Yes, I would try to force the visitation. But, I might go about it a little differently.
First, send a "Notice of Intent to Exercise Visitation Letter" that is available on this website. Send it certified mail so that you have proof of receipt.
Next, I would take a witness along with the video camera. . .but don't make it your current wife. A third party that is less closely involved will make a better witness. Plus, if bm thinks step mom is a "pill popping booze hound", that might make a tough situation worse. I hate saying that. . .as a step-mom I know how she wants to be there to support you. . .but I think you have to do what makes it easiest.
If she still refuses, file a contempt of court charge for EVERY violation of the court order. While in court, ask judge for make-up time, payment of your attorney fees and court costs. Plus, you might ask the judge for a remedy to make the pick-up and drop-off less emotional. Ask to pick up the children from school/daycare or to meet at the local police station or other public place.
Good luck. Others will give you better more specific adivice. But whatever you do NOT give up on your boys. As emotional damaging as a tense visitation exchange may feel at the time, it doesn't even come close to the damage that the kids will feel if you give up. Boys need their dads. They will feel abandoned if you let her keep you from them. Be consistent and be there for every available parenting opportunity -- plus as much more as possible.
First, send a "Notice of Intent to Exercise Visitation Letter" that is available on this website. Send it certified mail so that you have proof of receipt.
Next, I would take a witness along with the video camera. . .but don't make it your current wife. A third party that is less closely involved will make a better witness. Plus, if bm thinks step mom is a "pill popping booze hound", that might make a tough situation worse. I hate saying that. . .as a step-mom I know how she wants to be there to support you. . .but I think you have to do what makes it easiest.
If she still refuses, file a contempt of court charge for EVERY violation of the court order. While in court, ask judge for make-up time, payment of your attorney fees and court costs. Plus, you might ask the judge for a remedy to make the pick-up and drop-off less emotional. Ask to pick up the children from school/daycare or to meet at the local police station or other public place.
Good luck. Others will give you better more specific adivice. But whatever you do NOT give up on your boys. As emotional damaging as a tense visitation exchange may feel at the time, it doesn't even come close to the damage that the kids will feel if you give up. Boys need their dads. They will feel abandoned if you let her keep you from them. Be consistent and be there for every available parenting opportunity -- plus as much more as possible.