I know you asked for no lectures about spanking, but I ask that you think about your own comment before you decide whether spanking will help:
"it is clear that spanking will teach him good lesssons because he wouldn't misbehave to that extent when he is with his mother who disciplines him with spanking and the like"
What good lesson does spanking teach? It is OK to hit? The stronger more violent person gets their way? Violence is a good solution?
Sounds like these are the exact behaviors you are trying to show him are wrong. You might consider taking parenting classes to help you learn how to best approach your discipline problem...not only will you avoid any possibility of abuse allegations but it will help you look good in front of the court (as well as be a better, more effective parent).
"it is clear that spanking will teach him good lesssons because he wouldn't misbehave to that extent when he is with his mother who disciplines him with spanking and the like"
What good lesson does spanking teach? It is OK to hit? The stronger more violent person gets their way? Violence is a good solution?
Sounds like these are the exact behaviors you are trying to show him are wrong. You might consider taking parenting classes to help you learn how to best approach your discipline problem...not only will you avoid any possibility of abuse allegations but it will help you look good in front of the court (as well as be a better, more effective parent).