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Have nothing to do with the child.  That poor girl must feel the love as she sits there and cries and you dont know what to do and your wife refuses to help.

I have helped raise my ss since he was 3 b/c unlike your daughter he does not have a loving mom to do so.

What is so hard about just sending her back?  It has only been 7 months, she still sees her mom.  I cannot figure out what the problem is.  She is going to get a lot more love and attention there.  Call her mom and talk to her.  If she hangs up call and leave a message.  Once she hears what it is about she will take your call.  If she doesn't then maybe you would need to reconsider sending your d back there.

You lack any amount of MATURITY.  Your 4 y/o is probably more mature then you are.  Excellent role model!

Suing someone for their child that I dont want.  You give fathers a bad name.  Give her back to someone who loves her and cares.

I was talking about YOUR DAUGHTER.  You know, the person you forgot about because you wanted to screw your ex over b/c YOU HAD SOMEONE NEW and wanted to move on.

If she is a better parent you never should have taken her to begin with.  You thought your wife would raise her and you would never have to deal w/ your d.   Now that you realize it isn't true you want to get rid of your d b/c you dont want the responsibility.

Jeez.  It isn't hard.  If she hangs up- send a letter.  I highly doubt if she knew you were offering to give her her d back she would react poorly.  You step up and explain your feelings and ask her if she is willing to work out some type of an agreement with you.  Increase her overnights to 4 a week and then to whatever you agree to after that.  If she is seeing d now it should not be hard on your d.  It is probably what she wants.

Not all CP fathers expect their wives to raise their children.  WHERE WERE you when you were married to your ex that you dont know how to soothe her?

My dh is CP dad.  HE does most of the raising of my ss.  I help him alot- but I want to do that.  He had ss w/ him before he ever met me.  Not every remarried man thinks like you do.  Some want to be a father.

According to your post your new wife is the reason you were rushing through the divorce.  You didn't have to take custody, you didn't have to fight for it.  YOU didn't want it.

Sounds like a bad relationship to begin with if you had never discussed the possibility of your d coming to live w/ you and her feelings and your expectationt to do nothing and have her raise your child.

I think both parents have one against the other.  After going to court he says NO to them going into Canada after the judge allowed it?  If a women did that she would be a PB.

None of us know what would have happened if he had signed the paper but we do know what happened b/c he refused to.

Dh and I have been through 3 courts battles with bm and one with his mother.  I know all about how hard it is.  Our first battle went similar to kittens now- w/ CPS always called (by her on us), lies, lies, lies, allegations, etc.  I am truly speaking from my heart in saying people need to grow up and work together.  People keep saying she wont do this or that but until he makes the first step to being an adult he is no better.  The games wont stop.  It is so easy to continue the cycle rather then stop and see what is best for everyone.

In a situation that the family goes on national TV you think the mom should have 'offered it up' w/ no proof or verification of the switch?

My dh's situation isn't even nasty and we still make bm send us an e-mail or sign a letter w/ any switches confirming it.

I am not talking about the rest of the situation (regarding the move).  I am talking about THIS situation where they are here claiming bm is evil b/c she would not make the switch when they are partly to blame.  My guess is if everyone owned up to their part in making this a bad situation it may get better.  It is apparent bm isn't going to and from the posts I have read here kitten doesn't feel they have done anything wrong.  It is always easier to blame the other person rather then look at what you have done to escalate the situation.

My opinion is that they should both grow up and do what is right for the child.  DO NOT come here and talk about how terrible the mom plays games when dad has done the same.  Mom was willing to make a switch.  To sign a piece of paper that the judge probably would not have even looked at would have meant time w/ his child.  He instead wanted to 'show her' and said not w/out consulting his atty so he did not see his child who then became upset.  Was it worth it?  What is more important- spending time w/ your child or one upping the other parent?