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Quit going there and arguing with them.  No one is forcing you to be here.

Good thing your son has you- a good stable person.  I cant imagine what is going on with his dad.  He needs to just not get married anymore.  Have you reduced his CS again?

From WI to TN we met 1/2 way for Spring Break and then we had to drive him to WI for Christmas and summer break and go and pick him up in WI too.  But we agreed to that since we were the ones moving.

A CP again for your son?  Good for you!  When did that happen?  Congrats!

To have his rights removed.  In our case we would not have done that if pb had changed her mind but the atty we spoke with said it would have been easy at that point since pb was not calling ds and we had the e-mails from her saying she wanted to give up her rights.  Otherwise I think it is a difficult process if there is any contact and if he pays CS, even occasionally.

Check with an atty and give them all the info.  Usually they will meet with you the first time for free.

Except since ds had lived with us for 8 years and since pb was a co-petitioner and voluntarily signed away her rights we did not have to do step 2.  The judge waived that for us.  Otherwise there also would have been a 6 month waiting period but he waived that too.

His birth mother came to us and asked us to allow her to terminate her rights and for me to adopt him b/c we got a child support order (for $45/week) and she did not believe she should have to help support him.

We live in TN and she lives in WI so we went to an atty here in TN since that is where ds lives (with us) and she sent the atty $700 of the $800 he wanted to do it and he mailed her the paperwork to terminate and she signed it and her part was done.  We went to court and everything went smoothly and quickly.

My ds is 12 now, was 11 at the time so we were concerned about his age and how he would feel because he did see/ speak with her fairly regularly but he is doing great and is actually better behaved now then before.  We were afraid of some outbursts, etc but he has done well with it.

He has lived with us since the divorce when he was 3 so it was like I was his mom anyway.  It is just official now!

You can e-mail me @ [email protected] if you would like.

She is a MOTHER who had her kids taken from her.  Better rating since it is not as common for a mom to lose custody as it is for a dad too.

That pb gave up her rights and let me adopt ds.  Because those were the types of calls we would get too, except dh was CP so her threats didn't mean too much to us b/c we knew we had the law on our side.

So thankful to not deal with this anymore and sorry you continue to have to go through this.  Although I dont think posting all this does anything to help the situation.

Legally.  In order to claim the EIC the child has to live with you at least 6 months out of the year.  Even if the CO states you can claim the child- that is only for the exemption.

So when we went to court and she asked for every other year we agreed knowing we would get the EIC.  She didn't know that so she thought she was getting a great deal and then got caught 2 years in a row.  It also caused a major pain for us b/c it flagged both parents taxes and then we had to prove he lived with us but they also made us prove our d lived w/ us (WE WERE MARRIED) so we had to get sworn statements from our neighbors.  It was a huge mess but we ended up with it since he lived with us.