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Child Support Issues / Only $400,000 a year in child support?

« on: Aug 24, 2012, 08:12:35 am »

I *LOVE* the way they say "just" $400K per year, as if that was some piddling little amount. That's $33,000 a MONTH. I could raise a child on that.

     
Holmes receives just USD 400,000 a year in child support
Press Trust of India / Los Angeles August 24, 2012, 18:35

Katie Holmes will receive no spousal support from superstar ex-husband Tom Cruise and has been granted a mere $400,000 per year in child support payments in her divorce settlement.

The 33-year-old former 'Dawson's Creek' star signed a prenuptial agreement when she married Cruise in 2006 which excluded her from his USD 250 million fortune.

With no spousal support from the 'Top Gun' star, Holmes will only receive $33,000 a month in child support for their six-year-old daughter Suri until she turns 18.

Full story: http://www.business-standard.com/generalnews/news/holmes-receives-just-usd-400000year-in-child-support/47797/

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Custody Issues / Re: Child wants to live with me

« on: Aug 01, 2012, 09:57:24 am »

You'll have to ask the court to change the custody arrangement and you'll need to show that the child would be better off living with you than where he is now. FYI, most courts are reluctant to change custody at this age (14) without a really good reason.

This may help: Changing custody: substantial change in circumstances

Ex has custody after taking me back to court when I moved from the state I was in to another to make a better life for the children.  Ex was already living in a different.  My soon to be 14 year old son wants to live with me and go to school instead of his dad.  States I can help more with school and he can get back on honor roll.  How can I go about this?  Ex will not hear of the change.  Have tried the nice way of talking to him.

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Child Support Issues / Re: School Supplies

« on: Jul 30, 2012, 08:08:04 pm »

In TN, who is responsible for purchasing school supplies- the parent receiving child support or the Custodial parent?

It depends.

Generally things like school supplies are supposed to come out of money the custodial parent receives as child support, but there may be other provisions detailed in the parenting plan.

If nothing is specified in the parenting plan, however, then it's usually the responsibility of the custodial parent to pay for these things.

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Custody Issues / Re: Soon-to-be-ex threatening to move the kids out of state

« on: Jul 16, 2012, 05:48:28 pm »

Should I get a TRO just in case? What do I do? She's starting to scare me.

In a word, YES. 

Read some of the articles returned by this link: Custodial Move-Away Information and Prevention

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Custody Issues / Re: advice and help... please..

« on: Jul 12, 2012, 10:21:20 am »

I have heard that joint custody is really popular in Iowa but I'm still scared. What should I do, I know I'm going to fight it, but how should i prepare? Any help would be appreciated. NOTE- I think that the reason she is trying for this is because she receives section 8 housing, and numerous other benefits that would be stripped from her if she only has joint custody.....

First thing would be to start reading all the articles here on joint custody as well as full custody. Also read the articles that deal with things like false accusations (which she may resort to)

Start here: search for "custody"

Search for articles about false allegations

I'd also suggest you check out the articles on parenting evaluations and changing custody. DO NOT agree to her being the primary- your distance from the school has no bearing on your ability to be a good parent to the children, and bringing them late to school one time won't mean sh*t to the court. (I mean, seriously...late one time? If that's the worst she can say about you then you're in good shape.)

Insist on joint custody with full 50/50 time and 50/50 decision-making responsibility.

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Father's Issues / Re: Just got some very sad news....

« on: Jul 12, 2012, 08:28:28 am »

Wow, sorry to hear this.  
I vaguely remember him, but nothing specific.
 

Some of you 'oldtimers' might remember another fellow Iowa on this forum...he went by 'Hawkeye'.  I just learned that he passed away on Monday.  I hadn't heard from him personally for quite a few months and I don't know the details.  I do know that his son, whom he was so devoted to, is either graduated or a junior or senior.  He must be so lost right now...
 
I guess this is hitting me hard because I had another dear friend pass away suddenly last week.  Starting to feel my mortality very keenly.....

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Custody Issues / Re: How to stop from taking child?

« on: Jun 13, 2012, 08:16:03 am »

It's hard to do, but you can go before a judge and ask for an order preventing the child from being removed from his/her home environment (ECE, or "Established Custodial Environment").

What's the best way to prevent my spouse from
taking my child when they move out of the family home?

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Father's Issues / Re: Paternity fraud: Now THIS makes me proud to be an Iowan!!

« on: Jun 08, 2012, 08:10:26 am »

AWESOME.

About 40 years too late, but better late than never...

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Moms Without Custody / Re: Father refuses to provide address

« on: Jun 08, 2012, 08:08:48 am »

People don't always follow the rules.

WHAT?? I am shocked, SHOCKED I tell you!! 

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Chit Chat / Re: A legitimate reason to take children from their parents?

« on: Jun 08, 2012, 08:07:48 am »

Dad even stated he's willing to give up his Neo-Nazi beliefs if that would mean getting his kids back. 

I don't believe him. I don't believe he would give up his beliefs, because beliefs aren't something you can just "give up".

We either believe in something or we don't, it's not a matter of choice. None of us could decide to start believing in leprechauns tomorrow, nor could we just casually stop believing in something that we do believe in (i.e. god, free speech, gravity, etc).