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#11
http://www.deltabravo.net/faq/visit_ans3.php

Good luck.  Don't give up.  Your son needs you.
#12
Visitation Issues / How did it go last night?
Jul 14, 2005, 05:54:30 AM
I don't have any additional advice.  You have gotten a lot of good advice.  I just feel horrible for those poor kids.

Congrats on your pregnancy.  Do what you can to reduce stress and take care of yourself.
#13
Visitation Issues / This is why we don't rotate
Jun 23, 2005, 07:05:42 PM
as NCP we really wanted the long holiday -- time-wise -- of Thanksgiving weekend.  We were willing to give up every Christmas and Christmas Eve to get that.  It is not as bad as it sounds.  We have our own traditions that take place on December 27 and New years.

The CP was willing to give up Thanksgiving and just celebrates the weekend before.   New Years wasn't a biggie for her.

My suggestion for your situation.

NCP gets the entire Thanksgiving break every year.

CP gets from when school dismisses until Dec 26th every year.

NCP gets from Dec 26th until the day before school resumes every year.

This makes the visits longer and worth the airfare.
#14
Visitation Issues / Our Schedule:
Jun 23, 2005, 06:58:41 PM
Dh is the NCP to a 10 year old boy who lives in another state about 4 hours drive.  We are kind of different, because we don't rotate.

Fall Break -- (2 days and a weekend) BM gets every year.

Thanksgiving -- Dh gets the entire break every year

Christmas /  New Years  -- Dh gets from the end of school until Dec 23 and from Dec 30 until the day before school resumes.

Spring Break -- Dh gets the entire break every year

Easter Break -- The entire school holiday rotates years.
#15
that issues about parenting time are to be worked out amongst the adults and that Dad and Mom will figure it out.  She doesn't need to worry about it.

Give her a hug and say that you are glad that she gets to spend the time with her, and then work on distracting her.

I am sorry that it is all so difficult.
#16
Enjoy the boys and your time with them.  As far as the cell phone comment and the mushroom comment -- hit ignore in your mind.  You cannot control bm and stepdad's behavior.  They are wierd, but all you can do is take the high road and love the boys.  Showing the boys that you don't get into the games will only benefit you in the end.  The boys will remember their silly control issues -- don't fall into the trap.

Have a great summer!
#17
Visitation Issues / Hope your dh was right
May 30, 2005, 04:53:06 PM
let us know how it turns out.

If she doesn't show. . .make sure he gets a receipt proving he was wherever they were suppose to meet.  One when he gets there. . .and one before he leaves.
He can use them in a contempt charge.

Have a good summer!
#18
Visitation Issues / RE: Summer Visitation
May 18, 2005, 04:35:05 PM
Hello -- we live 4 hours from my stepson.  He is here for 7 weeks in the summer.  It is broken up into 3 -- 2 week periods, and 1 one week period.

Here is the wording:

Unless it is mutually agreed upon in writing by both parties by May 10th   if K gets out of school with less than a week before Memorial Day weekend, K's summer schedule will be:

a)   K will spend one week with his Father beginning the Friday following Memorial Day.

b)   K will spend two weeks with his Father beginning the Friday before Father's Day.

c)   K will spend two weeks with his Father beginning the 2nd Friday in July.

d)   K will spend two weeks with his Father beginning the 5th Friday in July (or the 1st Friday in August if there is no 5th Friday in July).
#19
KS is very father friendly.   Where do you live?    We live in South Central Kansas,  I would be willing to help in anyway that I can.  

Finding the "significant change of circumstances" is the hardest part.  

#20
Give notification of the best  5 weeks in your schedule and then exercise the visitation.

No she can't deny the time.

Good luck.