Been there, done that.
Bio mom is coming from a position of control and power that she always had but has now lost. The time to to be flexible and giving will come later. Right now she needs to realize that she no longer has the control she once had. If you give in, the abuse will continue. Tell her calmly that this is the way the court order has always been interpreted, so things will not change now. Keep telling her that you will be going by the court order.
I do not see that you are playing games. You are doing things exactly as you should, and you are feeling as though you need to justify your actions. You don't. That's why you have a court order. Son obviously is tired of what has been going on. That's all the justification you need.
I'll say it again. Son needs to have time to adjust and get ready for school. Don't take that time away from him just because she wants to be in control. It's not about her.
You have every right to feel the way you do. Everyone needs to vent. Remember, "We're going by the court order!"
Bio mom is coming from a position of control and power that she always had but has now lost. The time to to be flexible and giving will come later. Right now she needs to realize that she no longer has the control she once had. If you give in, the abuse will continue. Tell her calmly that this is the way the court order has always been interpreted, so things will not change now. Keep telling her that you will be going by the court order.
I do not see that you are playing games. You are doing things exactly as you should, and you are feeling as though you need to justify your actions. You don't. That's why you have a court order. Son obviously is tired of what has been going on. That's all the justification you need.
I'll say it again. Son needs to have time to adjust and get ready for school. Don't take that time away from him just because she wants to be in control. It's not about her.
You have every right to feel the way you do. Everyone needs to vent. Remember, "We're going by the court order!"