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#11
your right about that. life isnt fair. bad things happen to good people,

and good things happen to bad people. good, honest people  get

the crappy end of the stick. can i write to like a lobbyist for fathers

rights in VA and complain about there system? i feel like i wanna call the

president and tell him how unfair the system is. she basically has kept

our child from me and she will get away with it and not be punished. all i

can regretfully hope for is that she dies or goes to jail. I shouldn't have

to move to be able to talk to my child. my fault for picking such a

childish girl. she changed the day after we married. i was in the navy

out there,

and i now understand that she had this planned the whole time. she was

even with this guy while i was out on 6 month trips. but i can't prove

that.

well thanks again socrateaser, (what a name), i will write to you when

we get back and tell you what happened. my daughter will accompany

us back home for her summer visit, hopefully coming home for good. i

pray every night for this.
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Dear Socrateaser / reposted the way you want it
Jul 12, 2006, 12:12:52 PM
we lived in VA. we were married about 2 years and have a beautiful daughter. we seperated, i kicked her out of our home becasue she wouldn't get a jub, she constantly did drugs, and she couldnt keep the house clean and i was sick of it.
so after she had moves out, 6 months later she had a restaining order on me and it applied to the address on her license and she had me removed from my home, we signed note that she would take over all household responsibility
i was backed into a corner when she had me kicked out of our home and moved back to cali with my parents. my soon to be ex wife, hid from me with our daughter for apprx. 2 years. 1/2 year i knew they lived in our home but she changed the phone number and i wasnt able to call.
i spoke with her parents on a regular basis and they always refused to give me the number to contact my child at the house. they moved out of the house which was forclosed on because she made no house payment and didnt do a trasnfer of title so i am stuck with the bill,
 and the two payments she did make, she actually stole out of my mothers account and i have the police report, they didnt press charges because the $ was returned and it wasnt worth bringing her to CA for charges) thats a whole nother story.
 and then when i found her, i found out that she had moved across state line (nc). there was an order that she would retain temporary custody pending a custody hearing and it stated that she would notify me and the court if she moved, especially out of state.
 which of course she never did. she hasnt had a stable home since she left. and i got the proof off the internet i found 5 lists of addresses for her in the past 2 years. juristiction still resides in VA.
she has been with her boyfriend since before we split. he moved into my home with her when she took over the house.
he has a criminal record, i have one from false charges they filed against me( while i was still living there and had visitation on the weekends, she missed a dropoff time so i went to her house to see what happened, they were high and he held a gun to my head, then they collaberated a fake story,
 this is when the restarianing order was signed and i was kicked out of my hoime) and i stupidly took the advice from the lawyer i had at the time. my daughter calls the boyfriend daddy.
i have the papers my ex filled out to put Jazmine in pre school and she stated that if you ask my daughter her name she'll tell you her first name and the boyfriends last name.
she also stated that i and my family are "red flagged" and we are not aloud to pick her up from school.!!(not that i would, i live in CA and i would notify her if i wanted too). and that i dont have custody, when our most recent papers besides the new ones state that we share custody.

and keep in mind that i always paid my child support even when she hid from me. i was behind once, but caught up immediately. i squashed the child support order because why pay supprot for a kid you cant speak with and you dont know where she even is.
so i found out that she set up a date to go to court and see what happened to her child support. you know she came out of the woodworks when she no longer recieved money from me.
my mother and i flew out there to surprise her. the moment she saw us she started to cry and scream that i was going to take her child away from her. she looked horrible.
she looked like she was still on drugs. i had a visit that weekened i was there and she was 4 hours late. and i saw my daughter for the first time in 2 1/2 yeras. the first thing she said to me, and it continued for an hour or so, "you hit me and mommy" "you don't love us". it broke my heart.
she also stated in the school papers that the boyfriend was in the process of adopting jazmine. she also stated that i "abused her in every way possible, physically and emotionally. the boyfriend signed the papers as her father!!
we have a custody hearing in a bout a week. i'm asking for custody because i believe i can give my child a better life, i will encourage a healthy ongoing relationship with her mother, as she does not with me. i have a stable home and jazmine has a 1 year old brother here and soon to be step mother as soon as i can get divorced.
 i have been clean and sober since before we split. she has more family here then she does there. my ex uses our daughter as a meal ticket and it discusts me. by the way my fiancee had a convesation with the ex and the ex told my fiancee
 " he beat the crap out of me and my daughter and he'll do it to you" and then said "i'll never divorce him, you'll never marry him if i have something to do with it" i am supposed to have liberal telephone contact. she never answers the phone.
 i call on a calling card i use to call there, so i have every single phone call i have made to her on paper. i finally did have a visit this last christmas and my daughter told me some disturbing thigs.
 like the boyfriends son who lives with them" hit her alot and drank out of her cups "so they put him in a boys home! she syas she" sleeps in the boys room while he is gone because "there is yucky dog poop everywhere in her room". and she refers to my ex by her first name, not mommy.
the ex doesnt keep the house clean. she "doesnt have a vacuum "and "doesnt care about the floor"when she came to visit on xmas, the ex told me that jaz was sick and had croup so i took her to my sons pediatrician and he informed us that jaz had asthma, and prescribed her meds and inhalers.
when i told the ex ,she said when jaz got back home she would take her to a specialist. when i talked to the ex she said she took her and the docter said i was full of shit. i have the papers from when jaz went to this docter i called and requested her medical history.
it stated when she went for the check on her asthma that she wasnt on any medication. when i dropped jaz off with her mom i thouroughly explained the meds and told her she should finish the whole treatment. well she threw it out so by the time she got jaz to the docter she showed no symptoms.
 ive called the police 2 times to check on the welfare of my daughter because i havent been able to speak woth her. ive called social services beacuse of the things jaz told me and i wanted them checked out. i was denied both times. i have both reports from police and social services.

i also record all the conversations when they actually answer the phone and i always tell them its being recorded and they say"thats fine i dont care, you cant use it anyways" and i have 1 where i'm talking to the boyfriend and the ex is screaming in the backround how she's gonna pulle me in and out of court until jazmine is 18. and the start of the conversations are always, where the money . you owe me money.
 this last bout of support ive paid with cashiers checks and have retained the copies when she cashes them. she signs them all over to her boyfrien like she always has.
then she lied to her lawyer and the child support division in N. C. and told them that i havent paid her since sept last year when i have the proof.
and heres what she says she has going for her in the custody hearing. we faught a couple times. this one time she wouldnt stop and leave me alone. i went to other rooms to get away from her, she hit me for like an hour. she was provoking me so i finally did slap her with an open hand and she fell to the floor crying n stuff.
well she has some pictures that her father took. these pictures are from 5 or 6 years ago. shse never called the cops, never filed any reports. never left, and never feared for her life.we made up and continued with the marriage for another year and a half. and knowing she had these pictures kinda points out to me that she has had this all planned. you know.
well there is tons of other crap that goes along with this story. but im ssure your tired of reading by now. i have a new lawyer who has an excellent reputation. i paid her an arm and a leg to do this custody and then after that the divorce. she told me after getting my hopes up that i dont stand a chance of getting custody even with the evidence i have.

she told me that my ex can be a lying adultress mudering prostitute and still retain custody of our daughter. this really isnt fair and i dont see how i could at least have a good chance.
i belive my ex doesnt have a leg to stand on and all she has is that our daughter has resided with her for the last 2 years. there was no custody papers at the time of my daughters visit on xmas and i found out that the court likes to play the posession is 9/10's of the law game, so i could have kept my daughter and not sent her home, but i didnt.
so i guess i just want to ask you, what do you think? do you think i have a leg to stand on in court?
 i'm trying to be fair although my ex is not. i don't want to stoop to her level and play dirty like she does, but i feel i might have to.

the court obviously sides with the mother 99% of the time. i always here that the courts are not fair to dads and it doesnt matter how many show of causes i do it wont persuade the judge into modifying custody.

thanks in advance.

#15
Dear Socrateaser / want custody of my daughter
Jul 12, 2006, 11:32:34 AM
sry
#16
Father's Issues / RE: Boy did I mess up...
Jul 12, 2006, 10:33:13 PM
pat on the back................... it kills me that my ex has convinced my daughter that her boyfriend is her daddy. lets pretend my name is mike... she calls me daddy mike. let alone that i rarely talk to her.