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I understand where you are coming from- however, I seriously doubt, unless you can show a trail of abuse- that the court will make the CP "run it by you" before she makes a decision about medical care. I know braces usually aren't a medical necessity- but I don't know very many judges who are likely to deny a child braces, because one parent doesn't want to pay for them.

I'm sure the ortho will either make a payment plan with you- or will make one with the CP- and then you will have to pay her...$3500 isn't insurmountable...I know it's a lot of money, but it's not $35,000, right?

I suppose mediation is as good a place to start as anywhere else. It certainly can't hurt.

How does CP "create" medical bills- either the kids go to the doctor, or they don't.

Seems your boyfriend needs to take the time to establish some sort of cease fire with the mother....this is only going to get worse.

I'm confused- why not just file in Florida? Go to the last county your child lived in- have the attorney write up a motion to reallocate parental rights and responsibilities- and an order to keep mother from removing child from IL and be done with it. Who cares where the order comes from, as long as it coes. Then you don't have all of these "worries" about 6 month time periods.

Yes- I'm kind of wondering why you feel it necessary to accompany him at all. If she assults him- he can call 911- he's clearly capapble. You know it is just steaming her to see you...clearly the court was attempting to make this all a peacful process for the child by SPECIFICALLY limiting who was to be present. Please remember that this is not about you and not about your BF....it is ONLY about the happiness and health of this child that they share.

You aren't doing anyone any favors by filing reports and whining to the cops...stay out of it- your life will be so much better.

I have been in your shoes. I just quit going with him. 9 years later- she and I have a cordial relationship. Give this all time to simmer down.

If your child said he was going to kill himself- you need to take him to the police, emergency room or local emergency mental health agency. It is your responsibility as a parent to protect him from himself.

Although I can understand where you are coming from...as Justin Timberlake says "what goes around, goes around, goes around, comes all the way back around"...often when you hide things- ....things are hidden from you.

Just be careful.

Why not just report it anonymously? No one has to know and you can act surprised when BM finds out. She will likely suspect that it is you- but she will have no proof.

You are responsible for working enough to cover the court ordered amount; your employer is responsible for garnishing your check and sending it to CSEA, Child support is responsible for distributing the funds once they recieve them.

In Ohio there is a toll free number you can call to see if the payment has posted to the account.

I sense a TON of anger in your post- you have to remember- this is much better- you don't have to directly send her money- so long as it's coming out of your check- it's her battle to fight. Garnishment is the way to go. You adjust to what you bring in and know that your obligation is met.

If she asks you- and you know it's been deducted, tell her to call her child support worker.

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All parites in Ohio. Child in joint legal and physical custody of parents. I have residential parent status for the purpose of school placement.

Child was tested by school and found to have learning disabilities. She was founf by testing to have an IQ of 71. While no one necessarily thinks it's true- it helps her to get services that she would otherwise not get in the school.

Child constantly struggles and mother refuses to help her with school work. Mother states that child is "lazy".

Multi-factored evaluation is done. Child is deemed elligible for an IEP for cognitive delays. School schedules a meeting to write and sign IEP goals today.

Parents and step-parent attend meeting- an hour into the meeting, mother pulls out a "letter of disagreement" and states that she disagrees with the multi-factored evaluation and will not sign an IEP.

School officials and other parent are totally unprepared, since she had signed the multi-factored evaluation as a participant being in agreement and let the IEP meeting go on for an hour.

Mother states she wants a "second opinion".

Since we have joint legal custody, can I sign the IEP without her?

I thought joint legal meant I have 100% and she has 100%- so I can 100% agree and have it implemented and she can 100% disagree- but it's moot, because I signed it- valid assumption?