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Tell me it isn't so!

See this:

http://www.cnn.com/2004/US/Southwest/08/28/father.killed.ap/index.html

Says police had been called just prior due to "on-going" problems... I sure would like to know if PAS was involved here!!!!

ss.  DH has asked that I ask you all if you know of a program will will record everything, emails, chats, im's, etc.  His mother is MAJOR pas'ing and has set him up with his first girlfriend, and we read in a chat (ss copied and we read) that she drinks every weekend and "wants him to move there to drink with her"  He has told her in the im chats that HE NEVER drank a drop in his life, but "loves her" and wants to move closer to her... His mother is encouraging this relationship just to get him to move...she cares nothing about the dangers of drinking and driving (which she allows this 14 year old boy to do with this 16 year old girl!!!)  

HELP! WE are willing to pay anything if necessary...free would be great, but certainly not mandatory!  The sooner the better!!!!

How do I find out where they are?  I use readnotify.com and ss is supposed to be with his mother.  However, I send him an email today, and it is read in MY TOWN.  It is very possible she brought him here to spend time with a friend, and told him not to tell us.  I would like to NOT involve him and find out which friend, by checking the IP address.  

Thanks!- Nosonew

For some reason, when I pull up a topic, Fathers Rights for example, it is listing the top ones for the week, but with the one with the most responses first, then those with 1-2 responses at the bottom.  I have NO IDEA what I did! HELP!  Thanks...

I am continuing my education to get my Bachelors in Nursing, currently taking Comp II via computer class. SOOOO...am going to do my research paper on PAS.... I need some good articles and info to use.  I need a minimum of 8 different articles by 3 different sources, (books, magazines, etc).  I KNOW alot of you have sources...ahem...help please?  I start this in the next 3 days....(gulp)...

Our bm refuses to communicate with us per c.o. emails.  It is ordered for each parent to check emails every 72 hours and respond appropriately.  We send emails that go unanswered, then she swears she 1. Either didn't get it or 2. Hasn't checked her email.

This is what I want:

1.  I want to know if there is something I can use in my email that tells me WHEN she opens her email.  If she is aware of this, she will NOT open her email or click any forms that state she is to inform us she is opening her email.  Our email we use ONLY for her is a yahoo.com email.  If we need to change to something different, we will do it in a heartbeat!

HELP! Is there anything out there like this?

Where could I possibly look for this???

Thanks, nosonew...

A friend sent me this from ebay, too funny, I bet alot of you guys out there can relate!

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=41467563

Get your tissues out, you will be laughing til you cry!

Got a letter today, from case mgr.  Said needs this and that for cs calculations and to see kscourts.org for NEW cs guidelines!  A couple of things:

1.  NEVER MARRIED parents that support their kids over 50% get the tax deduction.  PERIOD.  Spelled out in black and white! (Her letter also stated this)

2.  AND...since she is ncp WITHOUT other children, the case mgr has to use a ONE child worksheet rather than 4 child! (Which the current cs is based on!).  That should increase the cs by close to 200/mo, which makes it much more in line with what we would like! Not to mention it will be a little "payback" for all her crap!

Halleluja!  Finally, some of the good guys win!!! (and a gal-moi!)

We recently became cp to ss late last year.  Mom got pissed, moved out of town, 2 hours away.  My husband (and I supporting him emotionally & financially) fought tooth and nail for years JUST to see ss even WITH a court order. We had her in court countless times for contempt (each resulted in a slap on her wrist with judge telling her not to do it again) and finally, 120 contempt charges that the judge COULD NOT ignore, and instead of throwing her sorry ass in jail, he RECUSED himself at the end of the day, which sent us to another judge, who wouldn't even hear the case, and sent us to a CASE MANAGER whom he wrote in his order (without seeing anyone) that she would be our judge/jury/executioner and he would go by anything she recommended.  

She was actually a Godsend, and we went to 50/50 and then eventually cp.  At that time, since ss wrote the case mgr asking to live with dad, the bm moved.  (To save face with family members as she requested, in front of us during a meeting that it be written that child is with father due to her move rather than per his request).  

So, after 10 years, 25,000 dollars, we finally have ss here with us.  Now for the problem:

1.  SS is 14, almost 15
2.  SS request at the time of the order to "make his own visitation".
3.  Due to bm moving, case mgr agreed that it may "interfere" with his school, sports, and social life at times and wrote in the order he could change his schedule "for important events and activities, both social and school/sports related". (BM told casemanager that if "her" weekend fell on Prom weekend, he would just have to miss it!  Because she was more important that prom, friends, school, sports, girlfriends, etc)
4.  My dh and bm were never married, didn't date.  My DH could be a poster child for WHY you use a condom on a one night stand.
5.  So, ss (who while living with her was denied seeing friends, going anywhere, having any social life) is loving having friends over, going places, and instead of having one part-time friend now has 5 really, good friends he hangs with.  (all good kids too)
6.  So, he deals with his mother on the phone regarding visitation.  DH and I DO NOT get involved.  
7.  Every Thurs. in Jan he has told us "I'm not going to my mom's because...." and he has told her that morning or night before that he is not coming. (Schedule says eow if nothing else going on)
8.  Dad has tried to encourage him to go.  To no avail.
9.  I just sit back and "smirk" because I honestly am loving this.


So my question is this:  Given his age, the order, the fact he talks to her about it, we don't get involved, should we push him more to see her?  

He says she only wants him there for company.  He does nothing but sit on Sony Playstation 24/7 while there.  He has no friends there.  She does not have friends, he can't socialize with anyone, as she is anti-social.  He hates going.  He is very verbal to us about his wishes, wants, and expectations.  He gets tired of being promised this and that, and it never materializes (like she promises they WILL have fun, go paintballing or something, but she NEVER follows thru).

What do we do?  Nothing?  Push him?  Sit back and enjoy our moment?
(I secretly like #3, but even after false accusations, etc., I feel bad for her, as she has no life, NO person in her life but him)  *She has not dated since before he was born btw.

**And yes, hubby was very drunk "that night".  Everyone of our 3 attorneys looked at her once and asked DH "I hope you were really, really drunk...." Get my drift?

Thanks.

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