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Hello.  We are in Indiana.  Okay I will try not to be too long.  We filed for custody of ss years ago and lost.  Since then many changes have occurred.  I used the time tracker and this last year and a half my ss has been with us same as cp.  But more with others than anyone because she has him stay everywhere except here.  

We know she has a drinking problem.  I personally saw her out with ss drinking.  Our neighbors saw her out not long ago and shre could barely stand or sit for that matter and she got her keys in her hand and paid her tab then left.  SS was not with her that time.

Recently she was arrested for DUI with bac level of .26 pretty high.  She has now lost her license and can only drive with probationery license to and from work and dads program.  She never requested to be able to drive to pick up ss from school or to school or from our house which is eow.   Our attorney we spoke to as consultation said this emergency order would help us during the battle for custody.  We know the only reason she has him is for the money.

We are pretty sure we want to hire an attorney to get immediate emergency custody switched since she can not even drive him any where.  She has no car either all of a sudden and everyone else is doing her running.

1.  Do you think we have a chance to seek and get emergency order since all this has occurred?

2.  If we do get it would the judge order it immediate or would we have to wait a period of time?

3.  What else do you think we might need to hurry and get together to win?

Thanks for any and all help is appreciated.

Worried stepmom in Indiana

Thank you for your help.  My dh told her tonight that Wednesdays are a definite no and we would see about Sundays.  Guess they got into it some, oh well.  One day she might learn.  No just wish she would.  But thank you anyways.

Usayow

Sorry I will try to make this short.  In a nut shell dh and bm made agreement years ago that they would alternate years putting ss in sports.  Well it worked for awhile then bm had new bf and had him put ss in sports.  We live a town away and bm has now informed us she put ss in new baseball league even further away.  He has joint legal custody of ss.  By the way bf is of course gone now.  

Anyways here's the problem when she does this she expects us to take ss on our night to practices and on our weekends.  We get him on wednesdays and eow.  We have him more but that is what the court order says.  Well we go to church and on Wednesdays ss is in a thing called ra's with church and has been for years now.  He loves it and when he comes on Wednesdays that's the first thing he asks about.  Well bm said practices are every Wednesday and Sunday and wants us to switch nights on Wednesdays and we will just miss most of Sunday.  Well we want him to stay in his RA's and not miss(by the way) she pulled this in fall with football season too.  

Should we just suck it up again and make him miss something we put him in and has been in for years or just tell her no this is our night an he's not missing again for her activity which is by the way even further away this year?  What we don't understand is how can she get him to activity because she just got her license suspended for DUI and only got probationary license to go to and from work and alcohol classes.  She's not supposed to be driving anyways especially with the child.  

We wanted to put him in baseball here where we live but she signed him up with out even talking to dh about it and just TOLD him what she did.  Her sign ups were before ours.  Let me know any thoughts and opinions.  Thanks for all the help ahead of time.

usayow  

a very good one to look at.  It depends on the state you are in if their is information available to you.  I'm in Indiana and you can not do license plate checks or anything like that.  Their are no civil criminal small claims family courts nothing.  Just professional license and doc that's it.  I would not recommend it to anyone.  I'm trying to do a plate now and cant seem to do it with out paying a bunch of money so if anyone else has any ideas let us all know.
Thanks

Thanks.  Will they let him know?  We don't want them to know that we are checking on him.  And what if the bmv questions me on why we want the information?  What do we say?

Thanks again

Bless you and thank you for any help you can give us.  I did pm you I think lol....  Thanks again

Okay.  We have decided to do it and go back.  We need to find out who boyfriend is.  My ss bm said her bf name but thats it.  I looked on public computers downtown and their are a bunch of people with same name.  We know nothing about him.  I got his license plate, so here's the question how can we get his information from his plate?  How can we get it ran to find out who he is?  Thanks for all the help.  Time is important if anyone can help me.

Thanks