and his mom blamed the parenting time as well.
I think he needs to tell mom that he isn't going to be bullied out of his parenting time and that they need to work together to make it easier on the little girl. He needs to not give up. It is a stage and she will move through it.
Some things that they can do:
1. Mom can write down a typical daily schedule for the girl, favorite foods etc. This way he can not alter her routine that much.
2. He can duplicate some things in the little girls bedroom at both house ie bedding, stuffed animals, favorite toys. This will help her feel more secure.
3. He needs to figure out a way to have contact in between visits. Make a picture book of them doing things together for her to have at Mom's. Read her bed time stories on a tape and have mom play it. Call and talk just for a moment on the phone. Send packages and cards in the mail. We would send random little goodies -- free and cheap. But the act of getting mail helped.
4. Mom should be more encouraging with the parenting time. Even if she doesn't like it she needs to help her daughter adjust because he is not going to give up his parenting time. Both parents need to suck it up and interact positively during exchanges.
5. After he picks up his daughter, have him stop and have a coke and ger reacquainted. Start some routines and things they always say or do. These routines will help her adjust.
I think he needs to tell mom that he isn't going to be bullied out of his parenting time and that they need to work together to make it easier on the little girl. He needs to not give up. It is a stage and she will move through it.
Some things that they can do:
1. Mom can write down a typical daily schedule for the girl, favorite foods etc. This way he can not alter her routine that much.
2. He can duplicate some things in the little girls bedroom at both house ie bedding, stuffed animals, favorite toys. This will help her feel more secure.
3. He needs to figure out a way to have contact in between visits. Make a picture book of them doing things together for her to have at Mom's. Read her bed time stories on a tape and have mom play it. Call and talk just for a moment on the phone. Send packages and cards in the mail. We would send random little goodies -- free and cheap. But the act of getting mail helped.
4. Mom should be more encouraging with the parenting time. Even if she doesn't like it she needs to help her daughter adjust because he is not going to give up his parenting time. Both parents need to suck it up and interact positively during exchanges.
5. After he picks up his daughter, have him stop and have a coke and ger reacquainted. Start some routines and things they always say or do. These routines will help her adjust.