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What state holds the original order? More information will help us to help you. If TX is the originating state and your DH still lives there, then I don't think that she can change it. Can your husband make her move back with the children or can he motion the court to keep the children from leaving?

What are your contested issues?

Speaking as a former corrections health RN, the jail usually wants to avoid dealing with mega-expensive inmates. This could be a post-partum woman with complications from her C-section.  Is it fair? Does it make sense? No-except for a fiscally operational point of view.
Although we were used to having pregnant women get sentenced to a jail term that would include up to the moment of being hospitalized for birth. Then they would be magically released so that the taxpayer paid for delivery instead of the jail budget. This was always done to "keep the baby from doing drugs". Sigh.
I'm sorry that she was let go. I was cheering your family on!

Ask for attorney fees and court costs. She has no case based on what you have written. Of course, I am not an attorney, so my advice may be incorrect.

Bravo, Ozone. I'm sorry that you must deal with this. Their behavior is going to be upsetting to your child.

If you go back to court to modify the existing parenting time guidelines, you might as well cover the next 12 years in school or the control tactics will only get worse. Holidays, long weekends, school breaks, which district the child attends, etc. I see this as a long nightmare that you continually have to react to instead of pro-actively take care of your time.

It doesn't matter what you agreed, if a judge hasn't signed it, it's not in force. Either party has the ability to change their minds and negate the agreement, even though that sucks. This means that both parties either start over in mediation (better option) or go to court and let the judge decide (worst option). The judge may choose an option that neither parent likes, but they will have to live with the judge's decision for a long time.
BTDT, but not a lawyer. However, if you go to court, you can present the mediated copy to the judge as your preferred parenting plan. It might (maybe) hold more weight than what your ex will come up with.

When BD owed over 5 grand in back medical expenses, we negotiated for him to pay the full cost of braces and called the extra $200 he owed a wash. That worked out very well for us. We had to have the help of a mediator to do this; there was not agreeing to anything unless it was what he wanted. What he wanted was not always in DS's best interests.
Try mediation, if it's available. We just wrote this into a motion shifting custody to BD when DS was 14.

Tell you what, send dad here. I bet he will listen.

This is a twisted argument. Children do not have a choice in many matters. Do they choose to go to the doctor when they are sick? Do they choose not to go to school because they don't like it anymore? Do they choose to play violent computer games or have absolutely no limits on the internet?
No. They need parents and guidance. This is your job. You are masking yourself as a mom (and as step-mom you have a great deal of love and influence) and this is not fair to the BM. You could have them call you "mom" but in a different language so that it's a special name just between you. In America, mom is mom. You are not.