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STBX was about $600 behind due to accounting issues...he pays through the state as well.  He was aware of the problem for a while, but the state only notified him last fall.  At that point he corrected the issue.

We had filed for several years prior and never had problems with our return.

Just our case and the IRS and FL could do many different things.

I'd be proactive if it's a potential issue for you.

I'd probably at least try to have a consultation with one or two attornies to see what they have to say.

I don't know VA's laws, but you may have better success going the grandparents route especially since it's due to the loss of a parent (just my guess, nothing to substantiate that).

I believe she can probably have your SD adopted by her DH and have the name changed whether visitation is set up or not.

Have you done any online searches to check on VA statutes?

Sorry I can't be of more help.

Keep us posted please.

I believe you've done more than facilitate the relationship.  You've offered numerous options to him in the past to give him time with Z.

If it's about the relationship, then the phone call should not be an issue.

Offer him this...

Once regular twice weekly phone calls (by him and not you/Z) become part of the norm, you will be open to discussion of appropriate reduction of CS to increase time (but as you said, needs to go through the first x initially)

Regular increased time will occur for a minimum of x weeks upon which time reduction will go into effect...

Or some other such BS...Amy, he's so full of sh**

I'm sorry that you and Z are continuing to be hurt by him (I know you're hurt when Z gets hurt)

Hugs to you

But if you have, why not continue with each boy staying at home eow and the other boy going to NCP parent, then boys are together to see each other and each CP/NCP  gets both boys everyother weekend and a weekend without boys in between and then do something similar in the summer but use weeks on and off instead.

Does that make sense?  I'm not sure I follow my own logic now :)

And then for holidays do something to split them similarly...

My X and I have 50/50.  I make more than my son's dad.  I pay daycare and carry insurance and no CS changes hands because I pay those extra amounts.  All co-pays are split 50/50.  

Realistically, based on the numbers since I pay daycare and insurance, XH should pay be about $75 a month but we mediated our settlement and agreed to no $ exchanged.  And because it was such a small deviation from the guidelines, the court accepted it.

But if you make more, expect to either pay more of the expenses (healthcare, daycare) and/or also pay CS depending on the situation even with 50/50.