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#11
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>Personally I think each state should make the cp get the cs
>credit card and provide the ncp with the monthly statement
>which shows what the cs has been spent on (yea like that will
>every happen, but I think it would be a good idea, if I got cs
>on a regular basis, I would have no problem doing this and
>giving my ex the statement.



This would be a great idea! Prove that you actually spend that money on things that the child "needs"

You are not alone at all my dear. Last year bb took us back to court for more money because she could show "need" for more. We barley make ends meet and she hasn't worked a day in 15 years...how can you need money but not see the need to work? Hummm I'm confused about that one...we need money and guess what ? We both have jobs. Amazing concept isn't it?

Well we only have 9 months of cs left and the ex just bought a tanning bed. It might be her last major purchase on our money but I'm sure there will be a few more before Sept. gets here.

It's so wrong that the kids do without so she can drive a new car..I hope the kids actually see what you and their dad do for them. Many times in situations like yoursthe ex works hard at trying to make herself look like the great parent even though she's doing nothing to help the kids.

There are some great ex's out there too bad we didn't get one.


#12
Urrrgggghhh. Yep another ploy to keep getting money from the "husband" and I'm sure there is no way out of it. I would make sure the ex has to pay the other half and you only pay half of what the tuition is after scholorship money other wise your just paying more tword her half.

I'm glad my sd is lame and her mom pulled her from school. She won't even graduate high school let alone further her education. But dh's divorce says he only pays until graduation or 18 which ever comes last. And that my dear is only 9 months away! YEAH!
#13

First of all when we give money to a woman who has not lifted a finger to work in over 15 years yes it is FREE money. We don't spend the amount she gets for a month for one child  on the five that live with us every day. It's just plain silly. Then she takes us back to court because she has shown a "need" for more money? Has this woman ever tired to support her child like my husband does? By going to work every day? No. I can see being a stay at home mom when your children are young but when their old enough you can get a job and work but you just refuse to. That is plain lazy and wrong. ECT ETC ETC.


And when I say Hag I mean the mother of this child who really does not care at all about her. The girl was pulled out of school at 16 because she was failing all her classes but Art and she had sex with every boy who would have her and would walk down the hall and kids would call her horrible names. I say it is the moms fault. She was the one letting her go to parties when she was just 12, letting her have boy girl parties at her house on New Years Eve when the kid had just gotten a report card with four F's.

The child decided long ago that she didn't like our house because it came with rules and she hates rules of any sort. Ask the teachers who wrote her up for giving them the finger from the bus window or the teacher who told us he only passed her with a "D" because she was out of control and didn't ever listen to him and he didn't want her back in his class to make it up again the next year.

So yes my dh does know how I feel about his daughter. Every step child is not abused and mis treated. There are many who play games with their parents to get their own ways and who kick anyone in the teeth who gets in the path of what they want. This child is one of them. Dh is embarrassed of how this child is and every time someone offers some other little bit to us about her he cringes and knows just why he hates his ex. He loves this child but can't do a darn thing to make anything better for her if the ex won't help. The ex has told her ever since dh and I met that if he loves me and our kids then he doesn't love her. What a screwed up bunch of crap! This woman truly is warped. He loves all his children. Does she tell step daughter that she loves her less because she re-married and had another child? Oh I guess not this is the same woman who told us that sd is a half sister to our kids but a whole sister to her other child because they live in the same house. Yeah...that's right if you live with a sibling their a whole sibling and if you don't then your just a half sibling. I can't even imagine what she uses for a brain.

I too am a step child. My dad remarried and I never even thought of treating my step mom the way I have been treated. First of all it would have never been tolerated by my mom or my dad.  I lived on both sides of the fence and can say that I tired for 5 years to deal with this child and love her and she was bad! There was no making her mind for four days a month when her skank mom wouldn't lift a lazy finger to lay down the law. One day when she is older and matures a little she might look back know she was wrong. I just hope she lives long enough for that to happen. Right now at 17 she stays out all night,runs with a bad crowed and is just out of control. Her mom is too dim witted to even try to save her daughter and we don't have the finances to try to fight the system and get this child where she will be safe.

I don't mean to sound harsh but if you have never walked a mile in my shoes don't judge. I know just what Kat is talking about and what she has gone through. We tried and tried and finally gave up and are just waiting it out now and soon the long awaited day will come and we will be out of their lives just like they wanted in the first place. Money and all.
#14
I feel so bad that you have to move to get away from this woman but I know some people have to do that. My brother moved from Oklahoma to Colorado to get away from his leeching ex.

We won't move because my family is all here but  I wish that the skank would just get the heck out of here. Her entire family lives about 20 min. away in another town all on the very same road and I always thought she would build herself a nice new house there and get the heck out of our lives but so far she is staying put and the worst part is her child with her new dh is in the same grade at the same school as our youngest dd so even when we're done with cs and done with the hag personally then we will still have to see her at all the school functions.Maybe we will get luckey and she'll decide to homeschool him like she has sd the last two years...he is just as bad of a kid and I'm sure he hates school but he likes sports. I guess if he doesn't make the football team we'll all get luckey. That is when sd started acting like a hoe,when she didn't make the cheerleading squad in high school and didn't know what to do when her money and mommy couldn't get her everything she wanted.
#15
to fall back on when we are done handing out free cash. The ex's grandma gives her 10 grand a year to live on so she will just up it another few thousand so the skank won't have to live "without".  I saw her at the school the other day and one thing this woman is not living without is FOOD...she is huge and our 10 year old said "Great I hope she's not having another baby!" To which our 13 year old said "Who really cares as long as we don't have to pay for it" :)
#16
We only have ten months and 25 days left to pay the ex for doing absolutley nothing with dh's oldest dd. Dh and I met when sd was 4 so this has been a long time coming and I get so excited every time another month passes and we're just that much closer to ending her free ride on the child support express!

#17
Dh's uncle just gave us a bunch of old pictures from dh's grandpas house (grandpa died five years ago and he finally gave us family pictures but not what we wanted) and in one of the picture frames,behind another picture was a wedding picture of dh and the ex! I about died! She even looked like a crow when she was 19! Bleach blond hair with roots on her wedding day!

So I'll save the picture for another year and I can bring along our bows (we all shoot archery) and give you a few lessons. Believe me I'd love to plant an arrow between that womans eyes! Oops....did I say that out loud? :)

I know what you mean about financial hell. We paid all our bills this week and have $135 left and thats for food,gas and the kids school pictures that are next week. All while she chooses not to work and most likley spends a lot of time in her new "tanning bed". I think thats what really amazes me about this whole thing. Here we are trying and her she is living off us! When we are done with cs we will use that money to pay off our truck faster and then we will have over $700 a month extra cash! Guess that will pay a few rounds of drinks.

I know I'd love a little botox and Lord knows I need it.
#18
We have 351 more days until were done....so lets start planning our "We'll have money party" Hey we'll need it too. Yeah for US!!
#19
You might as well just bang your head against the wall. She will never understand and you will never make her. Sorry but I've learned this by experience.
#20
Her son (from her second marriage) was talking on the bus yesterday that his mom bought a tanning bed for their house. :o I know she was always pale as can be and latley she has been pretty tan but she won't go out in public much because she's gotten fat since she quit smoking. So now she can tan at home. I'm sure she's fretting when the cs ends in 11 more months. I'm wondering how she will afford to lease her car the next time since she gets a new one every two years and she won't have cs to pay for the next one.