have no money then I'll never see a red cent.
anyway, thanks again. I keep meaning to post a detailed "this is what all I've been granted by the court" kind of post, and maybe that's what we need. Is there a thread with everyone's stories about what they done, what they've been granted, etc? It might be helpful to know what's reasonable and what's never going to happen.
I already have a parenting plan in place, as written by the Judge. It carries most of what was suggested above, but in slightly different verbage.
As to visiting the doctor, that gets done too. I call him up when one of these "incidents" occur. I have to, because I know I can't trust BM to tell me the truth, and she doesn't even tell me about half of the Dr. visits to begin with.
I've also started having every exchange video taped. Right now she doesn't know about it, and I'm weighing whether or not to tell her. Our state is a single party state when it comes to wire-tapping, so I know I'm legal in taping calls, exchanges, etc.
My biggest frustrations are these: It takes so long to get before the Judge, and even though we have an order in place, the BM keeps breaking it. And as far as contempt is concerned, what does this accomplish? Other than a fine, what does she get, a slap on the wrst? And I've even asked my atty about getting back lawyers fees, and he says we would probably win them, but if she claims to have no money then I'll never see a red cent.
anyway, thanks again. I keep meaning to post a detailed "this is what all I've been granted by the court" kind of post, and maybe that's what we need. Is there a thread with everyone's stories about what they done, what they've been granted, etc? It might be helpful to know what's reasonable and what's never going to happen.