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Thrilled at your success


Please dont forget the other side of the coin.

Kids that are pushed and pushed to the point of "acting out" to the gain of the step parent and parent. (etc)

Little do they (children) realise that in actuality they are being used for the gawd almighty dollar.

In turn, after all the turmoil subsides do the children realise that they were a pawn in a well played chess game.

It may take years and or days for the "children" (our most important concern) to realise that the "issues" were over played to gain for the parents envolved.

Thrilled for Your success, but am causious for other children experiencing parent aleination issues.

True

hmmm

Obviously, You could send the "kids" back with a "Plan" that so disrupts their life.  This would entail interupting their Social life at school, their academics, and any after school activities that they had participated in, most importantly their home life.

You, could continue to conduct and maintain the issue(s)  through consistent and constant emails to your children.  Also, you could reinforce your postion through voice messages as well.

The normal behaviours  that have happened upon return of parenting time within school time, would obviously change.  As they would be consistently reminded of "your needs, wants or desires" etc.

Teachers would be willing to speak and perhaps write letters upon Your behalf should You choose to approach them. Considering there most likely would and will be a change in behaviors most especially given the ages of the children.


Much could happen to pursuade the Judicial system within your favor.


Best of luck to YOU, as always document, document.

I wish no one, children, anyone to be a part of the "plan".

true

 
PAS

It is a symptom that creeps up on the custodial parent, and or the full time parent, although it happens within a 50/50 issue too.  PAS can creep up onto the non custodial parent prehaps more easily. It is not just a non custodial issue.

PAs: It is a very dangerous approach that some parents and step parents use to gain the "advantage",  or vice versa.

All in all most likely it will take years for the children involved to realise and most likely some have been so "turned" that the parent invovled will have not have a postitive relationship with their children.  The parent involved  as the words, and or issues are pressed upon becomes the OutSider.

We are creating a circle affect within Our Children, as we divorce.

I am sorry to admit that in "covering" for another parents inablitys that my children fell into the trap of the "stepparent" alienation syndrome.

Its a very sad cycle, that most courts do not realise but given "time" the negative result can be obtained by the Aleinator.

Given the cycle and the courts approval it will be years and perhaps a lifetime time that the children involved will never realise that the alienated parent only strived for the best of their children.

Obvioulsy, it will take multiple "studies" from social workers, phychloigists etc and also the children themselves coming forward and expressing the situations etc.

Divorce may release You from your partner, Divorce does not realise you in using offspring to Your financial advantage or am emotional advantage towards one parent or another.

Children derserve to be unscathed by O/our actions as a parent. All too often we as parents, step parents place words, emotions, and thoughts into our childrens every day life by just speaking them aloud with each child's prescence. We as parents are to blame.

truw