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#11
Child Support Issues / Leslie
Oct 04, 2004, 05:29:00 PM
Anyone designated the ncp has to pay child support.  Given that the kids are with you half the time, likely it is a 51/49% split which gives  him physical custody...perhaps you can ask him if he would not make you pay, or at least lower the amount via the court?  If you do make an agreement, it MUST go through the court.  This is just a cya thing for the future.  

If you aren't able to get him to do this, I am sorry to say, you will be like 99% of the ncp's on this board who have to struggle to pay c.s. that is unfair.  Sorry this is happening to you, but on the upside, the 16 year old turns 18 in a couple of years, which should decrease the burden some....
#12
WOW, ours did decrease significantly with our children, from over 900 to 720, then with second child, decreased to 550...not enough I think, but alot better than others have gotten.  Do be careful regarding raises and increased income on your side since the last order, as well as decreased income on her side, that is what makes the difference I think...
#13
If the letter was dated Sunday...WTF?  I smell a fish....
#14
Since getting custody last year, we have had to rely on bm sending cs "on her own" until she supplied her financial info.  It was due in Feb.  She didn't supply it until threatened with loss of visitation. Then, it miraculously appeared.  Since she waited soooo long, they also took into account her income this year...which means she will pay 200.00 MORE per month than was previously ordered, and they made it retroactive due to her deceit about what her actual income was at the time of the initial temp order.  I don't know if they can even do this legally...but they are.  So, rather than 250/mo, she will be paying 450/mo...and on top of that 200/month for 10 months for arrears!  

Considering my dh paid an ungodly amt for 13 years, which allowed her to spend the money on rental properties rather than the child....I am loving this!
She had the nerve to ask dh if he would "for-go" child support as she couldn't "afford it".  His response: "Sell your other houses, all 5 of them, and then you can afford it!"  LOL!  

It is SOOOO nice to see her on "the other side" for once! Is it really mean of me to be enjoying it this much>?????
#15
In Kansas, age 18 or graduates from HS, whichever is latest.  

I am just guessing, but do arrears ever go away?  I think not.
#16
Child Support Issues / RE: beating child support?
May 02, 2004, 07:36:44 AM
I know most states still figure child support when 50/50. When we were ncp, we paid over the years from 500-1000/mo (changed frequently thanks to bm taking him back to court often), when it was 50/50 his cs obligation dropped to 150/month, now we are cp, we get 250/month from her. Or supposed to, she is 4 months behind currently (has paid 2 out of 6 months)
#17
Now that timely response is the government at its finest! But, all sarcasm aside, great going on your "guestimate" of c.s.  And since she cashed the checks, "marked child support (with dates of when they were for), it should be okay for you.  :)
#18
Well, I think it is admirable to inform him prior, however, a few thoughts.

As a mother who has a good working relationship with biodad, (ex), I talked to him on the phone and discussed incomes, and we both looked on the cs guideline worksheets online to decide appropriate amt of cs. Then I worked with him, lowering it slightly to help me out financially and him out financially.  So he is actually paying less than what the courts would say and more than he had been.

That being said, my son saw his dad as frequently as possible, and still does.  So, depending on your relationship, it may work to discuss all of this, and like I did, agree to something, and make it legal, by your attorney, thus you pay all of his fee for the legal paperwork (which I did).

Are you equipped mentally to handle him becoming involved in the childs life if that is what happens?  

Why do you think it would increase?  If your wife is now a SAHM, they may include YOUR income to base it off of. (or at the very least minimum wage at 40 hrs/week- or her last income base)  Research all the facts first. Is he making more money?  Is it enough to warrant this?

Think hard before you make a decision.  Best of luck.
#19
It depends on your state cs reg's.  I don't know about florida, but our cs was decreased after having 1st child together, and decreased more with second child, but not proportionate to what it should have been.  However, every little bit helps!  Ask an attorney in your area. Or Soc.
#20
Child Support Issues / RE: NEED HELP QUICKLY!!!
Mar 05, 2004, 02:13:04 PM
I think your proposal is very (more than) fair.  However, I would state that you would like copies of her grades- or at least proof of attending college, and she must carry at least full-time status in college for her to only work 23 hours per week.  I would put in there that if she stops going, or fails, it automatically goes to 40 hours per week, based on the higher wage. Good luck, keep us informed.