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I really do not know. It looks like what we call joint custody in my state you call shared? If that is right, then yes. Can you talk to your Ex?  I would first try to talk to her and see if you can both come up with a blanket statement to tell you daughter. E-mail her?
I will say that kids have weird views on things. Only you know your situation.
Are you going for custody now? Custody change is very hard to do without hard evidence especially out of state (away from school/friends).
Once BM knows you went to a therapist, she will take child to one by her that will document towards what the mother "sees" what is going on.
Good Luck!

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3) Yes, you can bring him to a child psycholgist (if you have joint custody). This will open a can or worms when child states you brought him to a "dr". How long is the visit with you? How old is the child?

4) If you think you have something that needs to be documented, I would really do it with a therapist but that is MY opinion only.....Divorce is hard on everybody in the beginning. If the child is young, just say "that is between mommy and daddy and we will take care of it, I will not put you in the middle". If the child is a little older, you can have more of a conversation without too much detail and never put down the other parent...just you two had differences and leave it like that.

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Hello,
1) I would just tell child (not sure of age) "divorce is between two adults (or mommy and daddy) and sometimes when you do not get along, people do not live together anymore but that does not mean that I do not love you"

2) Sometimes kids overhear things....it takes a lot of documentation and then some.....If the divorce is fairly new (still incourt) it will take some time for things to see die down. I know my kids had a lot of questions and really watched what I said to other people so may the child is overhearing your ex vent to other people or she is asking your ex a lot of questions. see #4

3) The child can been seen by a therapist but that will be hard to do since you are not in the same state and can bring child. Therapists are covered under most insurance plans.

4)Yes every state is different. Look up her state and see if it is a one person state (which then you are the one person) or two person state (then I would send her a certified letter stating that from now on, all phone conversation may be recorderd.

Good luck!

If drinking was a big issue before, then you really need to make a choice at this point. If I were you, I would start going to AA meetings and stop the drinking in order to see your child and get through the courts. I would volunteer to put in the court papers that you will not drink in front of your child. Then IF you can handle the drinking, you do what you want on your time as long as you are not getting in trouble, driving. or having visitation with your child. This is just my opinion. Good luck!

Hi,
Send her a certified letter of intent from this website and add in there that you spoke to the teacher and she stated that you could do it from your house. (I would allso call/write the school and see if they will put in writing that he does not have to go to summer school). I would overnight it to her. Does your court order state June 1st on it? (or you picked those weeks?) Good luck!

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Yes, she should give it to you. Have you tried to formally get it from her. I would mail her a certified letter stating the facts and ask her to respond to you by a certain date or you will take it to court. Will she "allow" them to go as long as you are paying? Is it just a money issue or she does not want them to go at all? Do either you or your wife have family coverage now that you can just add them to your plan? (it would be sooo much easier for you to deal with it and then she will not get the bills....I was able to cover my SD for no extra charge so she had two) Good luck!

DV=Domestic Violence...

I would stay away from the texts for a while. Maybe one certified letter stating that the facts (that you were told this baby was yours and that you would like to be involved in any dr appt's and the birth). Give you contact numbers and then wait until child is born. Get the info to get the paternity established so you are ready when you find out about the birth. Your local court can help you with this if you can not afford a lawyer. Most lawyers will give you a free consultation..maybe you can go talk to one to see where you stand in your state laws....Good luck!

Can you make a homework chart for your house from the teacher? You can make a simple one page sheet: Did he complete all homework? Yes or no ...then the teacher just circles it. You can then reward or punish from your house. Maybe the BM will help you if you say we need to do this together and if he does not do 5/5 days then no TV in either house (or whatever). . What does the teacher do when he does not hand it in? I have them do it at recess...is there consequences at school? I would try the reward system first. If he does all of his homework until the next time you see him them you will have extra time to __________(take him to the park...). Yes, BM should be more involved but if you can both talk it out and be on the same side the better! Can you call child every night and ask what his homework was? Good luck!

She can probably get at temporary one without you being there. Once she convinces a judge that she should have one, you will be served the Order and then another court date would be set for you to tell your side (by me, it was about 2 weeks after the temporary order). I did not deal with out of state so not sure about that....Good luck!