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It sounds like she is commiting welfare fraud. She has to disclose who is living in the home and all income. She is also collecting welfare for a child that doesn't live in her home. She can't do that.

You can anonymously report her to the fraud hotline. Do you have proof you have provided HER with the insurance information throughout the years? I ask, because if you can prove that you gave her the info, she can not go in saying she didn't have insurance info from you and it was necessary for her to go through the govt to get the child insured. Following me?

Will you have to pay it back? That's something the state's attornies will have to decide upon. If YOU bring it to their attention, I would suspect they won't ask for recovery from you- but that's a chance you take.

Point is, she took it upon herself to get medicaid for persons that are not eligible. How, is beyond me- usually they ask for school information to verify they are in school, etc. Besides the fact she is collecting for persons with an income.

Wow.

I would file for an emergency hearing as well. Reasons are that the mother is unable to provide a stable,safe home and will be soon entering a homeless shelter. That mom has proposed for you to take temporary custody with a specific date to return the children. Mom can't predict a date that she will be stable and it is in the children's best interests to be in a loving HOME, with family members while mom is in the shelter.

Status quo will be to keep the children with you and since mom will have shown instability by entering the homeless shelter when mom actually gets her sh$t together.

Has DH been current with child support? Just asking because you don't want her to use the 'well if dad was sending his support timely, consistantly, etc, we wouldn't be forced into a homeless shelter' card.

Good luck!

you have a sad little boy who is probably ashamed of himself that he lied to the judge and then couldn't look dad in the face. he sounds like he's definately been coached- and - he probably knows the evilness from the BMs side that he rather not piss them off and went along with everything they told him to say. Kids are impressionable and unfortunately, parents are sick sometimes.

Hopefully, your ss acted as down and depressed in front of the judge as he did in the courthouse and the judge was able to see right through the coaching.

My daughter had behaved the same way every court visit(she wasn't supposed to be there to begin with) when with her bm's evil side standing over her, she wouldn't look over(if she did- they'd get in her way, physically grab her face and bear hug, act as they were hugging her- to distract her), she was told to stay away from us and was not ALLOWED to give us hugs, etc. Eventually, it all came out. Not only did she have her like this at home, she also did it in the courtroom/courthouse- judge was told exactly what was going on- and when judge asked why- bm's reply?- "cus it's not his court ordered visitation time" Judge blew a gasket, told her she is his daughter ALL the time, and ordered that a visitation occur after court and for a few days following, while I was in town for a visitation!!!

If the same issues continue to rise, and you are repeatedly back in front of the judge, they will get tired of seeing you in there. If she's in the wrong all the time- with your proof, the judge will finally get enough and do something.  At least we can all hope!

Even though your payment has been taken from paycheck, the state/child support office may have not posted or credited to the account yet. The additional amounts are interests, I'm betting.  Get copies of the paystubs- or copies/statement from the employer where the money was taken out and directed to the correct office. I'd take it to the child support office and ask for a case history. IMHO, you should not be held liable for interest amounts for the time your payment was sent in and they posted.

If an IL judge signs an order pertaining to custody and visitation of a child, I believe they are assuming jurisdiction.

Once a Fl court were to hear the matter, if mom began contesting the jurisdiction, your daughter should have met all of the requirements of the UJCCA. Besides, the court of one state is supposed to uphold the orders of another state. If mom signed a stipulation of temp custody , then no matter what state it's filed in, it should be upheld by the other. What the judge is doing is making her paperwork legally binding by the courts. The MOST CONVENIENT forum to hear the case, would be where the child resides, and has environmental ties(school, church, friends, family, etc).

Do some internet researching. Look up uniform child custody act, look up jurisdiction, read cases. You will become familiar with the ins and outs.

I also agree- QUIT showing your hand to your opponent. It serves you NO purpose, except to lose your goal in the end.

Both parties will present 'their best offer' at that time. So have your parenting plans ready, your visitation schedule spelled out, etc and back up plans to the items you know the other party will not agree to. Then you will basically argue your points with the other parent and visa versa until you both come to an agreement/settlement.

Usually the attorneys will tell you what you should ask for during the settlement conference and what your chances of getting more than the other party is agreeing to at that time, IF it goes to trial. It's your option to move forward with your action or settle with the other parent. Once you settle and the attorneys and parents sign off on the settlement agreement, they will bring it before the judge to have it entered as ordered.

once the judge enters the document into an order, the court can assume jurisdiction- i believe- esp after the 6 month mark. I would send a letter nearing the end of the school year offering certain dates for visitation(occuring after the 6 month mark) for summer as 'reasonable'. Once you have custody and offer her dates, you are being reasonable. She will have to take you back to court to prove it was an unreasonable visitation. Following me?  She knows that the timing has worked in her favor before, she is playing that in her head. She will get your child to Florida and say that an IL judge had no right to order custody and keep her from you. Make sure IL can legally retain jurisdiction this time.

What a nightmare. At least you got it in writing and a judge willing to order it. Was there a stipulation as to when the temp custody would end?  You initialling beside her saying IL doesn't have jursidiction means you acknowledge her disagreement, not that you are agreeing to what she wants or says. The law is what matters.

Joint Motion To Order Stipulated Agreement

I believe that is what it is called... I'd have to go look up the post Soc answered for me, to be sure. It probably varies from court to court- but you could always call the courthouse, or go down in person and ask what form you would need to file similar to the one above.

Explain it to them and ask what they require to order such an agreement. Be prepared to spell out everything you wish to have ordered in the agreement.

Wow, dejavue...

1. Get a small tape recorder and record ALL conversations between him and the ex in person(he can wear it in his pocket) (make sure you are legally allowed to of course) //www.rdfp.org/taping Check out the laws on recording calls on the phone as well - Radio Shack sells in-line recorders and other equipment.

2. You can get copies of all YOUR inbound and outbound calls from your cell company. I believe even if it's blocked, it will show on the phone record. Block her number from your cell phone.

3. Smile and say nothing. They WANT your reaction so they can say that YOU are harrassing them by being at the drop off/pick up location. Their whole goal is to cause a hostile environment and if you bring it up in front of a judge, the judge will ask: So what business do you have in being at the P/u or D/o location? Is he not mature enough to do this himself? And specifically order you are NOT to be there since obviously your presence(and grandmas) is causing a scene.

4. Why is the grandmother a part of this situation (nobody allowed at d/o p/u) and why hasn't your boyfriend brought it before the courts? He needs to address that issue ASAP.

5. Have your boyfriend transcribe the tapes into a journal after every exchange. It will refresh your memory of everything that has happened and when it comes court time- your recollection of events will be sharp, with specific dates, times, persons involved, etc.

Joint Motion To Order Stipulated Agreement

I believe that is what it is called... I'd have to go look up the post Soc answered for me, to be sure. It probably varies from court to court- but you could always call the courthouse, or go down in person and ask what form you would need to file similar to the one above.

Explain it to them and ask what they require to order such an agreement. Be prepared to spell out everything you wish to have ordered in the agreement.