No offense, Beeboah, but you need to "lighten up" a little bit and maybe people would be more receptive. No one wants to be told they are a "bad" person, but I didn't see ANYONE on this board telling you that. And I am a father, NCP, so before you judge me, be cautious. I am in the process of trying to get my child after I had to move to improve my income in order to live like a regular person. And visitation between states is no big deal - it's federal law, so the judge didn't do you any favors. But if you have your "ducks in a row" and follow good, sound, legal advice, and STAY OFF THE DEFENSIVE, people will help you. Don't live your life with tunnel vision.