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Nice!!!  Congratulations!!  :)

It's CS for her.  She's refusing to work, won't give up any time over 5 hrs/day - because NCP pays more CS the less time that he has with him.  It's all about the money, unfortunately.  NCP is considered high earner, has considerably more money than she does, but she has income from side job (at home) and has been hiding it.  She's getting over $3K/month now for one child (2 year old) and wants TWICE that.   I think the attorney for him is not the best....

THANK YOU!

That just echoes my thoughts exactly.  We've subpoenaed all of her records and there is a LOT of cash unaccounted for - we think she's got another account somewhere.  But my thought has been to fight fight fight on the fees.  It's just ridiculous.  I think that if she had to pay her own fees, this fight would have been over a year ago.  grrrrrr

This isn't a divorce, although you'd think it was with what the CP is pulling as far as support, etc.
NCP is high earner, she is hiding money so it looks like she makes/has nothing.  She's been asking for her fees to be paid since day 1, and so far his attorney has had him pay them.  It wasn't until we started questioning why that the attorney said it's based on need.  Our thoughts are that she doesn't NEED him to pay the fees, she just WANTS him to.  I'm wondering if there isn't some kind of agreement between the attorneys where his said that she'd get him to pay the fees.  

In California, if one parent (NCP) has more money than the other (CP), does that mean that the NCP will HAVE to pay attorneys fees for the CP?  I've been going around and around with the attorney on this case.  CP has over $28K in her bank account, yet she continues to ask NCP to pay her fees.  He's a high earner, and she's claiming that she can't pay.  The attorney for NCP in this case seems to be rolling over on it and saying that he needs to pay according to CA law, and I'm just not buying it.  

oh GREAT.... I think that xGF's atty is the same way.  But they're fighting over everything - it took over a month to agree And she's lying about financials so her atty thinks she has no money, and bf is a high earner, so he's thinking he is all set.  Little does he know that what she claims she made for the year - she actually made more than that each MONTH last year.  
I hope your situation is finalized soon!  Thanks for your answers/time. :)

Thanks for the info. She is in CA.  Hopefully our attorney can find some alternates - I'm trying to research the one that they've recommended, also.  This whole situation is just frustrating.  The court system in the county she's in is so slow it's ridiculous.  

BF's son is in CA, he maintains a residence there for the purposes of visitation and is hoping to eventually have 50/50 to where he can have him here at our home in MI.  BM is very difficult - won't let him see him more than 4-5 hours a day, no overnights, etc. (driving factor is amt of CS depends on time spent with CP vs NCP).  
She has requested a custody eval.  What should he expect?  And it's one that they chose, so how do we know that this woman isn't biased against dads that want 50/50?  Any help is appreciated.

Thanks for your response.  We're willing to move to CA if we have to. We're trying to avoid that because the tax bracket will kill him financially.   His attitide is not a problem, either.  He wants time with his son, and is thrown roadblocks by BM every chance she gets.  He flies out every other weekend now, and had extra days last week and she wouldn't let him see him more than 4 days in a row.  Just because.  We're hoping all the crap she's pulled will go against her, but know that courts usually favor the mother.

bf has an 18 month old son, lives with BM in CA.  a little background...
she got pg right before they broke up, then moved from MI to CA.  BF is high earner. Borderline neglectful, but not enough to lose custody.  BM stole well over $50K from BF (case pending). Case is more about money than child, unfortunately.  He pays $2K CS now, she's look for 3x that amount.  Refuses to work.  He is in school full time in MI, but spent majority of summer in CA, and now flies out every other weekend, with extended weekend 1x month.  She refuses to allow more than 4 days in a row, no more than 5 hours at a time.  She claims to still be nursing, but is not.  She will not bring child to MI to see his family, because of check fraud case (afraid she'll be arrested). He's a great father, wants nothing more than to see his son more, she's refusing.  Keeps missing co-parenting class, which is pre-requisite for mediation.  Can't go to court until mediation done.  He's had evaluation by child psych. numerous times, and psych is in his favor.
What are his chances at 50/50 custody with 2 weeks here/there visits?  He's trying to avoid having to move to CA, because of school and life here.  
Unfortunately, BM wants 100% control and more money - this is all about the money, and not the child.  
Any help is appreciated.